Working Moms?

SoxFan777

Hi, there!

DS is about 5 months now and I'm going back to work soon (SAD SAD SAD!)... I'm worried about how this is going to impact our relationship... He spends all day with me now and I've never left him with anyone other than DH (I just don't feel the need/urge to go out, to be honest!)... He naps on me (bad, I know, but he sleeps well and I get to read a lot)...

Anyway, what are some tips you can give to make sure he still sees me as "mommy" even though he's in daycare fulltime?  Are there other AP parents on here who work fulltime?  I stopped BFing a month or so ago because of terrible supply issues (even after pumping 8 times a day, reglan, fenugreek, etc.)... He sleeps in a cosleeper next to me right now but I'm open to bringing him to bed, but he's still sleeping in a swaddle so I don't think it's safe, right?)

ctbride08

I work FT and never even had a maternity leave (I'm a foster parent) but share wonderfully healthy attachements with all of my children. Its completely possible

Some of the things I do/did:

- lots of babywearing and cuddling/kissing/hugs for my older child

- we were cosleeping but arent any longer

- send notes/pictures/lovies to school and daycare to let them know i'm thinking of them when we arent together

- most important is that when the kids are awake and home, they get as much of my attention as possible.  this means either putting off chores or involving the kids in them. I leave work at work and when i'm home I'm in full "mommy mode" and listen to my children fully.  I try to make every moment i have with them really count.

 

StrawberryAlarmClock

SoxFan777:

Anyway, what are some tips you can give to make sure he still sees me as "mommy" even though he's in daycare fulltime?  Trust me. No one and nothing will ever get in the way of him seeing you as Mommy.  He will be thrilled to see you when you get home. 

Are there other AP parents on here who work fulltime?  Lots and lots of us.

I stopped BFing a month or so ago because of terrible supply issues (even after pumping 8 times a day, reglan, fenugreek, etc.)... I'm sorry that BFing didn't work out the way you wanted it to. I know that can be very disappointing.

 He sleeps in a cosleeper next to me right now but I'm open to bringing him to bed, but he's still sleeping in a swaddle so I don't think it's safe, right?) I'm not sure on this one (swaddling and bedsharing) but I did have LO's arms out when I brought him to bed with me. Actually, I made the decision to put him in bed with me because I fell asleep BFing him one day and he pushed my breast out of his face so I felt safe having him in bed. 

You'll be fine.  DS will be fine.  He needs to forge other relationships and he will never ever replace you. Don't worry about that.

C-Charm

StrawberryAlarmClock:

You'll be fine.  DS will be fine.  He needs to forge other relationships and he will never ever replace you. Don't worry about that.

Yep.  He'll know who is momma is.

katiewhompus

I went back to work at 7 weeks but DD definitely knows who mom is. I just try to make sure that during the week she gets as much good time with me as possible. My mom (dcp) also makes a big deal about me getting there to pick her up ("look look it's mommy!)