It's Friday! FFFC time.

RClaffee

I have a killer migraine and after I take the girls to go get their shots, I fully intend on letting them watch Wall-E while I rest on the couch. 

gymnst1013

I'm really getting tired of being used as a human pacifier.  And I feel HORRIBLY guilty for feeling this way.  I love, love, love BFing - more than I ever thought possible.  It's just when Nikolai refuses to sleep without my nipple in his mouth that really gets to me and more so at 3 in the morning than during the day.

I also feel like my job is starting to really interfere with taking care of N and vice versa.  It is so stressful these days.  I am on the verge of tears almost all the time and getting more and more short tempered.  I know our sleep issues are a part of it.  I'm unhappy, N is unhappy and it's just all around not good.  I think getting a sitter for during the day would help with my stress levels but I can't find the time to look for one.

thatgirl84

I read a new SOAM post, and it had a picture of a miscarried 9 week old fetus. You had to click to see it, so it wasn't as if I was forced to look at it. I mentioned it to my DH who got soooo upset. I said if it made her feel better, then why not show it? He was so adamant that a dead fetus or stillborn baby should never ever be shown to anyone other than those who lost that baby, and even photos for just the mom & dad were a bit of a stretch. I disagree. Whatever helps someone through the grieving process is fine IMO. He thought the duggar's pics were horrible. BUT he told me about an experience, and I know why he got so heated over this. His mother supposedly miscarried his sister's twin (about the same age - 9 weeks - didn't even know it worked this way?) and showed him the fetus, and had him bury it in a box in the backyard. He was around 17 at the time. I love him, but it makes me think no wonder he is so messed up in some ways. I also really judge his mother for this. That is awful. Very awful. My DH and his first girlfriend were pregnant, and she miscarried not long after this incident, so I could see how that would make it that much more traumatizing. We also had a similar incident, and had I known about this I may have brought it up differently (long story). My FFFC is that I judge her so harshly after hearing all of these horrific stories over the years, and her poor judgment recently that she won't apologize for. There is absolutely no way she will see our LO until she actually realizes that online stalking and exposing an infant to cigarette smoke is NOT ok by any means. I try not to judge other parents, but this is just too much.

klv

I never got a baby book for Hannah. I remember reading my baby book over and over as a kid, and Hannah will never do that. I suck.

amberpro

klv:

I never got a baby book for Hannah. I remember reading my baby book over and over as a kid, and Hannah will never do that. I suck.

It's not too late.  I just recently started one for C.  I had been jotting stuff down in a calendar, so I just transferred the info and added pictures.   

PurdueMama14

thatgirl84:

I read a new SOAM post, and it had a picture of a miscarried 9 week old fetus. You had to click to see it, so it wasn't as if I was forced to look at it. I mentioned it to my DH who got soooo upset. I said if it made her feel better, then why not show it? He was so adamant that a dead fetus or stillborn baby should never ever be shown to anyone other than those who lost that baby, and even photos for just the mom & dad were a bit of a stretch. I disagree. Whatever helps someone through the grieving process is fine IMO. He thought the duggar's pics were horrible. BUT he told me about an experience, and I know why he got so heated over this. His mother supposedly miscarried his sister's twin (about the same age - 9 weeks - didn't even know it worked this way?) and showed him the fetus, and had him bury it in a box in the backyard. He was around 17 at the time. I love him, but it makes me think no wonder he is so messed up in some ways. I also really judge his mother for this. That is awful. Very awful. My DH and his first girlfriend were pregnant, and she miscarried not long after this incident, so I could see how that would make it that much more traumatizing. We also had a similar incident, and had I known about this I may have brought it up differently (long story). My FFFC is that I judge her so harshly after hearing all of these horrific stories over the years, and her poor judgment recently that she won't apologize for. There is absolutely no way she will see our LO until she actually realizes that online stalking and exposing an infant to cigarette smoke is NOT ok by any means. I try not to judge other parents, but this is just too much.

That is crazy. So she miscarried one twin at home? And kept the fetus?

amberpro

DH and I are going to a Pat Green concert tonight at a country bar for a friend's birthday.  C is spending the night at my parents'.  I feel a little bad since he's sick, but he was feeling better this morning.  Also, he stays with my parents while I work, so it's not like they're strangers.  He's very attached to them.  But I still feel a little guilty since when babies are sick, they want their mama.

