Running Out of Patience...Vent

rrrowe15

So I love coming on here and reading everyone's posts.  Most of the time it makes me feel better because I read stuff that I am thinking and experiencing.  But there are 81 days left and I haven't gotten to do any of the fun baby stuff I see people doing on here.

Backstory...we found out we were pregnant this summer and my husband had started a new job an hour away.  We stayed where we were because I had a summer job (I work in the school system).  I got a job down by his and we started house hunting in August.  After getting outbid on one house and having a terrible inspection and having to fight to get out of a deal on another house, we are both still commuting an hour.  Meanwhile my job puts me on probation for no reason, thought it was due to the pregnancy but everything is fine now so I think they are just nuts.  About the time I thought I was truly gonna lose it things have turned around.  My bosses told me everything is fine, we found a house and are trying to move the process along as quick as possible and its Christmas.

Unfortunately I am just out of patience. My parents bought us beautiful furniture in my first trimester.  I have had one shower and got my pack and play, my bedding and all sorts of cute stuff.  I also have all sorts of hand me downs just waiting for me.  Everything is at other peoples houses or packed up in boxes.  I see all these cute pictures of nurseries and I can't do anything to prepare for Claire's arrival.  I makes me want to cry.  I just want to have fun and get things ready for my baby girl.  We can't buy anything else because of the house, our money is all tied up.

I know I have alot to be thankful for but I am having a moment.  I am sick and feeling down and thought you all might understand.

greengirl0909

With my first LO I was due April 1st.  I found January to be an awesome time for working on baby stuff.  The first few months I was so worried about a potential miscarriage, and then there were the holidays.  Look at it this way: you have all of this stuff waiting for you and the time following the holidays- which can be kinda blah, will be fun for you because you can begin doing it.  For some women who start shopping/planning/organizing too early, they end up spending too much money or it seems like they've done it all and they have all this extra time at the end that makes the waiting seem unbearable! Aside from all of that, you really do have a lot of blessings in your court. There are lots of moms not having a shower or trying to fit babies into 1 bedroom apartments.  It seems like you do have some things in your favor.  PLUS...It's almost CHRISTMAS!

Jessimurph

I completely understand your frustration especially since everyone else seems to be so excited to share their nurseries and baby purchases, but honestly you are so much better off purchasing a bare minimum of baby stuff. I wish our money had been tied up last time and I hadn't bought a ton of stuff that I didn't need and just made the house cluttered with baby junk. I would have been upset, but it would have been better long term. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise

Jessimurph

Oh and we didn't use a her nursery until she was over 6 months. I felt to much anxiety about getting her nursery done and it just sat there unused. It definitely felt like wasted anxiety and stress.

BOTB2011

I can understand that it's frustrating to you (and maybe DH?) that you can't really get settled and setup the nursery. However your LO won't care if she isn't in a perfectly decorated nursery...

As long as mommy and daddy are there to watch over her, keep her happy and feed/change/burp, etc; she won't care if she's sleeping in a pack n play surrounded by boxes.

Try not to let it stress you - and focus more on the positive: that you have so many people in your life who are generous and helping provide for you and LO.

GL with the househunting search.

 

KCur

I totally understand.  We just moved into our new townhouse this weekend.  Saturday I was so excited to see that we actually had a nursery space!  It is filled with random furniture and boxes...but a space exists nonetheless.  I haven't even thought about bedding, paint colors, furniture, or buying stuff yet.  All good things come in time.  Hang in there!!

sitastar

I know EXACTLY how you feel!

My DH recently left a branch of the military and we ended up having to move into my Dad's house while his job search continued. Luckily we found him a job about an hour away and just now found a place to live (we have been here since 1 Nov).  

HOWEVER, b/c we moved from overseas, all of our stuff is in storage on the east coast. I just now was able to schedule them to truck it out here, since we didn't have an address till this weekend when we found our new place.  They still won't give me an estimate as to when our stuff will be here.  Meanwhile, hubby is having to commute every day, I'm trapped at my dad's house w/o a car, and haven't been able to get a darn thing for the nursery either!  As others have said, I'm thankful I won't be cluttering the new place up w/ useless stuff, but it makes me sad too. I want to get my house settled already. Plus we have a bunch of stuff we will have to buy for the new place (doesn't have as much storage as our old place, so having to adjust/buy stuff for that alone is gonna cost a pretty penny).

Just know you are not alone. Sometimes I get so upset that I can't go out and buy that cute lamp or whatever (no place to store it in my dad's place!) but I've been keeping myself occupied reading Baby Bargains and as soon as we are in the new place I will know EXACTLY what I need to get for LO