What would your reaction be?

Pesky

We had flown home and arrived at home at 4 pm and I immediately unpacked 3 of the 4 suitcases (the last was mostly DH's stuff so left that to him) and had to repack to leave the next morning by 6 am to fly to my great-aunt's memorial, funeral and help clean out her apartment.  In the course of unpacking, I discovered a travel thing of DD's chlorine-cleansing shampoo had leaked in a ziploc back and coated everything.  I didn't have time to deal with the whole thing then so I unpacked part of it until I made the discovery and then just tucked it in a corner of the bathroom on the floor where I would see it and remember to clean it out.  I immediately went out, told DH what it was, where it was and to leave it be until I came back.  I actually made sure I got his attention, repeated the request and he said "okay, leave it alone.  Got it."

I come back and bag is gone.  You guessed it -- he tossed it.  Now I don't think there was THAT much in there by that point.  But there was the travel bottle of her shampoo (no biggie -- would've tossed that anyway as it's the 2nd time it has leaked), a brand new unopened bag of clear plastic hair bands for DD and guessing her bobby pins were also in there, along with possibly some other hair clips.  DH couldn't remember what was in there either (which led to the point of if you didn't look what was in there, why on God's green earth did you throw it away?).

Anyway, I got pretty POed about it, not because I'm so devastated by the loss of the items (which is annoying, don't get me wrong) but because I expressly asked him not to, got his okay and presumed understanding of the point and a mere 2 days later, he did EXACTLY the opposite.  I told him that I honestly didn't feel like I could trust him to do what I asked. He thought I was over-reacting.

Thoughts?  TIA!

BrideBuddies

Did he apologize?  Then let it go.

Also...Was he watching TV at the time of the conversation?  Was he eating?  Was he brushing his teeth?   Was he putting on socks?

You get the point?  He's a man and they do not multi-task worth a crap.  And that includes comprehending a woman when she speaks directly at him.   I swear DH hears Charlie Brown's teacher instead of me sometimes.

Yes, you overreacted, but he was a major poopyhead for throwing it out when you said no to.

newbee36

BrideBuddies:

 He's a man and they do not multi-task worth a crap.  And that includes comprehending a woman when she speaks directly at him. 

Always think of this when you are asking him to do or not to do something.  Been in your shoes. Now I make sure that DH listens to me when I have something important to tell him. Don't know if you are overreacting, but I would be pretty upset at him too. 

CheezeFace

I'd be annoyed. I'd probably tell him that I was annoyed. Then I would let it go.  Did he explain why he threw it out?

If I left something like that sitting around my house - explanation or not - I know it would get  thrown out because DH is a complete neat freak. It is super bothersome at times but when I consider the alternative of having a giant piggie of a husband, I usually reign my annoyance in.

 

racampbell1

I would be super annoyed, so personally I don't think you're overreacting... but then again I am a pregnant biiiittttch right now

 

stever

Annoying. I think it's the Y chromosome. I'm forever having conversations with DH, like he'll totally acknowledge what I'm saying, and then he'll act like the conversation never happened.