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January 2012 Moms
Intitled mommys. VENT
I lurk on many boards, mostly because I am home constantly right now, having been stuck on disability in October. I read lots of posts and boards that really dont pertain to me at this point because I like to read some of the cool stories.
I am not going to point any specific board or group or posters out but GOD some of the women are so dang cranky. They seem to think because they are preggo that the world must bow to them and their every need.
First, the "expectant mothers" parking spots... Ok, I get it for stores like BRU, but other places? Really? And why would you stop and complain to someone who took the parking spot when not obviously PG? What if they are early on? What if all the handicap spots are full and they have a placard? Get over it. Walk. Or have DH drop you by the front door before parking.
Next, people are in general self centered and absorbed while shopping this time of year. They are not going out of their way to be rude to you because you are PG. They are rude to everyone, and maybe they are rude because someone else was rude to them? Maybe a PG lady was rude to them on the last isle and they take it out on you for no good reason... oh well, move on, dont dwell.
Just because we are PG does not mean that everyone is going to move so we can sit, let us in front of them in line (especially with a cart full of baby stuff) allow us to use a private restroom, treat us like royalty, or tell us how great we look.
Reality check! Many people are not even going to notice you, so why would they move for you or let you cut in line. Many people dont really know what to say to a PG lady, so if they DO happen to strike up conversation, chances are one of the things they say may be contrary to your personal opinions.
Ok. i feel better. Responses are not needed I just had to vent a bit. Sorry!
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Re: Intitled mommys. VENT
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I just get upset because I am an extremely considerate person in this regard and I try to show respect to people who are not as able to get around as myself including, but not limited to, the elderly, disabled, pregnant, and those lugging around small children. When I'm not 8 months pregnant, I frequently move out of the way, hold doors, offer my seat, etc. And when I blank out and nearly let a door close in someone's face, I turn around and apologize. I know that not everyone will behave exactly as I do, but, at times, I do get a little frustrated at getting very little of that back. I do not consider myself entitled, but I would like to believe in a somewhat just world. I don't expect to be catered to at all times, but I would like to see more considerate people out there.
It's just like I get really ticked because I am a really honest person who has done things like turned in jewelry and money that I've found. And in the past few years I have had my car broken into, my purse stolen, and my (locked) bike stolen. When my bike was stolen, I was having some financial issues and it was my only mode of transportation at the time. I no longer had a car and was not near any public transportation lines. I'm not going to stop being an honest considerate person because some people stink, but I also think I'm allowed to complain a little without being considered entitled.
And I completly understand that point of view, I am this way too. My point was more about those who just never stop complaining about it, and likely, from their attitude are just as "rude" as those they complain about.
I don't think expecting a little common courtesy makes one entitled. I think the expectant mom parking spots are there for a reason. I am almost 36 weeks and very petite and I know that it is getting very tough for me to walk very far. (Not to mention that I have a few pulled muscles currently that make walking excruciating.) DH works 80 hours a week and that means that I run most of the errands. We don't live near family and are still somewhat new to the area so we don't have many friends that I could call to shuttle me around. For me, those spots are a God send and yes I do get upset when I see someone who is able bodied taken them. It's the same reason that I don't snag handicapped parking spots and why pre-pregnancy I would always park towards the back of the lot to allow pregnant woman, woman with small children, elderly, and handicapped to be closer to the door. It just common courtesy in me opinion.
I was also raised in a small town in the South where you gave up your seat for pregnant women/elderly/disabled/etc or allowed them to cut in front of you in line if you weren't in a rush. Again, common courtesy and a sign of respect. Do I call people out for it to their face? No because the world is full of people who are rude and inconsiderate and they likely aren't going to care. Do I complain sometimes online and to friends? Yes, because maybe that will make someone out there stop and think about being more courteous.
That's my two cents.
BFP #1 5/07/11, DS 01/19/12
BFP #2 08/09/12, M/C 08/10/12
BFP #3 10/30/12, EDD 07/11/12...please stick!
I agree with OP. Yes, it's harder for me to be on my feet as long as I'm used to, but I ask when I need assistance. If I've been walking around a store and I'm really beat, I ask DH to pull the car around for me instead of assuming he'd know I need him to. I warn people I walk with that my pace is slower, and I ask to sit down when I need it. I don't mind walking through the parking lot instead of trying to insist on a closer parking spot. I'm pregnant, not cripple. I limit how much I go out anyway if I know I don't have the stamina for walking around.
I'm of the belief that we should be courteous to one another anyway. I'm just as happy to hold the door open for a teenager as I am an elderly person. In fact, often it's the normal people not expecting courtesy who are the most grateful as opposed to an elderly person who is probably used to it. I always appreciate when someone is courteous to me, but I don't expect it just because I'm pregnant. I'd rather someone do something for me because I'm another human being rather than having an obvious excuse to need help.
I agree that many pregnant women do seem to feel overly entitled and before becoming pregnant I really didn't get the point of expectant mother parking. I now 100% get it and appreciate those spots incredibly.
I have had seriously (chiro 3x a week to keep me walking at all) back and hip problems since 16 weeks and walking even short distances can be very very painful. I would be disappointed if I saw an able bodied person who clearly had no trouble walking take the spot because it was convenient for them. I would never say anything and wouldn't get too huffy about it but I would definitely be disappointed!
At 16 weeks I would bet that to the random observer driving by in a parking lot you didn't seem like someone that needed the expectant mom parking, but then they would have no way of knowing that you are suffering from SPD. Whenever I see someone doing something that I assume is rude I try to remind myself that I don't know what their issues are. Dang that sounds pollyannaish. It just helps me to keep from getting all aggrivated.
Nope. Sorry. Can't get on board with you.
I don't think expecting someone who isn't pregnant not to park in spaces reserved for expectant mothers is acting entitled at all.
I'm 11 days away from my due date and walking HURTS. When the parking lot at the grocery store is packed, and some asshat parked his BMW in the only expectant mother parking space, I have every right to get irate, and make him feel like a turd.
It's been one of my biggest pet peeves throughout this pregnancy. I wouldn't dream of parking in those spaces when I wasn't pregnant. They are there for a reason. I expect others to extend to me the same courtesy I extend to others.
This. I didn't use the expectant mother spots until it started hurting to walk. I figured someone else needed them more than I did. And then one day after teaching all day, having to restrain a student twice while being 8 months pregnant, THEN being accused of physically assaulting him by his mother when in reality I was protecting my other students, my feet hurt so badly I could barely move, and my pelvis was just aching...someone actually STOLE the last expectant mother spot from me while I had my blinker on.
All I wanted was some yogurt, milk, and juice. I went berserk on the 50 year old woman who hopped out of her car and started to jaunt into the grocery store.
I believe in courtesy for everyone, and it's sad that others don't. I'm also the person who snarkily says "You're WELCOME..." when I hold a door open for someone and they don't say thank you.
It's not entitlement, it's a courtesy.
I get some of the points you are making, but common courtesy from people can go a long way!
Do i EXPECT people to give me a seat? No. But if they do it definitely is appreciated and can turn my mood around!
I have had pretty good luck with people helping me out and being courteous. I went shopping on black friday and people went out of their way to help me out!
I agree with you both. I didn't (and still don't) park in the expectant mothers spot because I am not in much pain and I know that other women are. Now, I'd be pissed if I saw a guy or some non-pregnant person using it, because it's not there for them and they are taking it away from someone who really will need it.
Common courtesy is a fleeing idea in this country and it's pretty sad.
Cambria, Keira, and Bonnie Quinn