If you have two toddlers come in!

12bailey18

I'm just curious what you find more difficult: A newborn and toddler, an older baby and toddler, or two toddlers. As DD is getting older and more mobile I've noticed things that were once easy are getting more difficult. I've just been thinking about every stage and curious to hear from those with experience which is the most difficult. TIA!

Telyco

I would do anything some days to go back to a newborn and a toddler. My toddlers are toooooooough. Picking DS up from school has been the worst. DD just wants to get down and play too (even though we JUST played at music class or wherever) So it basically involves me carrying a screaming toddler out to the car with a crying toddler (upset that his sister is so upset) and trying to strap them in with coats and hats and bookbags and lunchbags. It's a GD nightmare. Depends on your kids though. Mine are very strong willed.

laura1

Telyco:

I would do anything some days to go back to a newborn and a toddler.

This!  My DD was an angel baby - would sit nicely watching everything, always smiling, liked to eat and sleep - which was perfect when I already had one toddler.  Then she started walking and a few months ago developed an attitude and learned her favorite words - mine and no.  Now I spend a lot of time breaking up scuffles over toys, and chasing 2 toddlers around to get them to come with me.  

However, there are better things - we do STTN more now (when DD isn't teething), and they are both more independent.  I think in a year, it will be easier! 

Mr.&MrsS

Every phase certainly has it's own set of challenges...but each month that goes by I just keep thinking it gets easier and easier. But, I also had two pretty high maintenence newborns.

EDIT- There are days I think, if I hear my two year old scream, "HEY BRADY, that was not very nice!" one more time my ears might bleed. ) But I would take that (and the seemingly constant fighting) any day over the newborn "madness".

LDQAM516

TWO TODDLERS BY FAR!  Our newest addition is very easy...and Iam trying to soak it up because I know this will be the easiest stage in having three kiddos.  In my opinion, the easiest age is the newborn age...and it gets progressively more difficult as they get older.  Mainly having to do with tantrums, sharing toys and being nice to their siblings...it can drive me mad the amount of time I spend correcting them and making sure no one gets hurt!

kcisthebombdotcom

I will officially have 2 toddlers tomorrow, and I thought the newborn phase was toughest. I also didnt find the newborn phase hard either though. It's nice now that they can both sit and play together. They're both less needy now.

Perhaps ask me this in another year and a half when I have a 3.5 year old and a 2.5 year old and I'll have a far different answer. LOL.

Raffes484

LDQAM516:

TWO TODDLERS BY FAR!  Our newest addition is very easy...and Iam trying to soak it up because I know this will be the easiest stage in having three kiddos.  In my opinion, the easiest age is the newborn age...and it gets progressively more difficult as they get older.  Mainly having to do with tantrums, sharing toys and being nice to their siblings...it can drive me mad the amount of time I spend correcting them and making sure no one gets hurt!

THIS! THIS! THIS!

Raffes484

LDQAM516:

TWO TODDLERS BY FAR!  Our newest addition is very easy...and Iam trying to soak it up because I know this will be the easiest stage in having three kiddos.  In my opinion, the easiest age is the newborn age...and it gets progressively more difficult as they get older.  Mainly having to do with tantrums, sharing toys and being nice to their siblings...it can drive me mad the amount of time I spend correcting them and making sure no one gets hurt!

THIS! THIS! THIS! Plus, trying to keep DS1 entertained during DD's gymnastics class where as DS2 just sleeps through it.

sweetpea2003

Things are getting a tad easier in our house now that DS is a little older.

For us, the hardest stage has been mobile baby (crawling) and a toddler.  DD wasn't used to her brother being in her stuff and it was a major adjustment.  Now that she is more accustomed to it things have gotten better.

I'm sure things will change tomorrow .

BrittKav

My youngest is barely a toddler (she's not even walking yet) but things have been getting easier everyday. We'll see.

CaitlinJ22

laura1:

Telyco:

I would do anything some days to go back to a newborn and a toddler.

This!  My DD was an angel baby - would sit nicely watching everything, always smiling, liked to eat and sleep - which was perfect when I already had one toddler.  Then she started walking and a few months ago developed an attitude and learned her favorite words - mine and no.  Now I spend a lot of time breaking up scuffles over toys, and chasing 2 toddlers around to get them to come with me.  

However, there are better things - we do STTN more now (when DD isn't teething), and they are both more independent.  I think in a year, it will be easier! 

this. DD was easier as a baby. She is sassy now, and climbs on tables, yells things like- thats mine! and they argue a lot. But then they are so sweet to eachother as well. DD sleeps well most nights and so its easy in that way. I am also 17 wks pg with #3 so I am tired and chasing them is HARD.  

hellopoppyseed

Two toddlers! Wow. A newborn and a toddler was stressful in many ways but I am loosing control in this house. DS2 is really into everything. He destroys things so fast. Yesterday he undid the roll of paper towels then climbed on to the counter. They work as a team too sometimes in bad ways. 

howleyshell

I think the ages of 2-4 are challenging with many children.

Make that 2 of them in that age range and you're pulling your hair out for sure - especially when they set each other off.

Newborns hold their own challenges but from my experience they're all a bit different with some being easier than others.  We lucked out and had our tough one first.  My 2nd was an easy baby but was then an insanely difficult toddler.

It's just different.  The newborn stage is so hard because sleep deprivation = cranky impatient mom = not good for managing the older toddler.  On the flip side having 2 mobile toddlers who make sport of defiance will push you to your limits some days.  Just different challenges. 

However...  at 4 and 5 life is down right EASY.  They play together well most of the time, I can tell them to work out their differences or go play alone in their rooms (because I refuse to be a referee for the rest of my life) and they entertain each other really well.

Lots of laughter around our house these days!!!

These are the good times for us. 

I tell anyone who asks that it was hard in the beginning but you forget how hard it was because it's so awesome having them this close when they're older.

I actually feel bad for my friends who have only 1 and are constantly looking for ways to entertain their kids.  Mine have a built in buddy. 

Just yesterday when I asked my youngest what he enjoyed most about our day he said:  "Getting to play alone with D (older bro)".  Now that they're both in school they really enjoy their time together. 

JoannaJes

I love having two toddlers! They play together, entertain each other. It's awesome. 

Having a colicky newborn with a toddler was really hard.