It's just a question that came to my mind, and I know it's a weird one, but I just had to ask. (I hope it's not insulting anyone because I really don't mean to.)
I think adoption is a wonderful thing to do. And for a lot of people, it's another form of blessing. My former co-worker adopted two kids, and they are so, SO happy.
But would you do it because you want a specific sex? We are not thinking about adopting now, but if we were to have, say, three or four boys, would I consider adopting a girl knowing I couldn't pick a girl if I get pregnant on my own?
If money or anything else is not an issue, would you do it?
Re: Would you adopt because you want a boy/girl?
Not if I wasn't already planning to adopt.
However, if I already had it in my heart to adopt, and I had 4 girls or 4 boys, I could see how it might make me more eager to adopt a child of the other sex. If that makes me a bad person, so be it. That's just the truth.
I think if I had 4 boys and wanted a girl I would contemplate adoption, but who knows if I would actually come out with a girl, you never know what little one you will meet! I probably wouldn't though, because I figured God gave me what he wanted to give me for whatever reason.
I don't think there is anything wrong with this, however, because either way a little child is being brought into a loving home.
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I would not adopt just for that purpose, but if I was to adopt for other reasons, any other children in the house would probably have an influence on which gender I preferred.
I have always wanted to adopt a child (not necessarily a baby), only because there are many children out there who need homes. However, That probably won't happen due to the cost involved.
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If we want another child after this one, we're hoping to adopt from china because of the large number of girls available for adoption, but we already knew we'd adopt if we wanted a third and it had nothing to do with gender.
njkitty- adoption is expensive, but there are a large number of tax credits/breaks available to help cover the cost of adoption (not to mention employer assistance in some cases). I can't remember how much it is, exactly, but it covers a large chunk. I'd recommend looking at the tax code stuff to see how much help you'd be eligible for (it's after the fact help, of course, but it's still help).
This exactly. I may adopt someday if I decide that I want more children later on in life, and if I hadn't had any girls of my own at that time, I would choose to adopt a girl. If I had a boy and girl of my own, then it wouldn't really matter what sex that child I adopted was.