NPR poll: is this slightly annoying/controlling or no?

EMT

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JenniC1135

Unless it was really complicated, I would just assume it was a family favorite or something they know you've done before and they really enjoyed it.

Yodajo

Normally, I would say yes.  For instance, if someone said, "I saw a recipe on Food Network.  Here it is.  Make this, please"  I would find that annoying.  Green bean casserole though?  Some people are just weird I think about having it with holidays, so I would overlook it. 

Chapter79

Nah, that's kinda normal in my family.
I'm asked to make the same exact thing every.single.holiday by my family. But, it's because they enjoy it.. and they would miss it if I stopped making it. Has nothing to do with control or anything, they just wanna eat it

Rebekah1021

I'm going in with this thinking it's a family recipe or something. I wouldn't find that annoying.

EMT

I was asked to make pioneer woman so can't be a family recipe. It did take me twice as long as my green beans do and the whole kitchen was a mess as a result. Pioneer woman has sort of "jumped the shark" for me and her stuff always takes me a lot longer to do than she says it will. I was also stuck in the kitchen while DD road her new bike fortune first time which bugged me. Oh and my green beans are better . I'm just wondering if I'm being overly sensitive though...first holiday dinner not hosted by me or my mom and I think maybe I'm looking for a reason to be annoyed?

AggieCouple

I personally find it annoying too. In my family, we state what we want to bring. Sometimes one of us might say, "too many soups maybe?" but no one tells us what to bring.  

shopgirl78

I'd be annoyed that it was boring, ole green bean casserole...I am capable of harder things : ) 

But I am in a mood tonight.... 

jessicaclare

It sort of depends. MIL asks me to bring a specific pasta salad I make because everyone really likes it, so that doesn't bug me. However, if it was something like "We want mashed potatoes, but you have to use this recipe" and it wasn't something I had made before, just something she decided she wanted but didn't want to make herself, then I'd be annoyed.

Littlejen22

Can you make a green bean casserole, not annoying.  Can you make this specific green bean casserole annoying.  If someone is that specific about how they want it then they should make it themself.

MrsCali_Bride

Nope. If you ask something like that you should expect to receive special requests.

shopgirl_07

Yeah, asking you to make a specific recipe is super annoying. If it was so important that they had PW green bean casserole, you'd think they would have made it themselves.

snowflakemom

I would definitely be annoyed by that. I have hosted Christmas Eve dinner for the past two years and I would never think of asking someone to bring a specific recipe for something (unless as some of the PPs stated it was something that they have made before that we all love). If someone offers to bring something, I go with a generic "sure, how about dinner rolls?" or something that they could either easily make themselves or pick up at a store/bakery.

eclaires

snowflakemom:

I would definitely be annoyed by that. I have hosted Christmas Eve dinner for the past two years and I would never think of asking someone to bring a specific recipe for something (unless as some of the PPs stated it was something that they have made before that we all love). If someone offers to bring something, I go with a generic "sure, how about dinner rolls?" or something that they could either easily make themselves or pick up at a store/bakery.

Agreed.

The situation you described, EMT - totally annoying and controlling.  Also, specifying a recipe from the Pioneer Woman is doubly annoying b/c I think her recipes are frequently a giant pain in the ass for not much payoff.

jlw2505

My MIL does this and it drives me nuts.  I am fine with bring a veggie or even bring a cooked veggie and I could live with bring cooked carrots but please do not tell me how to cook the carrots.  DH and I were once given a receipe for a salad!!!  My thought is that if you want very specific items at the table, just tell me no thanks and that you have everything under control.  In my family, for all holidays the host cooks the main dishes and then everyone else is assigned another part of the meal but it is always just done with a basic, you bring a cooked veggie or if its Thanksgiving - you bring the sweet pots, you bring a salad, you bring an appt, you bring dessert.

honkytonk_kid

I would not find it annoying if it came from H's family. I have a long-standing tradition of not questioning anything their family does, especially regarding holidays, lol. I just go with it. It's way less annoying for me to be given a very specific recipe than for them to say "Oh, just bring whatever you want, dessert would be great!" and for me to show up with 2 pies, cookies, and pumpkin dip thinking I am in charge of dessert, only to take home 90% of it because everyone brought dessert.

I mean, it's definitely a little odd, but I wouldn't waste energy being annoyed.