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Any other toddlers STILL not STTN
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Or do I have the only one? Tim has only STTN a handful of times. We've been to sleep specialists and that was a joke and a huge waste of time and money (Insurance only covered a portion of it). I;m so over not getting sleep. I just wish one of my boys would STTN.
It doesn't seem to matter what I do with him he won't sleep through the night!
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Re: Any other toddlers STILL not STTN
Avery is 26 1/2 months and has only slept through the night a handful of times as well.
He was doing pretty well in November - we had worked hard on getting him to sleep in his own bed all night, and had gotten to the point that he only woke up once and all we had to do was stand in the doorway and tell him to go back to sleep. Then he'd be up at 5 or so and would come to our room and get in bed with us for the last hour before we had to get up.
But then he got really sick at the end of November and slept in our bed all week. Since then, we haven't had a single good night. He wakes up screaming at around midnight or 1 and ends up sleeping with us the rest of the night. He's so panicked that there's no way I can get him to stay in his own room / own bed.
I don't know what to do anymore. He sleeps fine once he's with us - but never when he's on his own.
I'm glad I'm not alone.
Tim had a good stretch back in early September, but then we lost power for a week and then that ended that. Not sure if it was a coincidence or not.
I just dont know what else to do anymore.
I just thought I'd add that Timmy has the same pajamas as your LO lol.
DS started just recently at 29 months about a week after I got the OK to Wake clock. DD started at 22 months when I weaned them. It's a long freaking road, for sure. Good luck.
ETA: He still doesn't STTN- he wakes up, babbles a couple minutes and goes back to sleep at least twice a night. He doesn't call for me until the red light turns green and now he yells "Mama gee (green) gooooooo!" Life is good.
At his 2 yr appt pedi recommended not letting him out of the room when he woke (if he woke after 4 I'd just get up for the day) until 6. So I put a mattress in his room and if he woke, I went to him, but we laid on the mattress until 6. sometimes he'd fall back asleep, sometimes he just snuggled, sometimes he was annoyed, but I stuck to it.
When I got the clock I did the same, set the clock for 6 and a red light (it's a cute stoplight). I told him in the morning we'd get to watch turn green. So for a few days I'd go in and when it turned green I'd jump up and cheer and say green is gooooooooo!!!!!!" And love on him and dance and burst out of his room like a wild woman. Then on his own he'd wake and fuss a few minutes and go back to sleep (or at least quiet) until after 6. I've never done CIO with my kids so I was irritated with DH for letting him fuss (his one day of the week to get up with DS) because he was being a lazy butt. But DS did it!
I don't think DS needs to know his colors. My DS is very language delayed but we always point at stoplights and do the ASL signs for green and go, and red and stop. We'd been doing that awhile and I was just lucky that one of the OK to wake clocks happened to be a stoplight. Good luck!
At his 2 yr appt pedi recommended not letting him out of the room when he woke (if he woke after 4 I'd just get up for the day) until 6. So I put a mattress in his room and if he woke, I went to him, but we laid on the mattress until 6. sometimes he'd fall back asleep, sometimes he just snuggled, sometimes he was annoyed, but I stuck to it.
When I got the clock I did the same, set the clock for 6 and a red light (it's a cute stoplight). I told him in the morning we'd get to watch turn green. So for a few days I'd go in and when it turned green I'd jump up and cheer and say green is gooooooooo!!!!!!" And love on him and dance and burst out of his room like a wild woman. Then on his own he'd wake and fuss a few minutes and go back to sleep (or at least quiet) until after 6. I've never done CIO with my kids so I was irritated with DH for letting him fuss (his one day of the week to get up with DS) because he was being a lazy butt. But DS did it!
I don't think DS needs to know his colors. My DS is very language delayed but we always point at stoplights and do the ASL signs for green and go, and red and stop. We'd been doing that awhile and I was just lucky that one of the OK to wake clocks happened to be a stoplight. Good luck!
Did he ever cry/scream when he forced to stay in his room? He sounds like my son to a T from waking up at 4 to start his day to the language delay.
I also don't do the CIO it's not for me at all. Not to mention I don't want him to wake my other son up.
I need to start having my husband get up once a week with Tim, yes he works full time.... but that doesn';t mean just because I stay home I'm not as deserving of sleep. And I need to start standing up for myself about that.
