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January 2011 Moms
RedZee
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Anything I can do about this?
RedZee
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We have a 50 person capacity limit on the room where we're having DD's bday. We are only inviting family (I have a big family), DD's "friends" (the people who have kids within 6 months of DD's age), and 2 of my single friends who I felt weird not inviting. One of them, J, just moved back to the area. Her boyfriend is moving back soon. We HATE him. When I invited J, I thought he wouldn't be back here by the bday. Now I think there's a chance he will be back.
Is there any way I can tell her not to bring him? The honest truth is that I think we might be going over the limit anyway, which makes me nervous. But it seems weird to be like, "we're at capacity, the one additional person is not allowed". She knows that I'm not a fan of his so it's a little tricky anyway. He's never met DD, me and DH really hate him, and I just don't want him there that day. DH says we have to suck it up and realize that they come as a pair and there's nothing we can do.
We sent an evite so I couldn't even specify anything.
DD1: born 1/19/11. DD2: born 10/10/13
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Re: Anything I can do about this?
Hopefully she knows how you feel about him and she won't bring him?
I think it depends what your real issue here is. Are you honestly concerned about head count? Or do you just not want him coming and are using it to justify this?
If you're truly running a risk of going over, I'd just nicely let her know that due capacity limitations, you will not able to make accomodations for her to bring a guest.
But if you just don't want him to come because you don't like him, I think you need to suck it up.
This. Or if it would REALLY bother you that much if he showed up then maybe say something to her.
She knows how everybody feels about him so she's constantly pushing him on everyone. Honestly, I am concerned about the head count AND don't want him to come. We're doing the party in the party room of our friends' apartment complex. It is really nice of them to let us use it and we don't want to break any of the rules and get them in trouble.
Maybe I should just talk about that part unrelated to her guy it will just follow that she can't bring him unless enough people decline.
I agree with this. If you are honestly going over the number you could mention how tight it is and worried you are and you did not think he would be back in time for hte party so you did not count him.
But if this person is a friend, then you take the good with the bad. You can't expect her to leave him behind for everything because you don't like him. Unless there is some reason you are not telling that would change the situation.
No one in her life likes him. He's a bum and a con artist and total trash. DH thinks she's with him to rebel against her mom. He rarely has a job and tries to live off of her and welfare. And lots and lots and lots of other reasons. He also destroyed DH's group of friends by pitting 2 of them against each other and it almost came to blows at DH's bachelore party. This party is just one time where I don't want to see him. It's hard to accept that they come as a pair and now that they'll be living nearby I'm going to have to make some decisions about our friendship.
Thanks for the input ladies!