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We picked a tombstone.

Gizu92708Gizu92708 member
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That's was nooooo fun at all. I hate my life right now. My brother said he wanted to pay for it since we were a little tight after Christmas and we paid for the burial. He wanted to feel like he'd done something. Dh and I picked what we wanted it to say and picked the tombstone. My baby was supposed to pick mine the day I died. Not the other way around.
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  • HeatherhahHeatherhah member
    I'm so so sorry that had to be so hard HUGS to you!!!
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  • foxxy1foxxy1 member

    I'm so so sorry. DH and I have yet to pick out Ethan's headstone. It's just too hard for us right now.

    *big hugs to you and DH*

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  • roxyttandmeroxyttandme member

    That is SO tough! I am just so sorry, hun!!!

     

    (((hugs))) 

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  • Auki13Auki13 member
    I am so sorry.  The whole situation is unfair.  (((HUGS)))
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    ((hugs))  Picking a tombstone is awful.  Nothing seemed to fit my girl, I hated them all.  That is very nice of your brother to pay though.

    This is how I felt about picking out urns for Adam. 

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    Big (((HUGS))).  You're right...no mother should ever have to choose her child's tombstone.
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    imagehewinked:

    imageClaireFraser1:
    ((hugs))  Picking a tombstone is awful.  Nothing seemed to fit my girl, I hated them all.  That is very nice of your brother to pay though.

    This is how I felt about picking out urns for Adam. 

    I also felt like this when we were choosing an urn for Eliott.

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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member
    Picking out Nathaniel's urn was AWFUL. We went straight from the hospital to the funeral home. That day was just as hard as the day he died. I was a wreck.

    What a lovely way for your brother to honor your son. He must be a very wonderful person.
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  • drvst8drvst8 member
    We've been putting off picking one out. Its winter now so they won't set it now anyway....so there is no rush. I feel bad that we haven't picked one yet. But  I know he understands.
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  • johnnys junejohnnys june member
    imagehewinked:

    imageClaireFraser1:
    ((hugs))  Picking a tombstone is awful.  Nothing seemed to fit my girl, I hated them all.  That is very nice of your brother to pay though.

    This is how I felt about picking out urns for Adam. 

    I felt this way too.  We waited nearly 9 months before finally cracking down and getting one.  I couldn't imagine Logan having his 1st birthday without a tombstone, so I sucked it up.  It actually ended up be really nice and I felt a little more at peace having it set up.

    *hugs*  No parent should ever have to do this. 

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