When to spill the beans?

MichelleWest85

When did you/plan to tell your parents and in-laws?  Hubby wants to wait until after our first appt in January... 

MsMM414

We are telling in-laws on Friday and my family on Christmas Eve.

It is kind of early on but we are excited and prepared to deal if it doesn't turn out.

MsMM414

Also, it is TOO tempting to use the Christmas timing... we are giving everyone "presents" that tell them.

MWAJ

MichelleWest85:

When did you/plan to tell your parents and in-laws?  Hubby wants to wait until after our first appt in January... 

I told my parents right away. I figure if something happens it will be easier to tell them if they knew in the beginning. We are telling the in laws on Sunday with the same reasoning.

We will tell more family after the first heart beat or ultrasound. 

We will tell the world after first tri. 

jlgulley

I am terrible with keeping secrets!! My husband and I have been trying for number two for awhile so my mom has heard all my heartbreaking stories every month so when she asked about this month I just couldn't keep it in!!! With the holiday parties I am not sure how I am going to keep it a secret from my inlaws cause they are going to wonder why I am not drinking!!! So I guess people might now before my first appointment in January especially since I am already feeling sick!!!

anywhrwithu

We are doing the same, told my mom and dad and my best friend.  Waiting on all others.   The next hard thing... getting through Christmas with his side with out drinking.  We will lie if we have to b.c MIL will spill the beans to all if she knows to soon for sure!

MsMM414

You will be surprised how easy it is to not drink around people. Just accept a glass of wine, whatever and then don't drink it. My excuse is "I have hot yoga in the morning, can't drink!" which seems to work pretty well.

Cdienst

We are going to wait to post it on facebook until after my first appt and I hear/see a heartbeat. BUT we couldnt really wait to tell our family since they would find out what happens anyway (mc or not since they run in my family). So they know, its just our friends now.. 

kinsquared

We are telling my parents/siblings on christmas, since we saw the hb this past Monday. We will tell DH mom later in the week when we see her. His Dad and siblings will be later on when it's closer to first tri. Friends/relatives after first tri. I may only post on facebook when we find the sex.....i'm not a big facebook poster so this isn't really a priority for me.

Salem1013

We are telling our familes on Christmas but will be waiting to tell work and everyone else until after the first dr's appt on the 27th.

swtbelle

It's hard to keep it a secret because we are really excited too. Our daughter went to Heaven in July at only 22 wks along and telling everyone the news was gut wrenching. The comments were awful and have ruined many friendships. I wish they hadn't known so I didn't have to explain. I know the odds of this pregnancy being successful are much better but I'm still cautious about sharing. I hope all goes well just wanted to share the flip side to sharing. Sorry its a sad topic.

MichelleWest85

swtbelle, that is exactly why hubby wants to wait.  It has been a long, hard, 4 year road getting here.  We are both on eggshells.  I just can't believe that it actually happened.

jesslinnn

I told my parents today. I was on going to tell them after my appointment today but since DH got called in early to work I needed them to babysit, so they found out this morning. DHs parents will find out soon. 

jmk5287

We told our families the day we got a BFP! The rest of our friends and facebook will wait until after we hear the heartbeat.

mswood1977

Our parents and siblings already know, we told them pretty quickly after receiving our BFP.  We are waiting to tell our grandparents and other closer relatives and friends until after we see a heartbeat on 12/27.  We will announce to others and maybe on facebook after the first trimester is over.