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Nursery drama-

fyrefairiefyrefairie member
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So this whole pregnancy DH has insisted that he wants to build LOs dresser (he's very good with woodcrafting/building, not so good with time management)...our crib is one his dad built when our niece was on her way and we are using it.  I told him no problem on building the dresser, just get it done.

Well...it never got done.  DH finally came around a few weeks ago and relented that we should just buy one (with a complicated explanation of he just realized he should wait unitl LO is older so she can help decide what she wants in a dresser, rather than just admitting he had run out of time-either way no problem so long as we get a dresser I don't really care)

SO, we went looking fro dressers the other weekend.  DH has some misguided ideas about what these things do/should cost  and felt everywhere we went was a rip off.  We found a nice white and light oak (all the other furniture in nursery is light oak or white) 6 drawer dresser for $170-he thought that was too much and wanted to shop around.  I've learned that he learns best the hard way (i.e. not listening to me) and figured he could shop around and discover for himself that this is a reasonable price.  He said now knowing what I wanted he would keep looking (his work schedule allows him time during the weekdays while I'm at work for this..)

I said fine no problem, just make sure its 6 drawers and matches the light oak.

I come home yesterday and tehre is a four drawer dark wood dresser in our nursery that I am sure won him over because ti cost next to nothing.  We are not destitute, we are in our 30s with good jobs and can afford to buy LO something that matches the rest of her room (especially to the tune of $170)...

I don't want to offend his male ego and I really don't have the energy to argue with him at this stage of things but i HATE this dresser...the nursery looks ridiciulous now and he compeltely rejected anything I said. I want to beleive he's just a clueless guy who doesn't get the whole "matching" concept but he compeltely ignored any of my wishes and didn't even consult me first.  I do think he was intending to "surprise' me by having the dresser there when I got home...and he did, just not pleassantly.

Part of me wants to just go buy a dresser that matches, part of me just wants to cry.  Normally I'd be much more up for addressing this but I'm tired, uncomfrotable hormonal and just dreading having to have this conversation with him.

 

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  • megaloo27megaloo27
    Could you paint it white? It would still only have four drawers, but maybe it would work?  Or could you use this one in a different part of the house to spare his ego?  Just some ideas, but in the end, if you really hate it, you got to tell him. 
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    I would make his @$$ take it back. He "knew" what you wanted and either didn't listen or didn't care. Not ok in my book. $170 for a dresser is a steal... So, tell him to take that one back and go buy the other one. Pronto :)

    And this isn't hormones talking. This is just annoyance for the blatant disregard! 

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    imagemegaloo27:
    Could you paint it white? It would still only have four drawers, but maybe it would work?  Or could you use this one in a different part of the house to spare his ego?  Just some ideas, but in the end, if you really hate it, you got to tell him. 

    Its not the quality of wood that you can strip/paint I am happy putting it in the guest room.

     

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    imageSoonToBeMsP:

    I would make his @$$ take it back. He "knew" what you wanted and either didn't listen or didn't care. Not ok in my book. $170 for a dresser is a steal... So, tell him to take that one back and go buy the other one. Pronto :)

    And this isn't hormones talking. This is just annoyance for the blatant disregard! 

    He assembled it and threw out the box so i don't think it can go back but it will be moving to the guest room.  I know I have to talk to him I was just SO tired last night and then scrambling to get ready for work this morning...I think its best i had a day to calm down before discussing it anyway.

    Yeah- he totally dsiregarded what I wanted and I believe maybe he thought there was some good reason to get this dresser but he is oficially banned from purchasing any furniture without me present henceforward

     

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