Piggybacking

weddedwife

I've had several people sort of "piggyback" their own grief issue onto mine when I broke the news to them. Has anyone else had this happen?

What I mean is, when I told them, they consoled me but then went on to tell me that they have breast cancer, have a friend who's son has a terminal heart defect, or that they will be filing for divorce in January. I've heard all 3 since our loss. WTH? Isn't this kind of weird? I mean, I get that I'm not the only person going through something right now, but do they need to tell me at that very moment? They couldn't have waited til next week or something to tell me about their breast cancer?

dandywarhol

{{hugs}}

I've had some similar experiences.  I think it is because people are trying to be sympathetic and connect with you but don't really know how. 

pottermommy

dandywarhol:

{{hugs}}

I've had some similar experiences.  I think it is because people are trying to be sympathetic and connect with you but don't really know how. 

This completely.

hewinked

dandywarhol:

{{hugs}}

I've had some similar experiences.  I think it is because people are trying to be sympathetic and connect with you but don't really know how. 

I agree with this.  My mom tries to get advice from one of her clients about client's daughter that died as a 25 year old, then passes the advice to me.  I get that she's trying to help, or understand herself, but it's not the same.

Auki13

pottermommy:

dandywarhol:

{{hugs}}

I've had some similar experiences.  I think it is because people are trying to be sympathetic and connect with you but don't really know how. 

This completely.

Yes.  And the same has happened to me several times.