Wow... Just... WOW (Partially NBR)

BarbourWales04

I've been under a lot of stress lately- and yesterday didn't help. I got an email from my (I guess) ex best friend telling me that she had no desire to associate with me anymore. I'm in South Korea right now with FI, and I basically told her that I didn't approve of her new relationship... they were telling each other they loved each other and posted on Facebook that they were in a relationship after ONE DATE.... and I was concerned about her. She's back home in the States. She's been pissed at me for a while, apparently- but didn't bother to mention it until sending an email that told me I was a horrible person.

She told this new guy that I was pregnant before I told my parents. And I was pretty pissed that some dude I've never met knows what's going on in my ute. She was going to be my baby's godmother, but she pulled out of it. Which was really no big surprise.

Basically, I cried for an hour or two--- FI held me all night--- and now I'm pretty much over it. But the only problem is that I've been having twinges all day. They're not like period cramps, but they definitely hurt. Has anyone had intermittent twinges that didn't lead to anything?

Wow- I just realized how dumb this all looks now that I've typed it out....

L D

Lol. Its not dumb!! You are pg and hormonal.  

I'm sorry about your (ex) friend.  I would cut ties and not communicate with her anymore.  

When are you goin to tell your parents?  

  

BarbourWales04

Oh, they've known for weeks, and they're pretty excited nowadays I just didn't want them to hear it secondhand.

I just felt like, "Wow. This? Right here? This is why I hated high school." I mean, crap, you know? The doctor keeps telling me to keep my stress levels down... and yeah.

kzawisl

The twinges you're feeling might be round ligament pain.

As for your friend...what you're feeling there is a pain in your ass. (kidding...) I am sorry you're dealing with that. She was probably hurt by your comments about her new relationship, and now she wants to hurt you. Back. Not. Rey mature. It's painful, but a toxic friendship is not worth keeping. 

kzawisl

Sorry, posting from phone. That should have said "...hurt you back. Not really mature..."

one more makes four

It sounds like your "friend" is quite selfish and immature.  I wouldn't want someone like that in my life.  You are better off without her even though it is painful to realize that now.  I've been in a similar situation before and I can tell you that life is SO MUCH BETTER without a toxic friend bringing you down.  I was devastated when my friendship came to an end, but now I rejoice in the blessing of being rid of her.  Hugs to you as it isn't easy at first!

BarbourWales04

Thanks, ladies- and I'm glad its just probably round ligament pain--- I'm an FTM and I was really worried I was losing my baby (see what I mean about feeling dramatic and typing it out and seeing that it looks stupid?)

I'm not the first person to express my concerns to her- but I am the only one who's overseas, and I think she's directing ALL her anger and pain that she feels towards everyone at me because it's easier. We've been through a lot in our friendship. But she also saw fit to drag my fiance through the mud (he basically told her EXACTLY what he thought of her telling her boyfriend my personal business) and then proceeded to reject my child. I cut my parents out of my life for rejecting my fiance (at first- I think they really are coming around, which is awesome).

The relationship I have with my parents is actually beginning to repair a bit. As ungenerous as it sounds, losing a friend, no matter how close, doesn't really compare to not having my mother in my life. I made the point to my ex-friend that it didn't really matter how scathing FIs email was to her (and trust me, it could have been a lot worse), because this is his child too, and he had the right to have an opinion. She's a genuinely good person most of the time- but I have other things to think about and focus on now. As much as I love and worry about her, I love and worry about my child and my FI more.

Thanks, ladies, for not making me feel like I'm just a huge ball of drama.