things that make you go grrrr...

Gracey_Manor Maid

Dh and I have been trying for baby number two for almost a year. My 18 year old cousin just announced that she is "pregalishious" (her word not mine) on facebook with a picture of the first sonogram. She's having twins. two seconds later she messaged me asking if she could have penny's baby clothes "since ya'll aren't gonna need them" and she is sure at least one of the babies is a girl. I want to tell her no but if I do it right now it will be a snarky possibly mean message.

Hello my name is grace and I am only a little bit bitter...*sigh* 

 

vshadd00

Gracey_Manor Maid:

Dh and I have been trying for baby number two for almost a year. My 18 year old cousin just announced that she is "pregalishious" (her word not mine) on facebook with a picture of the first sonogram. She's having twins. two seconds later she messaged me asking if she could have penny's baby clothes "since ya'll aren't gonna need them" and she is sure at least one of the babies is a girl. I want to tell her no but if I do it right now it will be a snarky possibly mean message.

Hello my name is grace and I am only a little bit bitter...*sigh* 

 

Who does this???? ::hugs::

chach916

That is sh*tty.  I'm sorry.

3003girl

I would politely tell her that you are hoping to need them soon, and you're sure she will get items for her baby shower if she has one. 

rude, and very immature, but given her age maybe it was just a dumb mistake.  

Gracey_Manor Maid

solidio:

I would politely tell her that you are hoping to need them soon, and you're sure she will get items for her baby shower if she has one. 

rude, and very immature, but given her age maybe it was just a dumb mistake.  

I am 99 percent sure this is the case which is why I didn't respond immedietly. It would be wonderful If i could tell her no because...we are ya know...about to use them again.

 

Kitiara5512

MandJS:

Even if you're not "about" to use them, I'd still say no. Or go through and give her things that you aren't nuts about so she has SOMETHING and keep the nice stuff for you. And let her know that you're family is not complete, so you may still need it all.

All of this. You dont just ask people for hand me downs. You wait til after the 20 wk sonogram and then let people offer clothes and stuff. Idiot. Blaming it on the age.

jarebearsmom

the SAME thing happened to us! Wonder if it's the same chick lol... My cousin is only 16 though and she is having twins... She doesn't even know what they are yet and she asked me for ALL of DS's old stuff... Not just clothes... After a LONG time of trying to figure out what to say I finally messaged her back and told her that our family wasn't complete yet and we were saving all of DS's stuff in case he has a little brother.

historychick79

That would definitely be rough; sorry she's not that sensitive. In addition to PPs suggestions, you could always stall by telling her you would like to wait until they have confirmed the sex of the babies (where you may have a happy announcement by then). And really, while it's heartbreaking to know it's not quite your turn yet, who would really want to be 18yrs old with twins...

Kingston54

I would just tell her that you aren't finished having children and that you'd like to save them for your future baby.  Just say it in a nice way even though you probably don't want to.  Won't do any good to be mean.

Lilywildcat

I am sorry you feel bad Sometimes people don't think before they speak (or write on FB) I know if it were me personally, i would say "Actually, we are going to need them because we will be having more children. I am sorry, i am not ready to give them away" or something like that. I hope that doesn't sound snarky, it's not intended to.

I can sort of understand how you feel though, It took us 2 yrs to have our first, a friend of mine got married a few months before me and had 2 before i had my first. EVERYONE kept asking "so when are you going to have a baby" and after the 100th time, it still irritated me. I just replied "oh when it's time, you'll know" or "It's up to God".