However, since I'm going out, I might as well drink plenty of beer  

sunshine336

hruhlman:

janbc06:

I have a friend who is ALWAYS talking about herself. I honestly can't get in a word and if I do it's mostly ignored. All she talks about is  her sickness (mostly migraines). I've always been there for her but after years and years of hearing the same ole thing it gets a little old. I would just like to have a normal convo with her. Anyway, sometimes when she leaves me a msg on fb asking me to call her i purposely wait until i'm driving and know i'm going to lose signal soon so I  dont have to talk more than ten minutes.

I'm a horrible person, but I totally do this with my mom. Or call 10 minutes before we have to leave for somewhere or are about to get home from somewhere, that way I have a built in excuse to go. I love my mom, but she is a talker, and I'm lucky if I spend only an hour on the phone with her on a given day. 

I have to do this with a certain friend of mine.  She will talk forever, and about people I don't know.  We used to work together and b!tched about coworkers, the company, etc- fun.  Then she moved and was transferred to another store, and started b!tching about coworkers I've never met.  And now I haven't worked for almost a year and a half but I still have to listen to more than a healthy dose of the complaining.  I still love this friend dearly, but if I'm not going into the conversation with an exit strategy, I'll get sucked into the black hole of workplace complaining. 

sunshine336

My confession- we moved in over a month ago (granted we left for 3 weeks) but I've had 5-6 days before we left and almost 2 weeks since we've been back and Maya's room is still not unpacked.  In fact, I just unpacked her clothes from our trip yesterday.

And if it wasn't for DH  unpacking and hanging pictures in the kitchen/ living room, the whole house would probably look like M's room.  I keep telling myself to get in there and get her room organized while she's in a good mood and playing by herself on the floor- which she is right now.  And what am I doing?  I am bumping, on pinterest, and watching DVR'd episodes of One Born Every Minute and Project Runway Allstars.  And eating pizza... 

62406

Mare0527:

Molly&:

After I post photos of MK on facebook, I usually waste the next hour or two just looking at them and watching all of the likes and comments come in.  It's a major timesuck but I love it.

Haha I do this too.  I will spend all day checking back to see who said what about my cutie.

I do the same thing, it's makes me feel like I didn't waste my time posting and writing descriptions on each one if people comment on them.

62406

kimeve:

I have one today!

I had birth announcements and never sent them out I wanted to have them out by two months old, then that passed and I was SO embarrassed. Well I saw on Pinterest where if you send a birth announcement to the White House they send a letter back. Since I have birth announcements still I sent one off this week!

Anything for a baby book momento

I am totally going to do this.  We ordered 50 announcements and have about 15 left over.  Such a good idea!

Birdies08

sunset+skies:

Second is that, once I got over the shock of "oh my god, I might have lupus", I'm actually happy, in a way, that my bloodwork came back supporting an auto-immune disorder. I feel bad that I'm glad I'm actually sick, but I'm 99% sure DH thought I was faking it to get sympathy, excuse my napping, and get out of doing housework. Now that he knows that there's something really wrong, I'm getting the help I've been begging for around the house, and he's stopped making mean, underhanded comments about how much I sleep and how little I accomplish each day.

Ok, here's a really flameable confession: I am jealous you have lupus. Like I said before, I have fibromyalgia, and I just feel like people don't take it seriously/understand it/believe in it. Luckily my close family and friends have been incredibly supportive, but at the time I was finding out my diagnosis, it was difficult. I lost friends who didn't understand that I wasn't blowing them off, that I was too sick to go out all the time. I went on disability leave from my job and felt very judged by my boss and coworkers- IDK, it could have just been that my illness caused them additional stress at work, but I never felt I got sympathy from them. 

I'm pretty much over it now, but at the time I very strongly wished I had gotten a diagnosis more people would have understood and respected. I mean, even now I am unable to work FT, and if I had one of a number of illnesses with the same symptoms but different causes, I would qualify for supplemental disability pay. In my case, I'd have to fight for it. It's just so hard to prove, I would feel shady applying for it. There isn't a test to see how bad it is, I'd just have to *** to my doctor, and that would make me feel weak.

I really am sorry you're dealing with this. It must be so difficult with a baby and all, so please don't think I'm not empathetic to your situation. I'm just weirdly, flameably, jealous. 

62406

I don't know how flameworthy this is, but I saw a few other food confessions.

