way to start a new year. A bit disappointed in the family. My husband and I brake our exciting news to everyone and right away we are hit with a wave of financial questions. We get it. We are grown ups and have decided to accept and embrace the circumstances without allowing ourselves to get caught up in the "What if" tangle. couldn't the negative concerns wait for at least a day or two? Until a more appropriate time? Way to pile on stress.
Also, I understand I am acting erratically, but perhaps the people I offend should try to understand that I am going through ALOT! If I apologize- accept the damn apology!
Yup. posted it and deleted 4 friends.
Re: my vented FB post
1 rude SIL who walked out on the news
1 rude SIL who ignored me all night after the drama with my husband and I
then just 2 others who I haven't talked to in years on FB. I didn't want to let them in on the drama, especially if we aren't even FB talking.
I'm going to have to agree with GhostMonkey, after having read all your posts. You're acting very irrationally. Being pregnant does not give you free reign to act like a b!tch to everyone around you. I understand you're upset with your family and his family for not jumping up with joy over your news, but it sounds like they're bringing up valid concerns, probably because they care for you. I say just take a break from communicating with them for a bit till you cool off and start thinking rationally.
Comprehension fail. GM doesn't care how much time the OP spends online but is suggesting she make better use of her time to take part in something to lessen her stress/anxiety/anger/whatever. Fail two is that her post count is the website wide and over many years.
It must be very frustrating and hard for you that your family is not supportive and that they behaved the way they did. You can not change the way they act, feel, or what they say BUT you have full control over yourself. You can choose to go down the path where you are acting just as immature as them (which IMO is how you are acting now, no better than them) OR you can rise above the situation and move on with life.
Also, something to think about. Do they have valid reasons for asking you questions about your financial situation or future?
Also, I can completely understand not being excited about a family members pregnancy. My step-sister has two kids (5 yrs apart), not that it matters but they have different fathers. She doesn't work, by choice, lives off WIC & food stamps, lives with her mom & is still the "party girl" leaving her kids with her mom constantly.
So yes, when I heard she was PG with #2, I was NOT excited. I did not belittle or say anything negative to her what so ever BUT knew that she couldn't provide for the one she had because of the life choices she is making.
I dearly love my two nephews but that does not mean I think what their mom does is ok.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
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~after 34 cycles we finally got our 2nd little bundle of joy~
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Ha! I was wondering the same thing!
Eh, the drama is there, regardless of FB.
OP sounds pretty immature. If the whole family is reacting the same way, you can bet there is good reason!
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
***BFP Chart***
"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
***BFP Chart***
"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
OP, you're on the list. And you've been color coded.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
Nina is taking note.
1st- At the moment. money is tight. Has NOT always been so. My DH lost his job a couple of months ago, and we have re bound plans underway. I can understand if we were next to homelessness or on WIC and food stamps, but it's really not needed- it's just tight right now. If only rich ppl were allowed to get pregnant, I doubt this board woul be viable.
2nd- Seriously? Had I cussed up a storm and called ppls names out and made a huge scene, I would understand the comments of being immature. I didn't, did I?
FYI- I keep a small number of ppl on FB because I think it's over rated and unlik alot of ppl, when I post pictures of my family outings and post family info, I don't like the whole world knowing.
For ppl talking about spending a lot of time on the internet, you sure have alot of time to not only read my post, but the other ones I made as well, the las 30 OPs comments, and think of a sly comment for yourself. Who honestly is the one that needs a break?
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
No please! Pay attention darlin'. It says on the side when a person joined. 40,000 over 5 years. Check your stuff first lol.
And CinemaGoddess...I absolutely love your ridiculously long siggy!!!! It had me laughing so hard that my fiance thought I went into the bathroom and got high lol!!!!!
Having a hard time paying utilities and needing money from family is more than what I would call "tight".
Storming over to your IL's house, making a scene, yelling at your DH, dropping the kids off and storming away is immature. Also, not taking the proper precautions and getting pregnant when you are not in any position to take care of another baby is immature. Saying everyone ELSE has a problem and not reflecting on your own deficits is also immature. Deleting family from FB because you don't like how they react? Also immature. I could go on and on in all the different ways I think you're immature actually.
