Anyone else have a miserable baby?

Pennylane824

I feel awful saying this but Hannah is hard. She cries a LOT during the day. Wakes up all night long and is just generally unhappy. She has her moments and we just love her to pieces but she is draining.

I used to think we wanted 3 kids but after how hard she's been we've decided that we're good with two.  

katmiller0

no, i have an easy baby.  i am constantly thankful because i know how lucky i am.  my mom always told me number 2 is usually the stinker.  it can't last forever.

Pennylane824

katmiller0:

no, i have an easy baby.  i am constantly thankful because i know how lucky i am.  my mom always told me number 2 is usually the stinker.  it can't last forever.

totally not the commiseration I was looking for when I posted this.  

Pennylane824

katmiller0:

no, i have an easy baby.  i am constantly thankful because i know how lucky i am.  my mom always told me number 2 is usually the stinker.  it can't last forever.

totally not the commiseration I was looking for when I posted this.  

wall0307

My first was really hard.  I really didn't understand why anyone would have two, unless it was an accident.  He's still a difficult child, but he's so much fun too.  I feel like I've invested so much of myself in him.  DS #2 is a sweet, chubby, happy baby.  I still think we are done at two.

BettyBookworm

Pennylane824:

I feel awful saying this but Hannah is hard. She cries a LOT during the day. Wakes up all night long and is just generally unhappy. She has her moments and we just love her to pieces but she is draining.

I used to think we wanted 3 kids but after how hard she's been we've decided that we're good with two.  

((hugs)) mama. Those fussy days are a real PITA. Hopefully we can hold out for more smiles and less tears type days. Hang in there. 

2BlackCats

Have you spoken to her peditrician about it? 

I'm sorry your having a rough time.

Pennylane824

2BlackCats:

Have you spoken to her peditrician about it? 

I'm sorry your having a rough time.

Yup. She's had awful congestion and cough for months. I even took her to an ENT but everything looks "normal" so there's really no explanation. She's just a really tough kid. It's weird how different kids can be. We've done almost everything the same as with my first... the only difference being Hannah is still breastfed and I stopped with Madison at 4 months. Madison was SUCH an easy baby. Hannah? Polar opposite. 

Pennylane824

BettyBookworm:

Pennylane824:

I feel awful saying this but Hannah is hard. She cries a LOT during the day. Wakes up all night long and is just generally unhappy. She has her moments and we just love her to pieces but she is draining.

I used to think we wanted 3 kids but after how hard she's been we've decided that we're good with two.  

((hugs)) mama. Those fussy days are a real PITA. Hopefully we can hold out for more smiles and less tears type days. Hang in there. 

thanks  

2BlackCats

Pennylane824:

2BlackCats:

Have you spoken to her peditrician about it? 

I'm sorry your having a rough time.

Yup. She's had awful congestion and cough for months. I even took her to an ENT but everything looks "normal" so there's really no explanation. She's just a really tough kid. It's weird how different kids can be. We've done almost everything the same as with my first... the only difference being Hannah is still breastfed and I stopped with Madison at 4 months. Madison was SUCH an easy baby. Hannah? Polar opposite. 

Abby is always fussy when she is congested.  We've had a ton of colds with daycare and she gets breathing treatments.  They really help a lot to get the crap out of her lungs. 

I hope Hannah feels better soon and you get a lot of smiles.  Not sleeping all night with a fussy baby and than to have them fuss all day is the worst.  Can you have someone give you a little break?  ((((HUGS))))

Shelleybell

my dd is miserable also.  I keep waiting for the day when she is just happy.  She has happy moments, but overall she is very very difficult.  I have had many people comment that she is the most high maintenance baby they have ever seen.  Hugs I know how you feel. 

mesmom2011

Any chance your DD is sensitive to dairy (or something else)?  My DD is a new baby since I cut dairy out of my diet.  Before that, she was always congested, fussy, gassy, and would not sleep unless we held her. 

virginiagirl11

I have the most difficult baby of anyone we know so I hear ya. He is constantly moving and looking for something new to do and very sensitive to his environment. He is wonderful but intense and picky. We basically refer to him as our adorable pain in the ass.

mommy0411

I am so sorry you DD is difficult! 

My son definitely has his days when I can't put him down without him crying. My only suggestion is on those days I put him on my back in the Ergo. The physical connection with me generally helps calm him down (and I still get stuff done). 

I hope things get better!  

Marcilene1

I know how you feel.  It would be a whole lot easier if she would sleep at least a little at night.  My daughter screams in the car, up until a few weeks ago she screamed in the stroller, and she is only content to play on her own for about 5-10 minutes at a time.  It's rough.  I hope that our babies get over this fussy phase soon!

ITGurl0626

Hugs to you, mama.  My niece was like this too.  She had terrible reflux, lactose sensitivities, & never slept any naps.  My poor sister was at her wits end.  Trust me when I say it does get better.  Sometimes it just gets worse before it's better.  Hang in there....you defintiely aren't alone in this.  (((hugs)))

andreaholt11

I hope it gets better for you I can't imagine. I wonder how common it is for the 2nd child to be more fussy? I'm terrified to have another because I had a rough time with DS and he's very happy.

