Haley

TwinkieFiend

I'd been curious but I haven't seen you post in awhile.  What ever happened with BD and his other son?  Did he end up being involved in his life?  Is crazy Mama still stalking you?

haleyw458

Oh geeze where do I start?

No he doesn't have anything to do with him but some of his family does. They invite her to all their birthday parties and even to their Christmas get together. Which is pretty funny because they had nothing but bad things to say about her before the baby and even when she was pregnant said that she's a whore and that it probably wasn't his. But now they're best friends. She also tells everyone that she doesn't want X to be in her son's life yet then she goes to ALL the family stuff knowing he will be there. Doesn't quite make sense to me. I think it's because she sees him take DS to all their stuff and wants that for her son so she's forcing him to be in their life. But the thing about X is that he's extremely stubborn and will never be in either of their lives.

She's still crazy obsessed with him. She's friends with the same people he is and constantly shows up anywhere he's at and tries to talk but he always just leaves. He's even stopped talking to a few friends because she kept doing this. I know that if X wasn't in DS's life I sure as hell wouldn't want to be anywhere near him or his family. I definitely wouldn't be going to their family stuff where he's at. I try and avoid them as much as I can as it is!

I don't want DS to find out that he has a brother through her or that family. I don't think it's fair to him at all to find out that way. Both X and I don't want him to find out until later when he can fully understand it but at this point if she continues to go to their family stuff and DS is there...he will be finding out way too soon and none of us are ready for it. I'm at the point now where I told X that he needs to leave with DS if they show up so this shouldn't come up. I mean if they want to be apart of his life that's fine...but I think it's wrong to invite them to things knowing he would be there and try to force him to be in his life. When this kid get's older and asks who his dad is what is she going to say? "Drake's dad. The one that plays with him the entire time but hasn't ever said a word to you." Does she really think this will be best for her son?

I have a restraining order against her and a few of her friends so they don't contact me anymore. But they definitely still look at my FB stuff and talk about me constantly. It's sucks because people are always telling me something else that she's said about me in order to make me sound like the crazy one. She even tells people that I text and call her all the time. Yes, because I have her blocked on FB, from calling/texting me, and have a restraining order but I'm the one that's stalking her. 

Wow this got extremely long but I guess I'm just frustrated!

PrincessFiona9

I don't understand why he's refusing to be a part of his other LO's life? That's messed up. Poor baby.

haleyw458

There's more to the story than just that. When she first got pregnant last year I explained all of it in a post.  

PrincessFiona9

Regardless of how BSC the BM is, I don't see any reason for a person to turn their back on their own child.

TwinkieFiend

What a crappy situation for all of you, but especially both of the boys.  It really is too bad she is so nutty.  I agree she's not doing her son any favors by putting him in that situation.  If X's parents want to be involved in their grandchild's life, they should see him when X isn't around.  Though I second Ashley that X is behaving pretty crappy, too.  Sure, she's nuts, but he's the one who had unprotected sex with a nutjob.  If anything he should be ensuring his child with her has some stability.  I feel awful for that poor little boy.  None of this is his fault.  It's going to be rough on Drake, too.  Glad you finally got a restraining order, though.  I never understood her obsession with you, but legally required distance was absolutely needed for that psycho.

haleyw458

TwinkieFiend:

What a crappy situation for all of you, but especially both of the boys.  It really is too bad she is so nutty.  I agree she's not doing her son any favors by putting him in that situation.  If X's parents want to be involved in their grandchild's life, they should see him when X isn't around.  Though I second Ashley that X is behaving pretty crappy, too.  Sure, she's nuts, but he's the one who had unprotected sex with a nutjob.  If anything he should be ensuring his child with her has some stability.  I feel awful for that poor little boy.  None of this is his fault.  It's going to be rough on Drake, too.  Glad you finally got a restraining order, though.  I never understood her obsession with you, but legally required distance was absolutely needed for that psycho.

It's actually not even his parents that are inviting him to this stuff. His parents abandoned him when he was a freshman in high school then he moved in with his grandparents and my parents took him in when he was a senior. It's his aunt and sister that invites her to all of this stuff.

And yes, I agree that none of this is the babies fault, but at the same time it's best that X isn't in his life. Because of the things she's done he hates her, and he doesn't feel any connection to this baby. He doesn't feel like this is his child. And truthfully, I wouldn't be surprised if it was one of his brothers seeing as how she got pregnant by his brother, had an abortion, then slept with all his other brothers and some cousins. (everyone found this detail out after she got pregnant)

For anyone that knows my back-story with DS and X, they would know that even if X was in this child's life, he still wouldn't have stability. X is one of those, awesome dad's when it's convenient, type of guys.

If anything, I envy her for not having to worry about X coming and going out of his life.

TwinkieFiend

haleyw458:

TwinkieFiend:

What a crappy situation for all of you, but especially both of the boys.  It really is too bad she is so nutty.  I agree she's not doing her son any favors by putting him in that situation.  If X's parents want to be involved in their grandchild's life, they should see him when X isn't around.  Though I second Ashley that X is behaving pretty crappy, too.  Sure, she's nuts, but he's the one who had unprotected sex with a nutjob.  If anything he should be ensuring his child with her has some stability.  I feel awful for that poor little boy.  None of this is his fault.  It's going to be rough on Drake, too.  Glad you finally got a restraining order, though.  I never understood her obsession with you, but legally required distance was absolutely needed for that psycho.

It's actually not even his parents that are inviting him to this stuff. His parents abandoned him when he was a freshman in high school then he moved in with his grandparents and my parents took him in when he was a senior. It's his aunt and sister that invites her to all of this stuff.

And yes, I agree that none of this is the babies fault, but at the same time it's best that X isn't in his life. Because of the things she's done he hates her, and he doesn't feel any connection to this baby. He doesn't feel like this is his child. And truthfully, I wouldn't be surprised if it was one of his brothers seeing as how she got pregnant by his brother, had an abortion, then slept with all his other brothers and some cousins. (everyone found this detail out after she got pregnant)

For anyone that knows my back-story with DS and X, they would know that even if X was in this child's life, he still wouldn't have stability. X is one of those, awesome dad's when it's convenient, type of guys.

If anything, I envy her for not having to worry about X coming and going out of his life.

That's just so sad, all the way around.  Nobody is winning in this situation.  I'm glad for your DS that he has stability with you and your family.