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RP : just separated

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I posted on blended families also.  After 6 years of marriage and years of fighting and failed attempt of counseling my DH and I separated today, of all days. We have 2 young kids, house and debt. I am a SAHM and FT student after a few years of teaching before kids. Due to holiday weekend I have to wait until Tuesday to speak with a mediator.I am wondering what happens next, custody, alimony etc.I do not want to share a house with him while this pans and fear for my safety due to past threats.  We have a house with numerous guns, weapons etc. I am uncomfortable.  Advice, help?
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  • covertxxamourcovertxxamour member

    Don't quote me on this, but if he has made past threats and you are in fear of your safety as well as your children's safety, but I believe you can contact your local police department and see about getting a PFA (protection from abuse) order against him. Every state is different, but this is honestly the first step I would take if you aren't feeling safe.

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  • PrincessFiona9PrincessFiona9 member
    imagecovertxxamour:

    Don't quote me on this, but if he has made past threats and you are in fear of your safety as well as your children's safety, but I believe you can contact your local police department and see about getting a PFA (protection from abuse) order against him. Every state is different, but this is honestly the first step I would take if you aren't feeling safe.

    This! If he's made threats and you don't feel safe, please contact the police department! You may be able to get an order of protection so he would have to leave.
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  • missiemaemissiemae member
    If you do get a protective order do NOT let him know what you are doing or what you have done before he is served with the paperwork! Once he finds out he will be very upset and if he is someone who is unstable and has threatened in the past his behaviors will escalate! Don't hesitate to call 911.

    I had to wait 5 days from the time I filed until he was served and he found out. While in he was in a rage I broke and things got really  bad! And once he was served the papers and was not to be on the property he changed the locks. A judge has yet to do more than shake their finger at him for his actions.

    Do what you have to do to keep your little ones and you safe!
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