I am 16 weeks along with our suprise #2, DS just turned one! I am feeling so guilty because I just feel no connection to this new baby...I forget that I am pregnant some days!
I remember being this far along with DS and being so excited, thinking of names and already feeling a connection, but this time around, it's so completely different and I am feeling really guilty about it! It doesn't help that my SIL is expecting their first the same week as me, and my MIL keeps commenting on how much more excited SIL is than I am
When did you feel connected to baby #2?
Re: When did it feel "real"?
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For me, it was just different the second time. The first time was all about me and the baby and getting ready and excitement, etc. The second time was all about the new baby and taking care of him, so I had no time to think about me or the baby that was growing in my belly.
Like the others said, once he was born was when it felt real. But I have such a special bond with him, it melts my heart. So no worries that it will change anything once your LO arrives, you will still bond and have a wonderful connection!
Ditto. Once I held him it was all good and I stopped worrying I wouldn't love him enough. )
I totally know what you mean. DS1 is in daycare full-time still, so I am home with DS2 during the week.. and there are times I look at him or think about him and realize I'm thinking about him as DS1. It's very surreal. They're even pretty different kids, don't look too much alike, but there's something odd about the fact that it was less than 2 years ago when DS1 was a newborn so my mind still goes back there!
I'm still waiting to completely connect with DD, although I imagine it'll happen at birth like so many of the PPers. It did became much more real when I started feeling stronger movements from her, especially the night that she repeatedly kicked our dog in the head (he'd laid his head on my belly.) But, at this point she's still just an inside baby I'm waiting to meet.
I'm just waiting to jump from her being real to her being "my DD", you know? I think it's easy to get lost in your older child until the younger one is outside and demanding attention too.
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