Things you wish you were told..

kerrbear72

...about becoming a mother?

 

kerrbear72

I wish someone told me that I wouldn't magically become the most patient person on the face of the earth.

Granted, I am a lot more patient with D than I am with the rest of things in my life but not nearly as much as I thought I would be. I had visions of being the most amazingly patient mother ever.

 

kelly321

kerrbear72:

I wish someone told me that I wouldn't magically become the most patient person on the face of the earth.

Granted, I am a lot more patient with D than I am with the rest of things in my life but not nearly as much as I thought I would be. I had visions of being the most amazingly patient mother ever.

Haha. See, DH is more patient than me in most things, and I figured that would be the same with children, too. But no, motherhood actually did turn me into one of the most patient people ever, at least with DD, but DH loses patience with her very quickly, and in the night he's a bear.

I wish someone had told me that when the nanny first came it would break my heart and I would freak out, but that after only a few weeks I would be wishing she came more often. Then I could have hired her for more hours.

KMHC79

kerrbear72:

I wish someone told me that I wouldn't magically become the most patient person on the face of the earth.

Granted, I am a lot more patient with D than I am with the rest of things in my life but not nearly as much as I thought I would be. I had visions of being the most amazingly patient mother ever.

This!  And that I would always love my child, but I wouldn't always like him.

Athena0809

...That the initial stage of newborn-hood would break my spirit, that I would feel like I was being tortured, and that it would have been OK to bedshare since day one instead of doing the dangerous sleeping on the recliner thing! that I would become the mother I judged pre-baby! On other aspects of post-delivery; that I would totally have no desire for sex! lol. 

sparkymcgeee

I wish someone would tell me that I would have no sex drive. I wish someone would tell my DH that I would have no sex drive.

I wish somone would have told me that all "ME" time was gone. I miss my me time.

carishabob

meimsx:

I wish someone would tell me that I would have no sex drive. I wish someone would tell my DH that I would have no sex drive.

I wish somone would have told me that all "ME" time was gone. I miss my me time.

I knew most of it was gone, but not ALL of it.

I wish someone would have told me how difficult it would be to treat my baby how to sleep, and that I shouldn't judge until I've been there. Even then, who the heck am I to judge?

tokenhoser

Honestly? I didn't want to hear it before I was a mother. And I don't think there was any magic secret I could have been told that would have helped.

For now, I try to tell new moms / moms to be two things:

Take help. Take all the help that's offered, and if you need more, ask for it.

You will eventually hurt your baby. You'll drop them slightly father than you should, or walk their head into doorway or smack them on the car door or cut finger instead of fingernail. You will feel like the worst mom ever. You're not... everyone does it. It won't make you feel better to know this in the moment your baby cries in pain, but it might help a bit afterward.

Athena0809

tokenhoser:

Honestly? I didn't want to hear it before I was a mother. And I don't think there was any magic secret I could have been told that would have helped.

For now, I try to tell new moms / moms to be two things:

Take help. Take all the help that's offered, and if you need more, ask for it.

You will eventually hurt your baby. You'll drop them slightly father than you should, or walk their head into doorway or smack them on the car door or cut finger instead of fingernail. You will feel like the worst mom ever. You're not... everyone does it. It won't make you feel better to know this in the moment your baby cries in pain, but it might help a bit afterward.

That hasn't happed, yet, I'm so paranoid I even hold his forehead when we walked by the doorway...but I did cut his finger when he was teeny tiny, no blood but he cried so hard and so did I!!!

BrendaLou1969

I wish someone would have told me that you will receive ALL kinds of unsolicited advice and to just ignore it.  That the best come back line is, I'll take that under consideration.  And end the conversation.

pinkflipflops44

melpatbat:

That the sound of your babies cry will do things to your body you never imagined.

or it wont and that is fine too.