Am I wrong for getting upset? (VENT)

Marksmommy321

So my son's father and i have been split since Sept of 2010 when my son was 6 months old.We always fought and just didnt get along. In January of 2011 I started dating again and Im completly happy. Ive been with him for a year now. Everythings great. My son's father on the other hand seems to have a new girlfriend every couple of weeks. Now i could care less what he does except he brings my son around them. Ive told him before I wanted to meet them before he brings my son around them but of course he doesnt. When he's dating a new"flavor of the week" hes a complete jerk to me. Demands that I let him see his son (even though we do have a custody agreement that he never follows). Constantly cussing me out calling me a bad mom the whole 9 yards. Ive tried to get him to pay me child support but he told me NO because I wont let him have him for a weekend. Im sorry he doesnt even know how to take care of him he never got up to help me when he was born I did everything by myself. He's more worried about going and and getting high and gambling rather then taking care of his son. I just dont understand how you can bring all these diffrent "bimbos" around my son without even really knowing them I'm just afraid that one of these times somethings going to happen to my son.

 

sorry its long i just needed to vent!!

peeps61308

Only deal with him through text and e-mail. Don't reply to his b.s. You have a court order, stick to it. As far as CS, go through the courts. The CS will be collected by the state (payments or garnishments) and given to you.The day to day "relationship" is so much easier when $$ is taken out of the equation.

LadyLissame

Have you gone to the courts about the child support? If the courts have said he has to pay $X then he needs to pay $X.

Good luck.

FWIW, I agree with you. STBXH and I have agreed to that ourselves.

Marksmommy321

I do only talk to him through texts and i save every single one and i write them down. I did go to court but because he lives in another state they wont go after him.

kmartinez80

Marksmommy321:

I did go to court but because he lives in another state they wont go after him.

This doesn't really make sense. I would contact the court again.

Marksmommy321

i filled out all the necessary paperwork and gave them his correct address but they somehow "lost" his address and the paperwork for them to go get him out of state. it's so stupid and rather annoying

kmartinez80

Marksmommy321:

i filled out all the necessary paperwork and gave them his correct address but they somehow "lost" his address and the paperwork for them to go get him out of state. it's so stupid and rather annoying

 Then you need to fill out the paperwork again and follow up. I'm sure it sucks, but if you're not receiving CS that was ordered then you need to be your own advocate to make sure the proper people are addressing the issue. 

 Regarding him not introducing you to his GFs, you're just going to have to let that one go and realize that you don't get to dictate things like that. Also, for the visits, stick to the CO. Does the CO state that your Ex gets overnight or weekend visits? If so, then you should stick to the CO otherwise you could face some consequences if he were to file contempt charges against you. If the CO does not grant him overnight or weekend visitation then just ignore him and stick to the CO. 

Marksmommy321

In the custody agreement he only get him on fridays and every other sunday and that it. No over nights no weekends. I'm trying to stick to it I'm just tired of dealing with him arguing with me all the time. As for support it was never court ordered and when I did go to the courts and tell them everything I kind of just got bounced around from person to person.

 

I know i have to let it go its just hard my son is my world and I just want whats best for him.

Mason&Mama

Marksmommy321:

In the custody agreement he only get him on fridays and every other sunday and that it. No over nights no weekends. I'm trying to stick to it I'm just tired of dealing with him arguing with me all the time. As for support it was never court ordered and when I did go to the courts and tell them everything I kind of just got bounced around from person to person.

 

I know i have to let it go its just hard my son is my world and I just want whats best for him.

You need to do what you need to do to get the CS order in place. It may be a pain in the a**, but this is money that your son deserves.