I just need a VENT. I feel like giving up on my hopes of having a VBAC. I know this is probably irrational (imagine that from a pregnant woman) but nothing is happening right now. In fact I am progressing less this time around than I did with DS. I know with VBAC hopefuls they tell you that if you get hung up for the same reason as your previous c-section then you have little chance of a VBAC actually happening. I am 37w 5d, closed up tight, 25% effaced and baby is at a 4 station, so pretty much floating around up there.
With DS by this time I was closed, 50% effaced and he was at a 2 station. I know that all of this means nothing and I could go into labor tomorrow but I can't help but feel like something is wrong with me. I think the reality of this actually not happening is starting to hit. I wouldn't mind going to 41 weeks if I knew that this VBAC will happen but I am afraid to get there and have them tell me I have to have a repeat c-section because they don't induce VBACs. I just want a big glass/bottle of wine right now.
Re: Feel like giving up
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
This exactly.
The last weeks of any pregnancy are hard and I think it's even harder when you're hoping for a VBAC. I felt like a crazy person the last few weeks of my VBAC pregnancy and I was sure that my body was broken and I was just going to end up with a RCS and everyone would criticize me for being too focused on having a vaginal birth etc etc. In fact, I left my 39 week appointment wanting to cry because I found out my baby was OP (the reason for my c-section) and I was just sure I would end up with the same scenario as my first pregnancy. I went into labor that night and had my VBAC.
I didn't get checked at all because I knew that having more information would just give me more to obsess over and fuel my anxiety. Sometimes more is not better.
Hang in there!
And yes, January 15th is the day! Glad I have someone else who is going through this and due the same time! Labor dust for both of us!
Thank you!! And much appreciated!