Annoyed with DH - am I overreacting?

Rebekah1021

I had the idea that we would spend the evening just the 3 of us. I am trying harder to make our little nuclear family our focal point. The plan was is that on Friday, DH would pick up pizza on his way home from work early and we would eat and get ready for T-O-T'g. We were going to take DD out for awhile and then come back home and pass out candy.

DH told me that he invited his parents over that night too. I'm irritated, because I didn't invite my parents over because it was going to be the 3 of us. They want to take DD through the neighborhood while we pass out candy. I told DH that that was not going to happen. They can pass out candy if they want, but DH and I are taking her out.

I'm just so annoyed. Am I overreacting?

cooker71

I would be annoyed, especially since they were implying that you WOULDN'T be taking her out. I'm sure you really want to!!

Zenya

was your plan clear?  Had he agreed to it?

 I would be pissed off too.  

Rebekah1021

I thought it was painfully clear. We had discussed what we were going to do because DH getting out of the office early is super unusual.

Amanda&Chris

That would bother me too.

DarceyLivesinFL

Yes, I think you're overreacting based on the first words of your post: "I had the idea..."

It doesn't sound like DH had that same idea.  It doesn't sound like he meant any harm.

babykin18

I don't think you are overreacting IF you told him that up front.  I am awful at actually spelling out to my dh what the plan is and the reason.  Mostly I just do it and get annoyed if he doesn't go along with it or understand.  Maybe you just need to explain to him why it is important and have some kind of compromise.  Like maybe you can t-o-t the 3 of you in your neighborhood and then drive to his parents area and have your little one t-o-t with them there.

Zenya

Then I'd be furious.  What's his excuse?

annak23

I would be upset if DH did that behind my back after I told him what the plan was.  If I couldn't stop his plan already in motion, then I would just do what you normally had planned...take DD out & have the rest stay behind to hand out the goods.

Rebekah1021

Babykin - That's an idea I will run by him. I guess I will have to spell out every detail to him in writing.

kevschickee2

yup I would be annoyed to

Littlejen22

Like Babykin said, I would be annoyed if it was made clear to him and he agreed.  But, even if he did not realize I would be super pissed that his parents (and apparently him) think that it's ok to just assume they can take your child TOTing without you!  That's just rude.  They had their kids and got to enjoy what they wanted with them and now it's your time.  Maybe just have them come over later in the evening and you can go to a few houses with them after you did your thing.