Hopefully things will get easier as she gets older. Hang in there!

rjveldman

Both my kids were (are) miserable babies. My oldest is autistic, so she spent most of her early years just trying to survive the onslaught of sensory problems. My LO isn't quite as miserable (he's clearly not autistic) but he still is fussy most of the day. He doesn't cry really, but he fusses. I've found that wearing him helps when I need to get things done, otherwise I'm pretty much tethered to the floor with him on my lap, or I'm carrying him. I worried that his motor skills might be hindered by me holding him so much, but he is actually ahead in everything. I'm hopeful that it'll get better with time. Maybe we just have needy babies. I'm content right now that he just needs extra mommy time and my DH is wonderful and doesn't expect me to do much more than basic chores, dinner, and baby care

Pennylane824

Thanks ladies I appreciate the support. 

ohiostategal

I'm sorry things are so difficult.  I just visited with a friend who had baby #2 at the same time as DS was born.  Her first baby was pretty easy and this one is a whole different story.  She is pretty fussy, terrible sleeper, and refuses a bottle so if my friend isn't there to breastfeed her the baby will refuse to eat.  I know it has been really hard on them but I am sure at some point it will get better. Hang in there. 

mari_gold

I would say needy rather than miserable. When she's happy, it's amazing, but she often is fussy. And when she's fussy, if you don't get her EXACTLY what she wants, there is hell to pay. My first didn't seem easy at the time, but in comparison, he was a breeze. I'm hoping things change when she becomes mobile and can get around on her own.

We had talked about having three, too, but I can't go through this again. We're done.

CourtneyRenee9109

I'm truly sorry.

DS was SUCH an easy newborn but once 4 months hit, it seems like he just gets more difficult every month. He throws temper tantrums all the time; he will yell & scream and starting hitting or kicking me...this happens when I change his clothes, change his diaper, put him down, give him medicine...multiple times a day. Feeding is a nightmare, nighttime is miserable, he is SO active and he always needs to be entertained. We only have a few good moments a day.

I don't know if it's teething or just a phase or what it is but it's very, very tough.

Keep strong, things have to get easier soon! (((((HUGS)))))

etude de la vie

yes DD is still a difficult baby. From birth she has been fussy with colic and severe reflux, bad jaundice which turned into breast milk jaundice as a baby. She has always been, since birth, the one who "can't be passed around" she is texture sensitive and can't have certain clothing or sheets touch her skin (nothing with elastic) and she has had eating issues and is the worst picky eater ever. 

She ONLY wants to be with me, never took a lovey or paci (I am the lovie) and is overall a very shy kid and doesn't handle new situations easily. 

DS is the complete opposite in every way! Had he not been an BC/ebfing fail we probably would have waited a while before having another.

My mom constantly reminds me "you get what you get and don't get to choose" I love DD so much and every day is a new exciting challenge. I know how you feel....  

JsMama11

J is a happy baby - but definitely not an easy baby. He is very active and needs to be entertained all. day. long. Oh, and he only naps for 30 mins at a time. It is so exhausting.

AsOctoberFalls

Re: the congestion and cough, DS had that starting when he was less than a month old. His was caused by reflux (those were his only symptoms). Zantac has taken cars of it..

ginsing

You're not alone. DD is very...high maintenance. She also has reflux and milk/soy intolerance. Medication and hypoallergenic formula helped, but she can still be very challenging. Our pedi says she is the most active baby he's ever seen. She hates drinking bottles unless she is exhausted, so feeding is very challenging.  Every diaper and/or clothing change is an absolute nightmare that results in me sweating and her screaming/wrestling with me. I hope it gets better for you (and me too, hehehe). Have you considered talking to your doctor about reflux or milk intolerance? We just had to switch medications after 4 months b/c it was no longer effective. It might be worth checking into b/c both of those things can cause extreme fussiness.

 

Michael-N-Susan

I could have written this post myself.  I often feel that my DD is very unhappy and has been since the day I brought her home.  I love her to pieces but she is such a difficult baby.  As you said - polar opposite than my DS.  He was such an easy going baby and her - no way.  She is constantly fussy and always wants to be held by me.  She is a HORRIBLE sleeper.  My DS STTN at 6 weeks old - there is no end in sight with her.  She was getting up every hours for weeks and we finally determined it was reflux (however she doesn't spit up).  She is a lot better since she was put on Zantac but still gets up every 3 hrs to eat.  I can't go out and about to do errands without her being dramatic.  Naps? Ha! What are those?  It's exhausting. My mom always says if I had her first I would have stopped lol. And I want 3 kids but good grief I'm scared to death.  She can be fed, changed, you name it, and just be screaming.  It's like are you sick, hurting, what??.  It's so frustrating.  I feel like no matter what I do I cant make her happy and it makes me upset. (

I know what you are going through.  It can't last forever..right? )

kristennd

My mother always says that if my brother (2nd child) had been the first kid, he still would have been the last. Totally high-maintenance. Cranky. Never ever slept. And because I (oldest) was super easy, that made him even harder on her.

But that did only last two years and then he was just fine. It was a looong two years, but it ended.

And on the plus side, he was never any trouble as a teenager. Unlike me.

biblionerd

I don't think I saw if you answered, but have you checked into reflux and a milk and/or soy allergy? DS was horrible when he was born, just screaming all day long. We found out he has reflux and a milk allergy. Zantac didn't do anything, but on soy formula and Prevacid he is a new baby. Don't get me wrong... he is still a super high maintenance baby (that's what made me open the post!). I can tell the difference though now between him just being a needy baby and one in pain who cried all day when I thought he was just a "bad baby" before. DS is AWFUL with teething pain. It seems like he's been teething nonstop since 3 months too. He goes from a fine, happy, smiling baby to wailing and desperately shoving anything he can in his mouth in a matter of seconds. I'm holding out hope for when these SIX teeth pop through. I took him to the pediatrician yesterday because he was so grumpy I thought it was an ear infection. She said based on the way his gums look he might be getting ALL top 6 front teeth soon. I guess I can't blame him, but I'm terrified for the next one... in about 3 months.