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orangecurls
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Dr says to wait 2 years before trying for #3...???
orangecurls
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I had my postpartum appointment the other week, and my ob says to wait at least 2 years before trying for another baby. He says my body needs a chance to replenish and recover since I had these kiddos so close.
Has anyone else's dr made such recommendations?
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Re: Dr says to wait 2 years before trying for #3...???
I think it really depends on your body, and your age. I've had 5 kids all about 1 1/2 years apart (so only about a 9 month rest between each) and I've nursed all of them as well, so I guess I haven't had much of a break at all! I'm on the younger side, so maybe that has some weight, I WAS also very physically fit when I started (not so much now). My OB/GYN has never said anything about our choice to have kids close together, I also haven't had any c-sections, I don't know if that would matter as well.
At my 6 week PP appt my OB told me I should wait "years and years" before having a third because my two "are too close together, too too close." I about smacked her for her lack of tact (but I'm not thrilled with her or the practice as a whole...). She couldn't give me any medical reason why they are too close, so I don't put much stock in her opinion.
The OB I saw with DD1 (moved in between the girls) told me they generally recommend a year, but based on my age and history he saw no reason we couldn't try a little sooner than that. I got pregnant with DD2 when DD1 was about 10.5 months old. If we try for number 3, we might start as early as September, when DD2 is a year old.
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
My OB tweeked too at my PP with LO#1 when I said we wanted a second close in age... I asked a close friend who's internal medicine, and another who's a pedi, and both said there is some validity to the nutrients replenishing thing (slightly higher risk of m/c in the first tri), but both seemed to feel a lot of OBs have personal bias against kids close in age/"quiverfull" people. Anyway, with us having ours close, their advice was to keep up with the vitamins and folic acid. So far so good.
But I would find out if there isn't something else going on.
I had a C-section in January '10 with DS1 and then another in April '11 with DS2. At my post-partum appointment, they said to wait at least 6 months for another pregnancy. (Oops! Didn't quite make it that long!) They haven't said anything negative about this pregnancy, though, other than the C-section will likely be more difficult due to scarring from my previous C-sections.
...not a true newbie...been a Nestie since '05, but had to change my SN to change my sig...
Nope and my ob didn't think twice when I came in pg again when DS2 was barely a year old.
ETA: had c/s with both my other 2 and will again with this one
Yes. My OB cleared me to get pregnant with my 2nd at 6 weeks PP. After #2, he said he didnt want to see me for another year to give my body a rest. I didnt push it and was happy to oblige since I felt I needed that break anyway.
If you really want to ttc in the very near future I would ask your OB for further clarification. It might have been something related to your second delivery for all you know.
My evil exOB told me he wanted me to wait a year between my DS and getting pregnant again. Granted I am and will always be a c-section but I went and saw a different Dr who reviewed my entire file and told me that as long as my deliveries are over 12 months apart I'm okay.
2 and 3 will be like 13 months apart....
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
My OB would probably be fine with it. We discussed that we wanted to start TTC when DS was 9 months. I even scheduled my yearly appt around that time to discuss getting my fertility to return and TTC. I ended up being on my way to pregnant at that appt. (I tested negative the day before and then positive 8 days later.)
However, the intake nurse that I had to see at the beginning of the pregnancy made it known that I should have waited because I never had a period in between. When she asked me for my LMP and I said Dec '09, she said "So you never had one before getting pregnant? You really should have waited." I asked her why and she said that it would be easier to date the pregnancy. (Nevermind that dating pregnancy based solely on LMP can lead to incorrect dating and that is why my OB office always does an early ultrasound.) Then she went on about how my body wasn't ready to support another pregnancy. I just rolled my eyes. I talked to my OB at my next appt and she still had ZERO concerns.
Thats totally dumb. I never had a period either and no one said anything. They just dated ds2 with an ultrasound. Then he came a week early and all was well. I really don't like when nurses offer to much useless commentary.
That wasn't her only pearl of wisdom. Haha. I made a complaint due to all of her comments during that appointment. I did not find it appropriate for a 'medical professional' to be dispensing incorrect information. I honestly felt like I had to say something because who knows what other women she is saying this to and if they have the education to know that it is false information.
Plus I found it HIGHLY inappropriate to say that I should not have gotten pregnant when I was already effing pregnant and had planned it with my husband. It isn't like I was asking her advice. I doubt she tells the teenage mothers that they should not have gotten pregnant.
After I delivered #1 they told me to wait 6 months before getting pregnant. We weren't planning it, but i got pregnant when DD was 7 months old.
After #2 they didn't say a word. But that is likely because I had a Mirena put in at my 6w pp appt. and they knew they didnt have to worry about me getting pregnant super quickly. They could save any lecture for the IUD removal
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Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
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No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
My ob said that its recommended to try wait until a year or so from birth to TTC. So basicially saying that kids about 21-24 months apart is healthy.
My deliveries were fine, pregnancies fine etc. #1 and #2 are 18 months apart and #2 and #3 are going to be almost exactly 24 months. I dont think its an issue for me.