new to the bump and TTc

clock84

We have been TTC for about 4 months now.  Any advice on how to stay calm and patience will be greatly appreciated.  We have been married for a little over 3 years and cant wait to expand our family.  Every month that goes by I feel like I am failing my husband, even though I know he doesn't feel that way.  I know I know whats meant to be will be!!

Dr.Loretta

Welcome. A few things:

1. You've only been trying 4 months. It can take the average healthy couple up to a year to conceive. While 4 months seems like a long time to you, it's a drop in the bucket in the grand scheme of things. If you're still unsuccessful after a year, see your doctor for some testing and help.

2. You have, at best, a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. Through no fault of your own.

3. What are you doing in terms of timing? Are you just playing it by ear or actively TTC? Are you charting? Using ovulation prediction kits? My advice is to read Taking Charge of Your Fertility and/or joining fertilityfriend.com. Very helpful, and can help you feel more in control of what's going on

4. You are not a failure. Take control of what you can control, and the rest you'll just have to see what happens. Enjoy the time you have together before you have kids. They may just be here before you know it.

GL

 

clock84

Thanks!! I know it takes time, patience has never been my strong point but the longer (i know it hasn't been very long) the more patient I feel. 

 

I am tracking my cycle and using Ovulation sticks to track exactly what day I am ovulating and we have been using the :cheater" method as I've heard it been called.  We just make sure every other day between day 10 and 20 we have sex.  In reality I just need to work on my patients skills.

 Thanks for the website suggestion I am going to check it out right now!!