Never thought I would resort to this...

Oceanbabe2012

When I came on the boards to lurk this past spring, I learned about the whole pillow under your butt for a while after sex was a "wives tale."  It is in the new member info and many girls on here would say that you should just get up and pee after sex.  That sperm are going so fast, that whatever sperm is going to get there will get there.  So I of course tell this to my friends who are all pregnant with their second, because when I say that we keep trying and nothing they all chime in saying, "Make sure you stay laying there with a pillow under your butt."  I would tell them the info I learned here, but they all would not agree(individually, on there own.)  I kept priding myself knowing that I knew the "real truth" and would never resort to doing something that is not true.

Well here I am...my fertile week of cycle 6 and am laying down after sex with a pillow propping my pelvis up.  I kept reading so much before this cycle and info after info talking about doing this...Docs, REs, and other people suggesting this all over the place.  What got me thinking was this....If my husband does have a sperm motility issue(sperm is having trouble moving toward the egg or anything along those lines) then maybe not getting up right away and having my pelvis tilted just might, one of the times, help the "right sperm" meet the egg or at least get up there to wait for it.  I know many girls on here will say this does not matter, but I guess after trying for 5 months I am willing to try any wives tale that is out there.  I just want to be able to say that I have "tried" everything, if we get to a year.

When my friends ask if I have tried this method because once they did it they all got pregnant,(even if it is not true), I want to honestly be able to say, "yes I have tried that and it did not do anything."

 

cowgirltu

All your going to get an a UTI.

Oceanbabe2012

I know, I know.

MeganJane915

cowgirltu:

All your going to get an a UTI.

I second that! I don't know that the risk of bacteria being able to travel better is worth the POSSIBLE (but not proven) benefit of "helping the sperm"...IMO. 

lynsien

At least you can say you've tried EVERYTHING then, even if you do get a UTI in the process. Hopefully you do get your BFP though.

KdgTeacher

MeganJane915:

cowgirltu:

All your going to get an a UTI.

I second that! I don't know that the risk of bacteria being able to travel better is worth the POSSIBLE (but not proven) benefit of "helping the sperm"...IMO. 

This is more true if you are prone to UTIs in the first place.  I hardly ever get up to pee after sex and I've never had a UTI in my 26 years.

KdgTeacher

OP, I'm sure you don't intend to, but you come across very "woe is me" everytime you post something like this.  "Resorting" to something like proping your hips up (which hasn't been proven to do anythng) "on cycle 6" just screams ( to me anyway) that you want someone to suggest going to a DR snce you aren't KU yet.  It raises an eyebrow even further given the other info you've passed along about how you'll proceed after you hit 1 year TTC.

I loathe this advice, but sometimes...it just fits.  RELAX!

Oceanbabe2012

GhostMonkey:

Oceanbabe2012:

I know, I know.

So why babble about it and try to justify why you know is a bad decision?

You seem awfully intent on solving fertility issues you may have before your year is up and you move on to adoption. Perhaps you need to revisit your feelings on how you are going to proceed.

 

People try different things after a few month of not getting pregnant.  I am just trying something that others have tried, that I have not.  No need to get all hyped up about it.  If I get a UTI then I know I brought it on myself, but it is just something I want to try after reading a lot about the topic and people's experiences.  Some people try visits to the Chiro, some try the pillow, some try different positions, some try drinking/eating differently.  You need to stop obsessing about me wanting to adopt a child in the future...it is not a big deal. 

Oceanbabe2012

KdgTeacher:

OP, I'm sure you don't intend to, but you come across very "woe is me" everytime you post something like this.  "Resorting" to something like proping your hips up (which hasn't been proven to do anythng) "on cycle 6" just screams ( to me anyway) that you want someone to suggest going to a DR snce you aren't KU yet.  It raises an eyebrow even further given the other info you've passed along about how you'll proceed after you hit 1 year TTC.

I loathe this advice, but sometimes...it just fits.  RELAX!

Why does it raise a eyebrow?  Sorry if you think it is crazy, but I am just trying it.  I said I never would because I learned on here it does nothing, but its hard whenever everyone around me is on their 2nd child and keeps nagging me "you need to stay laying down with your butt propped up."  Its is stupid peer pressure I know, but for one cycle I am giving in.  I am not suggesting anyone else to do this that is why I explained in my original post about how it says not to do this on this board, this website on the other hand gives the "wrong" info.

ball.and.chain

FWIW, the midwives who do my IUIs have me lie down with a pillow under my butt for 20 minutes after the procedure.  From what I have gleaned from books, message boards, and other women I know who've had IUIs, this seems to be pretty common practice.

I know frozen sperm (which I'm using) isn't the same as semen.  And there's no risk of UTIs in this case, so it might just be a can't-hurt kind of thing.  But why bother if there weren't some benefit to it?

pinkflipflops44

I hope you washed the pillowcase.

