Hoping you ladies can help with a potty training question!

sunnydays99

I posted on the 24+ month board as well, just looking for some more advice!

We started PTing DS on New Years Day.  By day 3 he had peeing down and is doing great with that and has only had a few accidents since then.

Pooping on the other hand....  He'll say poop and we'll run to the potty but he's either already pooped (with no sign that he was doing so) or will sit on the potty for 2 seconds then say all done - then poop in his underwear a few minutes later!

When he does have a poop accident he says "oh no, poop in underwear" and he's always saying "poop in potty" when we ask him where it should go.  So, I don't think it's that he doesn't understand what is expected and it's not that he refuses to try or hides from us or anything...

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!!

KatFCo

Pooping is harder for kids to accept than peeing; my daughter ended up in tears one day because she really needed to poop but wasn't comfortable doing it on the toilet and knew she shouldn't do it in her underwear.

When he says he needs to, or when you think he might need to, have him sit on the potty and play with a toy, read a book, even watch TV--anything that will keep him on there until he goes.

kmhunt11

I pp's suggestion doesn't work, he's just not ready.  Try again in a month.  Kids are rarely potty trained all at once.  It's a gradual process, sometimes with lots of setbacks and bumps in the road.  I know it's hard, but if he's not catching on to the pooping, you'll just have to be patient.  

Cytina

I agree, he may not be ready.  Just keep encouraging.  When he poops in his underwear, if it's solid enough to do so, have him watch you dump it in the toilet and say "bye bye" when you flush it.  Make him think it's fun to go poop on the potty.  If you're comfortable enough, have him watch you or YH go poop on the potty.  If he's really liking the big boy underwear with fave characters, tell him when he poops in his underwear you have to throw them away - not in a mean way but in a sad way.  It does take more time than pee training for sure, but once it clicks it will click in a big way!  My 3 yo still has pee accidents almost everyday, but he hasn't pooped in his underwear in over 6 months!

rsd12

You could try a reward system. I have been potty training my third son this week.. it bites.. but he is doing really well ; ) Love seeing the light at the end of the tunnel now.  We do 1 m&m after pee, and 2-3 m&m's or a dum dum after poop. But he also has been watching his brothers use the potty. My middle son would do anything for m&m's too.

But with my oldest rewards did not work, you just need patience & time. 

babyAutumn

Cytina:

  When he poops in his underwear, if it's solid enough to do so, have him watch you dump it in the toilet and say "bye bye" when you flush it.  

We did this religiously.  We also would sit with him and read stories.  It got to a point that he couldn't poop unless he was reading a book.  It took longer to train for BM but he will eventually get the hang of it. 

Mrs.Saxy

DS was pee potty trained last January. He was poop potty trained last April/May.  Yes, it took a VERY long time. He would go in his underwear so we started giving him a diaper. He started asking for a diaper. We got lazy and let it happen.  Finally we said enough is enough and started giving candy (dum dums) for poops on the potty.  It probably took a month until he was totally accident free.

 

edit:  we also bought the Everyone Poops book and read that to him on the potty.  I have that damn thing memorized. If he pooped in his underwear we also made him look at it (he hated that.)