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Hosting Myself (=O The Horror!)
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Re: Hosting Myself (=O The Horror!)
Awwww, sorry.
Just my input... Some of you ladies should realize that NOT EVERYONE is from the US that uses this board, try not to be so snarky. If you don't believe in what they are doing just don't respond. We must RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE & OTHER CULTURES...
OP- I hope you have a GREAT BBQ & CONGRATS ON HAVING A BABY
Just my input... Some of you ladies should realize that NOT EVERYONE is from the US that uses this board, try not to be so snarky. If you don't believe in what they are doing just don't respond. We must RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE & OTHER CULTURES...
OP- I hope you have a GREAT BBQ & CONGRATS ON HAVING A BABY
Cranang, you need a spanking!
Once again, the line for butt-kissing and sugar coating starts over at your moms house.
The line for honesty starts right here.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Hopefully it will be a TACTFUL spanking.
You yell at weird points in sentences.
There doesn't appear to be anything culturally oriented about what the OP wanted to do, and the OP clearly wanted to stir the pot.
Of course!
Yeah, I spit all over my computer on that one. Best pic ever. I look kind of crazed, but I think the gag is appropriate. It wouldn't be very TACTFUL to have me screaming out profanities while taking my due punishment.
LOL
Wait, let me play a little game too of what's tackier?
1) Hosting your own baby shower
-or-
2) Joining a group from the BMB and signing up for the gift exchange. Then, receiving your gift, never sending a gift to your buddy, and just running away from the group and dropping off the face of the plant?
Pretty much equal, but you decide! Get off your high horse - you're just as bad!
SO true. ^
Hey, cranang, maybe if the OP gets a book on manners you could see if she'll lend it to you?
Agreed. I just joined and have been looking through the boards...suffice to say I will NOT be asking any questions on this site if this is how members treat other pregnant women here. Alas, bullies will still continue to exist. Even if you don't get up in the morning to please other people, simply being nice and treating others with respect will give you more pleasure than picking fights on pregnancy boards. The old adage of "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" would have been a useful motto. At least not everyone wants to skewer you for doing something different
Since you sound like you are wanting to have a good time and keep it low key, I would suggest your gifts reflect that tone and incorporates the pre-baby good times you all had together. This ensures you are able to personalize the gift to the person receiving and will make it treasured.
And wine is ALWAYS good
I hope you have fun at the BBQ and good luck with the new baby! Enjoy sunny Australia!
I am a newbie as well, although I was actively involved with the Knot briefly while planning my wedding. From what I can see, nothing has really changed all that much, as there appears to be a certain segment around these parts. While everyone is not going to agree, calling names is really disrespectful, particularly when it's not that serious.
After reading all the post, I still can't figure out what the issue really was. However, I decided to click just due to the title. My husband and I are actually hosting our own baby shower, moreso me, because I wouldn't imagine having anyone plan my wedding, so why my baby shower? I am very particular, and while I'd appreciate the effort of friends and family planning the shower, they simply wouldn't do it the way I'd want, and I wouldn't want people to think I was being ungrateful, it's just I have my own idea of what I want, and would rather spend the money and plan it myself, so my friends and family can come and enjoy the day, and celebrate with US! I had no idea hosting your own shower was considered tacky but oh well.
And we are serving booze too - oh the horror!
Planning your own wedding =/= planning your own shower. I don't understand why people keep comparing the two. Spend your money buying your own things for your baby. A shower is a gift to you from someone else. If you want a party thrown the way you would want (you sound like a spoiled, ungrateful b!tch with that statement, btw) and wouldn't be remotely happy or grateful if it wasn't your pretty princess perfect shower, then throw a party, however, don't call it a shower and make no mention of gifts.
Please look up the definition of a baby shower if you can't figure out why it's rude to throw your own.
Wow, an ungrateful ***? You don't even know me but I find it ironic you are all about tackiness and etiquette when you have a very nasty attitude towards someone you don't even know. Your self-importance only matters to you and nobody else.
Oh, it certainly makes sense. I'm sure if you invited somone to your wedding and you didn't receive a gift, you would be ticked off. Otherwise, don't have a wedding which many people opt not to do because they don't care if they receive a gift or not.
A baby shower is an event, in my eyes, and not a gift.
Yes, I'm an adult and can afford to pay for my own shower.
I march to the beat of my own drum, and the 60 some odd replies are just a handful of people, so hardly a majority. Most people just don't comment because they don't want to deal with people like you.
Yeah, I'm the self-important azz.... You really just don't get it, do you.
Ballsox or AE, can you step in here, I don't have the patience for this type of stupidity.
BTW, I did buy my own blender...
Why do you need back up? Are you a gang or something? LOL! As someone said earlier, annoying mean girls. Amazing!
What else didn't you buy?
As I stated before, a baby shower is an event, no different than a wedding, or for goodness sakes, a housewarming party, or even a birthday party one would throw for themselves. Give me a break!
Nah, I just don't feel like wasting my time with an explanation when the only reason you are here is clearly to say, "screw ettiquete, I'm going to do what I want, na nani poo poo". I thought someone else might like to try, but it would be clear that anyone would just be wasting their breath.