KdgTeacher

Oceanbabe2012:

KdgTeacher:

OP, I'm sure you don't intend to, but you come across very "woe is me" everytime you post something like this.  "Resorting" to something like proping your hips up (which hasn't been proven to do anythng) "on cycle 6" just screams ( to me anyway) that you want someone to suggest going to a DR snce you aren't KU yet.  It raises an eyebrow even further given the other info you've passed along about how you'll proceed after you hit 1 year TTC.

I loathe this advice, but sometimes...it just fits.  RELAX!

Why does it raise a eyebrow?  Sorry if you think it is crazy, but I am just trying it.  I said I never would because I learned on here it does nothing, but its hard whenever everyone around me is on their 2nd child and keeps nagging me "you need to stay laying down with your butt propped up."  Its is stupid peer pressure I know, but for one cycle I am giving in.  I am not suggesting anyone else to do this that is why I explained in my original post about how it says not to do this on this board, this website on the other hand gives the "wrong" info.

Please show me where I said it was crazy. 

 It isn't that you are trying something you heard.  Go for it!  Have fun!  Good luck!  What raises an eyebrow is the way you present your "new idea" as something ZOMG I'm not pregnant by cycle 6 so look what I have to resort to to try and get pregnant ::insert foot stomping:: 

 

Oceanbabe2012

ball.and.chain:

FWIW, the midwives who do my IUIs have me lie down with a pillow under my butt for 20 minutes after the procedure.  From what I have gleaned from books, message boards, and other women I know who've had IUIs, this seems to be pretty common practice.

I know frozen sperm (which I'm using) isn't the same as semen.  And there's no risk of UTIs in this case, so it might just be a can't-hurt kind of thing.  But why bother if there weren't some benefit to it?

This is another thing I read about with fertility treatments...most women were tipped back and had to lay there for awhile.  That made me wonder, if they are making them being tilt back, then there must be some reason for it such as wanting to help and not letting gravity take its course.  Who knows though, just something I am going to try. 

Oceanbabe2012

KdgTeacher:

Oceanbabe2012:

KdgTeacher:

OP, I'm sure you don't intend to, but you come across very "woe is me" everytime you post something like this.  "Resorting" to something like proping your hips up (which hasn't been proven to do anythng) "on cycle 6" just screams ( to me anyway) that you want someone to suggest going to a DR snce you aren't KU yet.  It raises an eyebrow even further given the other info you've passed along about how you'll proceed after you hit 1 year TTC.

I loathe this advice, but sometimes...it just fits.  RELAX!

Why does it raise a eyebrow?  Sorry if you think it is crazy, but I am just trying it.  I said I never would because I learned on here it does nothing, but its hard whenever everyone around me is on their 2nd child and keeps nagging me "you need to stay laying down with your butt propped up."  Its is stupid peer pressure I know, but for one cycle I am giving in.  I am not suggesting anyone else to do this that is why I explained in my original post about how it says not to do this on this board, this website on the other hand gives the "wrong" info.

Please show me where I said it was crazy. 

 It isn't that you are trying something you heard.  Go for it!  Have fun!  Good luck!  What raises an eyebrow is the way you present your "new idea" as something ZOMG I'm not pregnant by cycle 6 so look what I have to resort to to try and get pregnant ::insert foot stomping:: 

 

Not at all. I am sorry if I came off like that.  Frustration is probably getting the best of me or desperation.  I said I would never do the pillow thing or stay laying down.  I was just writing the post to get off my chest that I am totally going against what I was so against. 

DemoDoll

I don't think it's a horrible idea to give it a try. The month I got a BFP, the only thing I did differently is prop my hips up for 15 minutes after sex. Maybe it was just a coincidence but I didn't get a UTI so I think it was well worth the try. Good luck to you OP!

Oceanbabe2012

GhostMonkey:

Oceanbabe2012:

ball.and.chain:

FWIW, the midwives who do my IUIs have me lie down with a pillow under my butt for 20 minutes after the procedure.  From what I have gleaned from books, message boards, and other women I know who've had IUIs, this seems to be pretty common practice.

I know frozen sperm (which I'm using) isn't the same as semen.  And there's no risk of UTIs in this case, so it might just be a can't-hurt kind of thing.  But why bother if there weren't some benefit to it?

This is another thing I read about with fertility treatments...most women were tipped back and had to lay there for awhile.  That made me wonder, if they are making them being tilt back, then there must be some reason for it such as wanting to help and not letting gravity take its course.  Who knows though, just something I am going to try. 

You aren't doing fertility treatments (and never will per you). That does NOT apply to you. Why are you even reading about them, much less thinking that what they are doing applies to you.