It takes all but 2 seconds to scroll down half a page and see your other two ridiculously whiny posts...
I love you.
Yes I was wondering this as well.. odd.
What?! Why not?? Isn't that the best way to handle things??? We're pregnant and we're allowed to be upset 24/7 so obviously we should because everyone else is wrong and we're right!!!!1!!!one!!!1!!
/end sarcasm
Posting things on Facebook is not, in my opinion, the best way to address family problems. Remember, you are alienating the people that you, your husband, your current children, and the LO on the way will need the most. Perhaps deleting that comment is the most diffusing thing you can do. Yes, your hormones are raging, but the people receiving your wrath are not going to be super sympathetic to that if you keep verbally attacking them. You catch alot more flies with honey than vinegar, right? Good luck to you.
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1st of all according to previous posts of yours, you're worried about your lack of symptoms, so I can't imagine what kind of a witch you'll be when morning sickness kicks in. You're only 6 weeks, It's going to be a long 8 months for you.
2nd of all my BIL and SIL lost their jobs and were in a tight spot for a while and DH and I, along with his parents (especially his parents) all chipped in and helped them out as much as we could. I can't say, if they announced they were pregnant, that any of us would have been terribly excited. It's irrresponsible.
I tried to say this nicely in my response to another post of yours the other day, but if you can bite someone's head off just because you're 6 weeks pregnant, then I can certainly do the same seeing as though I'm carrying twins (isn't that the logic here). I don't ever want to hear the words"unexpected", "suprised", or "shocked" when you're speaking in reference to a pregnancy where you conceived through negligence. If you don't have a fertility issue (making getting pregnant at all a genuine surprise) and you're not using ANY kind of protection WHAT PART ABOUT GETTING PREGNANT WOULD BE A "SURPRISE"??? Thats kinda how it happens. Who are you??? One of the girls on 16 and Pregnant?
I can understand how your families reactions were hurtful. No matter the timing, babies are a blessing. But all of your reactions have been way out of line too. You've got to understand where they're coming from. Not that you're dirt poor but you've said your self that money is tight right now. I can understand that, everyone goes through tough times, and there's nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it. But if family members are giving you money, and in a sense helping to support you, then you're situation is very similar to a teenager getting pregnant when the parents are the one's financially supporting them. It's fine for you to be excited about this pregnancy, and try not to let their reactions dampen your joy, they'll come around. But you've got to learn some self control and deal with your issues in a more mature way, or no one is ever going to believe you're responsible enough to handle this.
Married since June 2010
TTC #1 since 04/2011
3 abnormal PAPs and 2 colpo/biopsy since 09/2009
LEEP 05/2011
ASCUS PAP 08/2011 which means no PAP for 6 months!! YAY!!
BFP 11/6/11!! EDD: 7/15/12
1st u/s 11/21/11: TWINS!
16 wks 1/30/12: BOY and GIRL!
Schedualed c-section for 7/2/12 38wks 1day
Went into labor 6/25/12 37wks 1day. Delivered two healthy babies
I LOVE passive aggressive status updates! They accomplish so much.
And posting a passive aggressive comment on a social network site is the mature way to deal with things.
People will not just automatically understand that you are going through a lot without the proper communication skills.
This is supposed to be a community where women can feel that they are supported through a stressful and life changing event. SHAME ON ALL OF YOU FOR POINTING FINGERS AT SOMEONE WHO HAS HAD MORE BAD LUCK OR STRESS THAN YOURSELVES! Or, maybe you're all just dillusional that your little world is perfect and that others have to conform to what you think is "right".
Seriously? Get off of the damn internet and parent your children. I will find the information and support that I came to the bump looking for somewhere else.
And here is some basic math for you:
Poster has been a member for 5 years
5x365=1825 (and statistically, one of those was a leap year, so we will say 1826, but I will subtract 1 day for the day she gave birth to her child in 2011, so 1825)
40,000/1825=21.92 posts per day over the past 5 years...and that is WITH giving her a little bit of wiggle room.