Threatening to take my DD!

KtGirl88

My fianc? just decided to move out so he can continue to party and do his drugs (which I just found out about a couple days before christmas) I have been trying to let him see her as much as he wants at my house with me there but this week he said he wanted her on his days off. Even over night!!! She is nursing and never had a bottle at night. I told him I just wasn't comfortable with that because of the drug use and where he is living now is a scary place. Thats a loooong story but it is definitely unsafe for my little girl. That night I got texts saying "I'm taking her, she will be going a lot of places you are uncomfortable with eventually so get used to it, ill be there before you leave for work" He has never been violent and I don't think he would but i was scared by his threats because he has changed so much lately so I took the baby to stay somewhere else and hid my car at a friends so he wouldn't know where I was. Im kinda terrified that he will show up and take her.... or try. He is her father and on the birth certificate so would I even be able to stop him? I am meeting with attorneys soon. I want him in her life but not if he is going to use drugs and I DEFINITELY do not want my baby over at the house he is staying at. Im so scared for her right now.

unm00red

Save the text message and contact an attorney ASAP.

Jennis22

If there's no custody agreement then contact an attorney and get one in place ASAP and do not let him take her until you have one. 

ETyorkin

5 month olds don't go on overnights. Get yourself a lawyer. Now.

mdotm0904

see if you can go to the courthouse and file for emergency custody in the meantime. because if by some chance he did get his hands on her, you'd be almost powerless to make him return her. so do NOTTTT by any means let her take him. yes get a lawyer ASAP! but in the meantime, please call your local courthouse and find out if you are able to file for an emergency custody hearing (in my state, you can, and you'd get a hearing same/next day). 

PrincessFiona9

mdotm0904:

see if you can go to the courthouse and file for emergency custody in the meantime. because if by some chance he did get his hands on her, you'd be almost powerless to make him return her. so do NOTTTT by any means let her take him. yes get a lawyer ASAP! but in the meantime, please call your local courthouse and find out if you are able to file for an emergency custody hearing (in my state, you can, and you'd get a hearing same/next day). 

THIS!

DarthNBJenni

You are not married, therefore you are the primary custodian. Let him file for custody. You file for child support and don't let him take your daughter.

jtrayers

^wss

 

 

KtGirl88

Thank you everyone. We have an appointment first thing tomorrow. He hasn't seen her because I have been scared and staying somewhere else. I ignored all texts and calls but saved them. Unfortunately, we are in FL which is a "shared parenting" state so Im not sure how everything will be handled. Im very nervous to see what the attorney has to say tomorrow. Hopefully everything will go OK. Thanks again.

momtojake

save the all texts/communication between the two of you. And try to get people to give testimony that he is doing drugs. 

wfdfire607

Ditto to what everybody else has said. I'm so sorry you're going through this Katie. Lots of hugs for you and Marina. PM me if you need anything at all.