Can I join?

erinfiona

Hi ladies... I hope some of you remember me.  I'm sad to see so many of you still here.  I took a break from TB after my 3rd MC, cleared my head, quit my mega-stress job, took a month off with DH and spent lots of quality time with our RE.  Anyways, we're trying again starting this cycle and I'd love to join back in and offer support.  Here's to a MUCH better 2012 for all of us and thank you for having me back if you will

1220winterbride

Hello, sorry about your struggles. Hope this year brings you comfort and happiness.

erinfiona

thank you for your reply.

Based on the number of views my post received and the lack of replies, I'm thinking that I was perhaps in the wrong to post here....?? 

cmumama

I just haven't seen you before.  The members of this group have been active part of the TTCAL community before posting here.  I posted on TTCAL for over 10 months before coming over.

I'm very sorry for your loss though.  Please join us over on TTCAL.

LSzwaya

I am sorry you're here. Hopefully 2012 brings a lot of happiness and joy!

CashewsMommy

erinfiona:

thank you for your reply.

Based on the number of views my post received and the lack of replies, I'm thinking that I was perhaps in the wrong to post here....?? 

Posts on 6+ get a lot of views and not a lot of responses in general. 

Lack of responses might be because people just do not recognize you. I personally don't. One of the biggest things for 6+ is not only TTCAL for 6+ months, but also an active part of the community for 6+ months... to where people know you and recognize you.

I'm not saying 6+ isn't the right place for you. I would hate to turn someone away if they think this side of the board is better for you than the other side. My suggestion would be to offer up a lot of support and let us get the chance to know you.  

cmumama

CashewsMommy:

erinfiona:

thank you for your reply.

Based on the number of views my post received and the lack of replies, I'm thinking that I was perhaps in the wrong to post here....?? 

Posts on 6+ get a lot of views and not a lot of responses in general. 

Lack of responses might be because people just do not recognize you. I personally don't. One of the biggest things for 6+ is not only TTCAL for 6+ months, but also an active part of the community for 6+ months... to where people know you and recognize you.

I'm not saying 6+ isn't the right place for you. I would hate to turn someone away if they think this side of the board is better for you than the other side. My suggestion would be to offer up a lot of support and let us get the chance to know you.  

Very well said and I completely agree.

Carolee

I recognize you from TTCAL.  Welcome over here, although I'm sorry you are joining us.  And I agree with Petra -

PetraStonegirl:

 Oh, and don't let the high views/low responses bother you. we're kind of like the zoo here. Only a folks live here, but everyone likes to watch. 

newerinfiona

Ok.  I'm sorry but I have to reply to this.  I haven't see YOU before, especially not on TTCAL which I was active on for a very long time... I've had 3 losses over 2 years, not just the one you offer condolences to me for before telling me to go to another board.   I took maybe a month off from posting, politely offer an intro, and I get this? 

newerinfiona

newerinfiona:

Ok.  I'm sorry but I have to reply to this.  I haven't see YOU before, especially not on TTCAL which I was active on for a very long time... I've had 3 losses over 2 years, not just the one you offer condolences to me for before telling me to go to another board.   I took maybe a month off from posting, politely offer an intro, and I get this? 

 

This is in response to cmumama.  Petra and carolee, I remember you too and thank you for your kind responses.  Cashew, I remember you well and had hoped you'd have remembered me too. 

newerinfiona

PetraStonegirl:

newerinfiona:

newerinfiona:

Ok.  I'm sorry but I have to reply to this.  I haven't see YOU before, especially not on TTCAL which I was active on for a very long time... I've had 3 losses over 2 years, not just the one you offer condolences to me for before telling me to go to another board.   I took maybe a month off from posting, politely offer an intro, and I get this? 

 

This is in response to cmumama.  Petra and carolee, I remember you too and thank you for your kind responses.  Cashew, I remember you well and had hoped you'd have remembered me too. 

Deep breath, Erin. I know cmumama didn't give you the welcome you were hoping for, and I'm sorry for it. But, she was taking a break from the TTCAL board when you were more active on the boards, I believe.

I think it's truly a case of crossed-wires, and I propose a truce.

We are all in a very shitty position to still be here after all this time.

As for Cashews, I didn't see anything to indicate that she didn't remember you, she was just working to let you know not to take a slow reception personally.

I hope you'll stick around.

Oh, and what happened to your s/n? Is teh bump not letting you into your usual one? 

Hi Petra.  Thanks for taking the time to reply, it means a lot, please know that.

Actually Cashews did specifically say she personally doesn't remember me.  That stung a wee bit, but cumama's response is what upset me so much, after all of the time I have spent on TTCAL during 3 MCs over 2 years, that I deleted my original account.  I can usually let things go, but that hit such a nerve when I read it.  I seriously was a mess last night because of it.   This is supposed to be a safe place (that I really need right now) and she made it feel like anything but.  She couldn't even be bothered to read my old siggie. 

It would be nice to hear a reply from her. 

Thank you again for making me feel welcome.  I just don't know that I'll be sticking around.  I wish you all the best in 2012.