My husband will suddenly have lead in his feet when I ask him to ho get Tim. In the mean time the neighbors down the street are now awake too because Tim's screaming so loudly lol
Oh yeah there was screaming sometimes. Oh. Yeah. But it never woke the girls- we have a noise cancelling machine in their room, so that probably helped.
As for the hubby, we went around for a long time. I coslept with the twins for 10 months and nursed 22 months so night duty was always mine, but once when I was sick I asked him to get up in the morning with them and he went off on a tirade that I stay at home, that's my job and I railed on him and it really affected us, and it was tense but then a month later he suddenly started getting up with John on Saturdays and watching the kids 20 minutes in the evenings so I could go on the elliptical. We are much better now. Boys are dumb, you need to whack them on the head with a club and make them see a little more clearly. As smart and successful as my husband is, I am stymied at how stupid he was being. Now that the kids are all toddlers, and interactive, he is better adjusted, having more fun with them. That helped I think. He hates the baby phase and seriously changed a total of 5 diapers the first year of the twins' lives. Hopefully your husband will feel more connected, and thus vested, too. Good luck!
we are in the same boat...DS wakes once a night and we have gotten into the horrible habit of taking him into our bed. I need to stop this and work hard at getting him back into his own bed but I work 12 hr shifts and am so exhausted that I usually just give up (i know, bad mommy lol!)
where do you get this "wake clock"? I saw one in ONE STEP AHEAD...is this the one you bought? Thinking of trying it.
https://www.onestepahead.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=536615&cmSource=Search
You sound so much like one of my friends lol I cant believe you coslept with twins. Nights when we have both boys in the bed it's CROWDED. Mike will go and sleep on the couch and then complains... Really! You won;t win that argument. You get a minimum of 8 hours of sleep EVERY night. I don't care if you had to sleep on a bed of nails (slight exaggeration) you still get far more sleep than I have in over 2 years.
Mike's good with the boys, and will change diapers. But it's not an immediate thing and typically only does it if I'm not around and a poopy diaper.
I get 'me' time at the gym but I take the boys with me and I never know if staff is going to come get me and the amount of work to get them there lol
I've never heard of a noise canceling machine before.
I'm skeptical of the Ok to wake clock though, but I should try it. I saw it on Amazon. I just want sleep! I've tried everything. I';ve tried Benadryl and Melatonin and that made him sleep so much worse.
I take the boys to bed for the same reason. I'm exhausted and need to get out of that habit. But desperation always wins. And it's so much easier with Nick because I can sleep and feed him at the same time. Thank God for breast feeding.
Hah- I had a queen size bed in their room- we didn't even bbuy a crib until they were 7-8 months old. When they started rolling I moved just the mattress to the floor.
here's the clock I got- https://www.amazon.com/Stoplight-Sleep-Enhancing-Groovy-Butterflies/dp/B002TKLN3W/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325448692&sr=8-1-fkmr1
dig around and click on "boy car"
We got this machine: https://www.amazon.com/Marpac-980A-Sound-Screen-Conditioner/dp/B000MPH0PG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325449076&sr=8-1
There are fancier ones that increase the white noise when outside noise increases. I may invest in one for DH's snoring. It will sound like the ocean- LOL!
I'm afraid my plot isn't immediate help- takes a little prep work. And I really didn't think it would work, but was desperate myself.
Another thought. My oldest developed some night fears and was waking a lot screaming right about the time we were moving Adeline out of John's room because of his crap sleep. My oldest begged to share her room, so we dumped DD#2 into a toddler bed out of the blue that night in #1's room- and it was fantastic for all 3. Would you consider taking a risk and putting the kids in the same room? I know my twins rarely woke eachother when they cried at night, and the girls never wake eachother... it may be comforting?
I love the expression dumped haha. That mademe laugh.
We're actually looking into converting his crib into the full. Maybe he just doesn't like the crib? He seems to sleep better in our bed so who knows.
I never thought of having them share the same room. It may help in some strange way. We're also in the process of getting Nick out of our room, we just need Tims crib mattress for Nicks crib, I refuse to buy another crib mattress lol.
That ok to wake clocks better than another one I found. This is the one I found