Court next week...what do you think he will get?

Crystal318

Long story short, ex is a manipulative drug addict. He went to jail on Christmas for throwing something at me and punching two holes in my door while coming at me - this was all in front of my son. We have not been living together since October but he was over to open presents on Christmas morning.

I had filed for emergency custody and then I let him manipulate me into thinking that he would sign an agreement out and not have to go to court. Yesterday he was supposed to come and sign but 45 minutes beforehand he decided that it wasnt a good idea and didnt show up. I told him I have no other choice but to go to court. I think he thought I would give into him and drop it all together but that is not happening.

Here is a summary of what I have:

-He has been on and off drugs/alcohol the whole time we have been together (I found out when I was pregnant) Mostly pain pills, cocaine and pot

-he was in rehab for three weeks in July but did not complete program

- he works at a bar

- staying with his brother, sister in law, and two kids

- DUI from 2 years ago

-I have pictures of the drugs in my house that I found when he was in rehab

- stole $400 from our son to buy drugs

- pic of him passed out while sitting up on the floor and our son sleeping right next to him (I was in the shower)

- arrest on Christmas for(court for that is at the end of the month)

- horrible job history

 

That is just a summary. I know you cant predict anything and every state and judge is different but just curious as to what you think might happen?

 thanks!

 

 

achase123

All of that is great, and I especially love the pic of him passed out while your son was sleeping next to him.  That is crucial to paint a picture to the court/judge of what his idea of parenting looks like.  I had a similar picture of XH, who had crashed during one of his visits.  I was there, fortunately but DS was little and in his swing.

Anyways, I have no idea what they will decide, but I would guess you will be sent to formal mediation, if you cannot reach an agreement.  I think that you should request supervised visits by a professional, paid for by your XH.  you shouldn't have to be the one supervising these visits.  I've been doing the supervising for a long time at ours and it's certainly problematic, at best.

Good luck!

allisons1014

Have you been in to talk with your local domestic violence agency?  I used to work for an organization and we provided court advocates that would accompany victims to the courtroom and help them through the process.  It sounds as if from his behavior Christmas Day, throwing something at you and punching holes in the door, you could also get a protective order.  Which is an important step in protecting yourself.

DV groups can be really good resources for women and you should certainly reach out.  The Violence Against Women Act requires every county in every state to have a DV agency.