I'm guessing you're one of those girls who watches Bridezillas for ideas.
Google is your friend. You can try and justify all you want, however, you are wrong.
If you didn't want to waste your time, you shouldn't have responded in the first place.
And Bridezillas is your thing honey given your nasty crusty attitude.
I didn't even bother to have bridesmaids because I didn't see the need to have my 30-something year old friends waste money on a $200 plus dress they would wear only once - my wedding was about me and my husband, and we invited our family and friends to celebrate with us since it was about our day, no need to bother anybody with the details of our wedding other than be people we were paying.
I don't need Google to tell me what I should or shouldn't do. I make my own decisions.
OK, your right, plenty of people have bought me presents for many different events. However, I have never been the host of ANY of them. I didn't host my own shower, I didn't host my wedding, I have never had a housewarming nor have I thrown myself a birthday party. People buy me (and DH and our baby) presents because they want to, not because I throw myself a party and tell them to.
You had a wedding to get the gifts?
A shower is something someone throws for someone else, you don't invite people to come give you gifts.
I had a wedding because I wanted my friends and family to witness my marriage. It was pretty cool that my friends threw me a shower and gave me gifts. I did not require gifts at my wedding, and my bridesmaids wore little black dresses of their own choosing.
So, did you charge admission at your wedding? Like, a cover charge? What if people don't give you nice enough baby gifts, will they be thrown out? Or do you check the gift before you let them behind the velvet rope?
Bunghole. Yeasty bunghole.
Sooooo, if a baby shower:wedding then bridal shower: ???
Bar Mitzvah
If the baby shower comes before the wedding, the obviously the bridal shower comes before the conception-inducing intercourse.
You are such a troll you're not even worth my time.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
A wedding is an event. The birth of your baby is an event. Both of these events may or may not be attended by people who are close to you - whomever you invite. And those people may or may not bring or send gifts.
A wedding shower is a party given to you to "shower" you with items to start your home and new life as a married couple. A baby shower is a party thrown to "shower" you with gifts to welcome you into motherhood.
Wedding = Birth
Wedding =/= Baby Shower
Bridal Shower = Baby Shower
Why is this so difficult to grasp?
Wow, just wow, where do I start? Let?s begin with a couple of definitions and sources....
1. (From Emily Post Website in response to who can host a baby shower) ?Traditionally, close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, or co-workers of the mother-to-be hosted baby showers. Because gifts are central to showers, hosting by a member of the honouree?s (or husband's) immediate family appeared self-serving. Today it is appropriate for anyone to host a baby shower as long as there's a legitimate reason.?
While this admittedly concedes that traditionally baby showers were not hosted by the MTB or her immediate family, it goes on to state that ?today it is appropriate for anyone to host a baby shower as long as there is a legitimate reason.? As I do not know the OP personally and consequentially must rely upon the information available I find it reckless and grossly inappropriate (dare I say ?tacky?) to hazard a determination as to the appropriateness of her reasoning.
2. (From Dictionary.com, the definition of etiquette) conventional requirements as to social behaviour; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion.
This definition would indicate that etiquette may be determined by the class or community. As I have previously mentioned, I am not familiar with the OP and ergo it would be inappropriate for me to pretend to be sufficiently knowledgeable of the social norms of her class and community. It is worth noting that what is considered ?tacky? varies wildly from region to region and from social group to social group. For example, where I grew up, having a cash bar at ones wedding would be tantamount to walking down the aisle in black leather lingerie, however, where I currently reside, cash bars at weddings and other events are completely acceptable.
My understanding is that the OP was seeking comments pertaining to what prizes fellow bumpies have felt were the best. Nowhere in the OP did I notice a specific request for validation of her choice to host the shower/bbq herself. While perhaps she the opened herself up to ridicule from a few overzealous bumpies by sharing as much information as she did, if one is truly disturbed by the fact that the OP, along with some friends, is hosting her own shower, the appropriate response (Read: the not tacky response) would have been to remain silent. It is paramount that people on this board remember that they are either currently parents or hope to be parents very soon, and they should conduct themselves with the maturity expected of an adult who has decided to undertake the awesome responsibility of raising a child. I recognize that this thread is rather old, and that my post is most likely too late to offer any consolation to the OP, however the tone of the thread had deteriorated to a point where I felt it helpful to comment and hopefully deter some from such behaviour in the future.
I congratulate the OP on her baby and wish everyone a happy and peaceful pregnancy.
You bumped a month old post to say all of this? And to say so many words but say so little? Please look into the "Plain English" movement that has been sweeping the legal world in recent years. Your posts sounds like someone trying way too hard to be a lawyer. (Yes, I am a lawyer. Specifically, a litigator.)
Also, you have 3 posts. Much like going into court in a jurisdiction that you're unfamiliar with, it is important to read the local rules of court. Here, you really need to lurk and observe the community before telling us all what we should be doing.
Throwing a party where you ask for gifts for yourself is tacky everywhere.