And Kdg is correct that it's more about your approach and woe is me crap that you put in it than hip propping.

 

When I looked up the topic in general of women staying laying down and butt propped up, people's comments about Docs, REs, ect telling them to do so and Docs/REs articles came up.  I would never look up fertility treatments in general, if I was not going through them. 

gatmet

I do it every time. This cycle, cycle 6, I have pretty much been on my head and I don't moved for at least 30min. No UTI here. knock on wood. I'm willing to try everything that I can too. GL

Oceanbabe2012

GhostMonkey:

Oceanbabe2012:

KdgTeacher:

Oceanbabe2012:

KdgTeacher:

OP, I'm sure you don't intend to, but you come across very "woe is me" everytime you post something like this.  "Resorting" to something like proping your hips up (which hasn't been proven to do anythng) "on cycle 6" just screams ( to me anyway) that you want someone to suggest going to a DR snce you aren't KU yet.  It raises an eyebrow even further given the other info you've passed along about how you'll proceed after you hit 1 year TTC.

I loathe this advice, but sometimes...it just fits.  RELAX!

Why does it raise a eyebrow?  Sorry if you think it is crazy, but I am just trying it.  I said I never would because I learned on here it does nothing, but its hard whenever everyone around me is on their 2nd child and keeps nagging me "you need to stay laying down with your butt propped up."  Its is stupid peer pressure I know, but for one cycle I am giving in.  I am not suggesting anyone else to do this that is why I explained in my original post about how it says not to do this on this board, this website on the other hand gives the "wrong" info.

Please show me where I said it was crazy. 

 It isn't that you are trying something you heard.  Go for it!  Have fun!  Good luck!  What raises an eyebrow is the way you present your "new idea" as something ZOMG I'm not pregnant by cycle 6 so look what I have to resort to to try and get pregnant ::insert foot stomping:: 

 

Not at all. I am sorry if I came off like that.  Frustration is probably getting the best of me or desperation.  I said I would never do the pillow thing or stay laying down.  I was just writing the post to get off my chest that I am totally going against what I was so against. 

On cycle 6 and you are desperate?

And this newbs is the very definition a wannabe infertile.

 

Oh jeeze, really?  People can say they are desperate for a baby and not be a "wannabe infertile."  Desperation for a child has nothing to do with how many cycles you have tried.  You really get hyped up about nothing. 

ncbouchard

gatmet:

I do it every time. This cycle, cycle 6, I have pretty much been on my head and I don't moved for at least 30min. No UTI here. knock on wood. I'm willing to try everything that I can too. GL

You must have a lot of time on your hands.... 

Oceanbabe2012

GhostMonkey:

Oceanbabe2012:

GhostMonkey:

Oceanbabe2012:

Not at all. I am sorry if I came off like that.  Frustration is probably getting the best of me or desperation.  I said I would never do the pillow thing or stay laying down.  I was just writing the post to get off my chest that I am totally going against what I was so against. 

On cycle 6 and you are desperate?

And this newbs is the very definition a wannabe infertile.

 

Oh jeeze, really?  People can say they are desperate for a baby and not be a "wannabe infertile."  Desperation for a child has nothing to do with how many cycles you have tried.  You really get hyped up about nothing. 

You need mental help if you think being desperate for a baby is healthy at any point of trying.

 

Alright.  Ending my comments, because it will just go back and forth with you.  We do not agree on things and that is okay.

angelsnight

Honestly if a person is not prone to UTI's, I see no harm in it.  Years ago before I knew you should pee after sex and when I used condoms, I had no pressing need to get up and run to the bathroom.  I did usually go within an hour I am sure, but not running the second we were done did not get me a UTI.

Actually my BFP cycle was the very first time I ever didn't get up and run to the bathroom right away.  I laid there for a few (for a few minutes, not 30) and I did not prop my hips up.  I credit my BFP to the fact that I O'd and we had good timing that month, but it was kind of nice to lay there with my H and not run off to the bathroom right away. 

I would never tell anyone this is what they should do, but if it makes for a more pleasant "after sex time" doesn't result in a UTI, and it satisfies their superstition, I see no harm.  

landosmommy

ncbouchard:

gatmet:

I do it every time. This cycle, cycle 6, I have pretty much been on my head and I don't moved for at least 30min. No UTI here. knock on wood. I'm willing to try everything that I can too. GL

You must have a lot of time on your hands.... 

