Please tell me I'm a crazy overreactor!

JNBrickey

Or sympathize with me.  Whichever you prefer.

We had Christmas with the in-laws last night and it went pretty smoothly, except for my two SILs feeding DD a sugar cookie.  They took her off and did it when I wasn't looking.  In the grand scheme of things it's not that big of a deal, right?  Someone go ahead and tell me I'm crazy for it pissing me off.  They say it was just a little bite, but I don't believe that.

I think what pisses me off most is that they know I don't want DD to eat things like that.  I don't really eat sweets at all, so it's not like me or DH ever wanting to feed it to her is really ever an option.  I know she'll eat sweets at some point, that she'll have cake on her first birthday, yadayada, but I still just think eight months is a little young for a cookie.

I still think the biggest part that bothers is me is that they do it behind my back when they know I don't want her to have it and only cop to it because I caught DD chewing.  This is why SIL isn't allowed to baby-sit.  She tried to give DD icing when she was two months old and got mad when I wouldn't let her.  I just don't trust her because I know she doesn't give a sh!t about what I do and don't want for DD.

Athena0809

You are not overreacting. I'd be PO'd too! Especially when I'm really diligent about feeding my kid a certain and people don't respect that. I totally understand. I make it a priority to feed my family organic and people try to feed him out of a Gerber jar! grrrrr!

 

Lilyzmom

I won't let my parents babysit for this very reason. They have tried to feed her inappropriate food since she was 3 months old! Whole crackers, peanut butter etc. You have every right to be upset!

kristennd

I'd cut them out completely. It's a repeat offense.

kerrbear72

As you know, she's totally fine but I'd be pissed too.

JNBrickey

Thanks, ladies!  I do know she's fine, I might have flipped out if it had been a chocolate chip cookie and not a sugar.    It just irks me that they do it knowing that I don't want her to have it.  When I see one of the SILs again on Christmas she won't be walking off with DD this time.

kelly321

As you said, in the grand scheme of things, her having a bit of sugar cookie isn't a big deal. What is a big deal is your SILs disregarding your wishes. That is completely disrespectful, and I would make it clear to them that they will not be allowed to be alone with LO until they demonstrate that they respect your parenting choices, even if they don't agree with them and (would) do it differently with their own children.

rickandcaitlin

I think the issues is them not listening and going along with your parenting style. However..... (dont take offense) but that is part of the fun being an aunt/gma/god parent... you get to spoil and give LO little treats. So I dont think a sugar cookie is that big of a deal. Now if they were doing something harmful to LO that you had asked them not to that would be different. I know as an aunt I snuck my niece a little bit of whipped cream when she was little, or a lick of a popsicle. And I kow that people have snuck my all my children things. Like even know gpa will sneak my older kids a cookie when he thinks I am not looking. I dont think he is going against my wishes, I just think he loves his grandsons and is being a grandfather.

kewltif

I would have flipped out! My family pressures me to feed DD certain things but they have never disregarded my wishes. I would have a serious talk with them.