BFP-Question

CandLind

Hello,

I am about 4 weeks along and my husband and I are trying to see when is a good time to tell our friends and family. We think 4 weeks is too soon. When do you thinkg is a good time to tell everyone?

Penguin1318

It all depends on what you'd want. Some wait until the 1st tri is over, others wait until their 1st u/s. We told our families the following week after we found out and I was 5 weeks then. It's all about personal prefrence.

amandax3

With DS we announced after 12 weeks. this time will depend on how we feel after my dr appt. since DH will be moving shortly (I'll be moving a couple weeks/month behind him)

mer313131

I made my decision "when to tell" based on how comfortable I'd feel discussing problems or m/c with.  

We told a couple of my closest friends almost right away, because I'd want to talk to those people about any issues. We told close family and other close friends on Christmas (I was a little past 9 weeks).  We've told a couple more friends since then, but we are either doing our big reveal after the 1st tri is over, or after our gender scan.

hmartinez0809

we told everyone after our first appointment and we heard the heartbeat ;-) That was about 8 weeks or so. It just depends on your preference. :-)

jdsummerbaby

i think its too early. I dont really want to say anything to anyone untill 12 weeks or passed it.

DeerHunter79

There isnt a right or wrong answer its really whatever you are comfortable with

couliegirl

mer313131:

I made my decision "when to tell" based on how comfortable I'd feel discussing problems or m/c with.  

We told a couple of my closest friends almost right away, because I'd want to talk to those people about any issues.

This is good and well thought out advice. To say it has to do with preference leaves out the major reason why people don't tell everyone right away. Before 12 weeks, I told the (3) people that I would want support from if I had a miscarriage. I did not want to have to untell the whole world.

WiFeY 4 LiFeY

Do what you feel is right. Wit hDS i told our moms and dads the day we found out.. and waited until I was almost 3 months to tell everyone else.. With this one I found out at 4wks, and told just about everyone between 4-5wks

HeyJune

DH and I wait until we've heard a heartbeat (around 8 or 9 weeks).

The odds of miscarriage after hearing a heartbeat are less than 5%. After 12 weeks, the odds are less than 3%. Of course other factors play a role in this, but those statistics are why we wait a little while. I know plenty of people who go ahead and tell as soon as they get a BFP.

yougrindmygears

We told our parents the day we found out.  I'm still contemplating whether or not I should wait to tell everyone else until I hear the first heartbeat or after 12 weeks.  I still haven't even made a first appointment so I should probably get on that...

AprilAngie

its a personal choice- but I would wait until  AFTER 1st trimester.  as soon as you tell one person- everyone knows TRUST me.  so be prepared! 

peckmiranda

My doctor doesn't do first check-ups until 10 weeks, so waiting until first doctor's appt was not an option for us. I was just so excited I wanted to scream it from the rooftops. Besides, Christmas celebrations started the day after I found out, and there's no way I could've made it through the whole holiday season without letting it slip. I tried to think of all the people I'd feel terrible about if they heard it in the roundabout way and I told them. Of course, like someone else said, word spreads quickly. Will I regret telling if I have a m/c? Very much so. But on the other hand, it's nice to have people I can call and talk to about how nervous I am that I'll have a m/c.