You mean head, right? LOL

clock84

Ok I'm super new to the bump and it is really turning me away from this site that everyone is putting her down for the things she is trying.  Yes, I agree witht he people giving advice on the last resort and year deadline, so please don't get me wrong.  However I have heard from tons of pregnant women or women with children that throwingyour legs up helps.  If you research it, it says it can't hurt and that if you have a tilted cervix it actually can help get the sperm to it's destination.  I know about a handful of women with children who say once they threw their legs up they got pregnant.  In all my research it doesnt say anything about UTI's and I currently do this and have had no issues (knock on woodd).  I used to pee right after sex however since TTC I have been postponing peeing to avoid all the little guys swimming away as ridiculous as that sounds, we do what we do becasue we think it helps and unless it hurts what does it matter to anywone else.  In the few days I have been reading posts the negativity has been turning me off of this site.  I hope it's not a normal thing.

KdgTeacher

clock84:

Ok I'm super new to the bump and it is really turning me away from this site that everyone is putting her down for the things she is trying.  Yes, I agree witht he people giving advice on the last resort and year deadline, so please don't get me wrong.  However I have heard from tons of pregnant women or women with children that throwingyour legs up helps.  If you research it, it says it can't hurt and that if you have a tilted cervix it actually can help get the sperm to it's destination.  I know about a handful of women with children who say once they threw their legs up they got pregnant.  In all my research it doesnt say anything about UTI's and I currently do this and have had no issues (knock on woodd).  I used to pee right after sex however since TTC I have been postponing peeing to avoid all the little guys swimming away as ridiculous as that sounds, we do what we do becasue we think it helps and unless it hurts what does it matter to anywone else.  In the few days I have been reading posts the negativity has been turning me off of this site.  I hope it's not a normal thing.

Did you actually READ what people are "putting her down for" as you put it?  It IS NOT the fact that she wants to prop up her darn hips...it is the WAY she is presenting it.  All of her "woe is me I'm not pregnant after 6 months and LOOK WHAT I HAVE TO DO NOOOOOOW" attitude that people are irked out.

ETA: and I can assure you that "throwing your legs up in the air" is not what got them pregnant.  More like wel-timed sex, egg meeting sperm, sperm fertilizing egg, and egg implanting got them pregnant.

LadyXaverian

Just go prop your hips and move on. Stop trying to justify it or get permission.

clock84

I completely understand the way she presents it irks everyone I just don't understand why if it bothers everyone they feel the need to comment instead of just letting her be crazy. I'm sure it doesn't feel good being on her end right now after reading everyone comments. Why not just ignore her posts if you don't like them?

clock84

And I know that's not how they got pregnant but when people tell you tidbits that helped them, don't you ever consider trying it?

KdgTeacher

clock84:

I completely understand the way she presents it irks everyone I just don't understand why if it bothers everyone they feel the need to comment instead of just letting her be crazy. I'm sure it doesn't feel good being on her end right now after reading everyone comments. Why not just ignore her posts if you don't like them?

The same reason you're commenting on why our responses bother you.

It's the internet.  And we can. 

Shayliz

I hate the "well they do it after IUI" defense for propping your hips. They also place a catheter in your ute, will you connect one to your husband's penis next time? 

KdgTeacher

GhostMonkey:

clock84:

And I know that's not how they got pregnant but when people tell you tidbits that helped them, don't you ever consider trying it?

No because I know them and that they don't have the slightest clue what they are talking about.

I don't follow the advice of the ignorant. Being pregnant or having a child does not in any way, shape or form guarantee that you know everything about conception.

 

 

Or ANYTHING for that matter.

wiggles527

KdgTeacher:

MeganJane915:

cowgirltu:

All your going to get an a UTI.

I second that! I don't know that the risk of bacteria being able to travel better is worth the POSSIBLE (but not proven) benefit of "helping the sperm"...IMO. 

This is more true if you are prone to UTIs in the first place.  I hardly ever get up to pee after sex and I've never had a UTI in my 26 years.

Same here.  I usually lay there (whether my hips are propped or not) for about 10 minutes before getting up to pee.  I've never had a UTI either.  If you're willing to try it then go for it and good luck to you.  Just as long as you know the risks

sourapplemartini

I have 2 kids and am pregnant with my 3rd and I've never propped my hips after sex. 

kathleen02

angelsnight:

Honestly if a person is not prone to UTI's, I see no harm in it.  Years ago before I knew you should pee after sex and when I used condoms, I had no pressing need to get up and run to the bathroom.  I did usually go within an hour I am sure, but not running the second we were done did not get me a UTI.

Actually my BFP cycle was the very first time I ever didn't get up and run to the bathroom right away.  I laid there for a few (for a few minutes, not 30) and I did not prop my hips up.  I credit my BFP to the fact that I O'd and we had good timing that month, but it was kind of nice to lay there with my H and not run off to the bathroom right away. 

I would never tell anyone this is what they should do, but if it makes for a more pleasant "after sex time" doesn't result in a UTI, and it satisfies their superstition, I see no harm.  

Welcome back to the thread common sense. Yeah, all this UTI talk is a little dramatic. I didn't jump off the bed to run to the bathroom after DTD the cycle I got PG so yeah.