Am I the only one?

rosesandpeonies

that thinks this hard?

I see how everyone loves the spacing between their kids. That it wasn't hard having 2 under 2.  Which I think is great but

I think it was extremely hard having 2 under 2.  anyone else?  I love my girls and I am glad I was blessed to have them close together but boy this wasn't the easiest thing in the world.

Just wondering because I feel like the grinch when I tell someone that asks about 2 under 2 that it isn't easy and to really think about it.  Maybe it was because my baby had really bad reflux and cried all day and my toddler is very active and hasn't sat down since she started walking. 

12bailey18

On the weeks that my DH works out of town (a few times a month) it is the hardest, most difficult thing I've ever been faced with. On the weeks when he gets off at a reasonable hour and I have a few minutes of my own to breathe I think it's the best thing in the world. There are both sides to every situation. I love the way things are and I love my babies but that doesn't mean it is easy. I actually just wrote a blog about this...LOL.

CaitlinJ22

I generally tell people its easier than I expected, that doesnt mean I think its easy. I expected to be constantly pulling my hair out. DH is gone for 3 wks and then home for 3 wks, which means that I have a HARD time while he is gone and for the time he is home it is SO easy with an extra parent around 24/7 for 21 days. 

We are having #3 in June and DS will be 3.5 DD will be just 2, I am nervous but I know I can do it.

I think the beginning was easier than I expected since DD was SO easy. She nursed and passed out for months. She was content. It left me time to deal with a crazy 18 month old. She had her moments between 4-6 months with waking at night a lot, but generally she was easy...she is great still, but she is fiestier and climbs on tables, runs away etc. Its harder now with her, but somewhat easier with my DS. 

Hang in there. Its not easy, I think we all just have different situations and kids of course.  

MAMAxB

I don't think I'm "qualified" to answer since I am only 5 days in... but I think parenting in general is hard sometimes. But it's worth it

I read a blog post by a lady yesterday that it talked about that. Maybe you'd like it: https://momastery.com/blog/2012/01/04/2011-lesson-2-dont-carpe-diem/

Good luck!

memali26

12bailey18:

I love the way things are and I love my babies but that doesn't mean it is easy.

I completely agree! I would not change the spacing of our girls for anything, but some days I would gladly sell them both to the circus I admit, I'm one of those people who will very cheerfully tell you how much I love having 2u2, how much fun it is, how it's easier than I expected, and that's all very true - but some days, it's a show. Some days are so hard I sit and cry while the toddler tantrums and the baby screams and resists naps. But those days are rare in comparison to the good ones, and I just try my best to focus on the good. 

pinkeggs

I hated the first 10 months. HATED. A couple times I cried first thing in the morning because I knew how long and hard the day would be. My girls are 19 months apart and DD2 had severe reflux and a milk protein intolerance and for a 10 month overlap, they both got up multiple times a night. It was miserable.

Now they are 3 & 20 months and honestly, I couldn't be happier. The change between now and a year ago is complete night and day. They play together constantly, they look and ask for each other first thing when they wake up. It's wonderful. We have fun and I love their age difference. I also love having all the pregnancy and baby stuff done altogether like that, since we're done at 2.

You're not doing it wrong and you're not a bad mom if you don't like having a young toddler and an infant together. It's really hard, but don't compare yourself to other people because everyone's kids are different and everyone's situation is different. If I had had family nearby, I'm sure it would have been a lot more bearable. At least I can now easily say that I would definitely do it over again because it's so great now. 

It's a cliche and you want to *** the next person who says it, but really: it really DOES get so. much. better. 

 

ETA: Really, Bump? B!tchslap is not OK but the N word is? (saw it in another post a few weeks ago)

JoannaJes

It was a nightmare for the first 4 months. Difficult for the first year. Now, it's awesome.

I also had the reflux/chronic ear infection baby with a very sensitive toddler, which made for a very interesting combination, ha ha. But yeah. It really sucked. Sorry you are having a tough time. I will tell you, that it is freaking awesome right now. They play together so much and enjoy so many of the same things...if I could just get DD to STTN, it would be heaven. : )

I also have a DH that travels a ton for work, which did not help. At all.  

Daisy22

I don't really remember the first six months of ds2's life bc I pretty much just got through it. After six months the days got easier but even now there are days I'm waiting for bedtime bc the boys are driving me crazy. I love my boys and nownim glad they are close in age. I don't think I would have ever planned it this way and if someone asks I tell them the first year is hard but if you can get through that you can do about anything. Of course now I'm adding a 3rd in June. Ds1 will barely be 3 and ds2 will be 20 months. I'm not scared at all this time. I figure if I made it through two 15 months apart I can do this. 

Mr.&MrsS

pinkeggs:

Now they are 3 & 20 months and honestly, I couldn't be happier. The change between now and a year ago is complete night and day. They play together constantly, they look and ask for each other first thing when they wake up. It's wonderful. We have fun and I love their age difference. I also love having all the pregnancy and baby stuff done altogether like that, since we're done at 2.

This pretty much sums up what I was going to say. The first 3 months I wondered what I had done to my life. My boys are 16 months apart and it was hard. Around 4 months I started to see the light. And literally the day after DS2 turned 1 things got so much better. Now at almost 4 and 2.5 things are great! Of course we have our days, but that is going to happen even if you only have 1 child.

We are also done at 2 kids, so I agree it is nice to have all the pregnancy and baby stuff done (I am not crazy about the newborn phase). Now we are starting to get to do all the things I dreamed about as a family. Vacations, day trips, my parents will finally take the boys for a night so DH and I can get out (they never would when they were babies, so it is nice to get out sometimes now!).

I honestly feel like you are so close to getting to the other side. It isnt easy, but it gets so much better!!

MammaBear81

I grew up around kids, and worked in daycares, so 2 under 2 wasn't that "hard" for me.  I also had really good babies so that probably helped A LOT and they didn't go to daycare which cut down on the amount of colds and such.  Everyone has different experiences and I don't think you should feel bad because it was hard for you, I have friends who feel that just having one child is hard enough for them, they couldn't ever imagine having another.

WhitePicketFence

As with everything, there are some really hard and some really easy days. I've been really lucky in that DD2 is a very laid back baby, especially compared to DD1 as a baby.

I'm very upfront with people when they ask how life is with 2u2. The reality is that every day does get a bit easier and a year from now I'm sure I'll look back thinking that it was worth all the grief. A few years farther down the line and this stage will be nothing but a blimp on the radar.

Hang in there!

*Cheese*

You're not the grinch at all.  Of course we love our kids, and of course no decent person is going to say, "OMG you have two under two? I'd be in the loony bin!".  I'm happy to be expecting, but nervous too - there were a few things I wanted to get squared away before we had #2, that I break down crying  afew times a week since they won't happen now.