I was playing Angry Birds (stupid game) until 11:30 last night and realized I hadn't eaten dinner so I had a bowl (huge) of Cocoa Krispies (after having already brushed my teeth), enhaled the bowl and went straight to bed...without brushing my teeth again.

bunnymama625

A while back, DH told me a story about his mom that was BAD-- nearly borderline criminal- its part of the reason I really don't want her alone with any boy kids we may have one day.

The other day he said something about her (I forget what) and I mentioned it. He got upset, said he never told me any such thing, and he had no idea what I was talking about and changed the subject.

My confession: every time he pisses me off about her I kind of want to bring that story up.

sunset+skies

Birdies08:

I really am sorry you're dealing with this. It must be so difficult with a baby and all, so please don't think I'm not empathetic to your situation. I'm just weirdly, flameably, jealous. 

I totally get it. My aunt has fibro, and has expressed similar sentiments. I know several other people with it, and I see how much BS they get put through because people don`t think it`s a real disease.

thatgirl84

PurdueMama14:

thatgirl84:

His mother supposedly miscarried his sister's twin (about the same age - 9 weeks - didn't even know it worked this way?) and showed him the fetus, and had him bury it in a box in the backyard. He was around 17 at the time.

That is crazy. So she miscarried one twin at home? And kept the fetus?

Yes, and had her teenage son bury it. But I really don't know if it's possible. I would think one fetus coming out and not compromising the other would be far-fetched. That early on I would've figured that the woman's body would absorb it....???? I'm no expert, 'though.

Birdies08

sunset+skies:

Birdies08:

I really am sorry you're dealing with this. It must be so difficult with a baby and all, so please don't think I'm not empathetic to your situation. I'm just weirdly, flameably, jealous. 

I totally get it. My aunt has fibro, and has expressed similar sentiments. I know several other people with it, and I see how much BS they get put through because people don`t think it`s a real disease.

I'm glad you get it, because I really didn't want to be hurtful or offensive to you. It's just that I often feel that I don't have a "real" illness, and that sucks. But, you know what? Being sick sucks anyway.

I hope you're able to get a good plan in place and feel as better as possible, and soon! 

hepcats

My my there are some fun ones today! My FFFC is that I absolutely LOATHE washing my hands. I do it enough times so that I'm not spreading disease and pestilence, but I feel like the over hand washing of America is why there are so many people that get sick so easily. I am sooooooo not a germaphobe and do not plan on teaching Martin how to keep everything sterile. Sterility did not get me to be the healthiest person I know - moderate exposure to germs did.

sunset+skies

hepcats:

My my there are some fun ones today! My FFFC is that I absolutely LOATHE washing my hands. I do it enough times so that I'm not spreading disease and pestilence, but I feel like the over hand washing of America is why there are so many people that get sick so easily. I am sooooooo not a germaphobe and do not plan on teaching Martin how to keep everything sterile. Sterility did not get me to be the healthiest person I know - moderate exposure to germs did.

I am the same way. There have been studies that prove that over-cleaning/sterilizing has created more resistant bacteria, and caused our immune system to under-develop. 

I literally ate dirt as a kid, and if D does the same... so be it.

Melissa2216

I know it's late, but here goes...

FFFC #1:  I ordered a "Like Book" for DH for his bday on Sunday (after hepcats mentioned it).  I wasn't 100% sure I was going to give it to him, since I don't know if we will stick with it (you are supposed to write down one thing you like about your SO every day for a year).  

Well, I ordered it from Amazon, only it didn't arrive in their normal brown box.  It came in a white box with the words "The Like Book" in the return address section.  And DH saw it, and asked what it was.  I responded vaguely with something like "don't worry about it" but I'm sure he figured out that it was something for him.  

Now I'm stuck giving him this book.  My FFFC is that I really don't know if I can come up with that many things I like about him.  I'm also struggling to decide what to write for the first entry, and I wish I didn't have to give this to him at all...but I wouldn't be surprised if he already googled "the like book" and found out what it is.

FFFC#2:  Last week's abortion AE post (which wasn't me, btw) got me thinking...creating an AE doesn't sound like a bad idea.  There are times that I have a FFFC, but don't feel comfortable posting publicly.  Not so much b/c of you ladies, but more b/c I'm afraid someone IRL will stumble upon my not-so-anonymous Bump SN.