so stressed..daycare related

hopeful34

We have been so lucky so far as my MIL has watched the twins 3 days a week for a while. We knew we'd have to put them in daycare 4 days a week prob in January. My DH's job was supposed to be more lucrative before then but it doesn't seem to be happening now until April.  My DCP called me on Mon morning and told me they can no longer hold the 2 days we had on hold. I was forced to come up with a date that they need to go there the 4 days. Prob is we don't have the $$ to pay for it yet!! We aren't ready! It's going to be $340 a week! We just don't have it & i have no idea what to do.

I have a job opportunity that may or may not pan out. It depends on if the lady that is in the position wants out. She isn't doing a very good job and they are giving her an ultimatum. Prob is she is starting to do her work again and her whole attitude has changed so they may not get rid of her. This job would bring another $20k a year. Something we desperately need.

Ugh...I am so frikkin stressed out. We have cut out just about everything we possibly can and still can't afford it.

I don't know how people do it!!

gringa78

Hi there hopeful - so nice to see you, even if you're stressed out!  As you can see, I'm now joining the multiples club. 

As for day care, have you thought of maybe getting someone in a home-based situation rather than a center-based situation?  They are sometimes less expensive...that or have someone come to your house and just be up front with how much you're willing/able to pay?  Call around and see if you can find a center that costs less than what you have set up...around here, there are day care centers of all different costs.  I can totally understand not wanting to switch them, so it's tough.

Best of luck to you and I hope it all works out!!

LottaLattes

*HUGS*  I'm sorry you're having such a stressful time dealing with it.  I don't have any advice, but I hope you are able to find a solution soon!

nikinikinine

I've said it before in your DC posts, but it's worth repeating. Hire a nanny.

I have a nanny 20 hours a week when I'm working and I only pay $240 a week. I pay $12 an hour, but some will charge $8-10 an hour. You can set the hours based on what works for your family and they'll clean/do laundry, etc. to make your life easier too.

Rangergal9

It sucks but if it makes you feel better we were paying $350 a week for just my older DD to go to daycare!  Now we pay $728 a week!

jenn_darrin1515

I'm sorry.  that sounds so stressful!  seriously I find dc to be the most stressful part of being a working mom.

Is your MIL ok with continuing to watch the LOs for you until april? (or whenever your jobs pan out?)  if she is, I would just let the extra 2 days at the center go and continue with your current situation until things change and you can afford the extra days...then if the extra days aren;t available at the center you can look for a new center/inhome/nanny...there are plenty of options out there...I wouldn't pay for the extra spots now if you don't need them (and also since you can't afford them)...that's the going rate/week here too...I feel your pain - dc is expensive!  an inhome is usually a little cheaper (altho not by much, at least here - altho they do provide meals usually!)  GL! 

kafunder

jenn_darrin1515:

I'm sorry.  that sounds so stressful!  seriously I find dc to be the most stressful part of being a working mom.

Is your MIL ok with continuing to watch the LOs for you until april? (or whenever your jobs pan out?)  if she is, I would just let the extra 2 days at the center go and continue with your current situation until things change and you can afford the extra days...then if the extra days aren;t available at the center you can look for a new center/inhome/nanny...there are plenty of options out there...I wouldn't pay for the extra spots now if you don't need them (and also since you can't afford them)...that's the going rate/week here too...I feel your pain - dc is expensive!  an inhome is usually a little cheaper (altho not by much, at least here - altho they do provide meals usually!)  GL! 

I agree with all of this. It sounds like the best plan if MIL is okay with it.

CER+MEL

My twins attend a center three days a week, and my mom watches them on the other two.  If I thought our situation was going to change several months down the road, I would hope our center would try to meet our needs, especially with that kind of notice.  It might not work out perfectly, but I believe they would try. 

If your center is telling you it's now or never on those spots, I think you should look into switching centers (or getting a nanny) once you do need four days a week.  What did they say when you explained the situation?

ninjabridemom

nikinikinine:

I've said it before in your DC posts, but it's worth repeating. Hire a nanny.

I have a nanny 20 hours a week when I'm working and I only pay $240 a week. I pay $12 an hour, but some will charge $8-10 an hour. You can set the hours based on what works for your family and they'll clean/do laundry, etc. to make your life easier too.

 

I agree w this.  We did the math and it's cheaper for us to hire a nanny part-time and work shifted schedules than to put 2 infants in daycare part- or full-time.

 

Plus you get to know the nanny very well and they become part of your family!! (as a former nanny )