Hubby vent!

Twinkle5086

So I've hit that uncomfortable stage of my pregnancy and and I'll admit I've been mildly grumpy. I have been super relaxed throughout my pregnancy and haven't had any really hormonal moments. Yesterday that all changed. I haven't been sleeping due to my RLS and the doctors told me to up my water intake because of low fluid so between the two I don't sleep anymore. I usually don't linger in the bedroom when this happenes and I let me hubby sleep because he works and I don't like it when hes grumpy. I also work full time and the no sleep is starting to have it toll. 

Anyway I get out of work late last night and it takes me an hour to drive home from work due to traffic. I use the bathroom before I leave because I know its going to take so long to get home.. I sit in more traffic then usual and by the time I pull in the drive way I'm just about to wet my pants. My hubby is home but all the lights are off I think weird but I go in and I can't even get in the door because my dogs are so happy I'm home because that means its dinner time that I cant get in the door. Finally get them to move only to trip over my husbands shoes right in the middle of the floor that I didn't see between the dogs and no lights and I fell down. Well when I fell my bladder that I had been so desperately  trying to control let go. I was so embarrassed and upset not to mention ticked off that I sat on the floor and cried while the dogs sat in my lap and gave me kisses because I was upset. 

I go into the bedroom to find my stupid husband asleep with the TV on and when I ask him WTH he was sleeping for he said I'm tired. I asked from what he said he didn't know but he was planning to go out to the bar later so he wanted to take a nap. So i snapped at hima nd told him if he was so dang tired that he should be staying home instead of taking a nap. On top of that I yelled at him for his shoes which I have said time and time again not to leave in the kitchen! He finally asks me why I changing and lookes down and starts laughing! I was so mad I could have punched him in the face but I grabbed some clothes and went to the bathroom to take a shower.

I come out he hasn't fed the dogs so I did and while hes still laying in bed he asks me whats for dinner and I told him to get out of bed and figure it out for himself and went into the living room to relax for a few minutes. About half an hour later I go back into the kitchen to start making dinner for myself to find all the pots and pans in the sink and the dishwasher full of dirty dishes. He was supposed to take care of those and bring some boxes down to the basement that he never did when he got home. So now I'm even more ticked off because in order to make dinner I have to wash everything in the sink and all he did was lay in bed! I was so mad at the end of the night that when I tried to go to bed he got out and told me he was going out for a little while and left. I never got a hug nor a kiss or anything at all an I was up most of the night crying and upset.  

Jillibean85

Oh God, i would be just as upset as you... Like not one thing can just go right. I'm sorry you had such a poopy evening Hopefully today goes much better for you! At least the weekend is here.... And men can be such bozos sometimes. =p

jmccall79

Men can be such idiots sometimes...it's the "tail!"  I'm sorry you had such a crappy night.  Hopefully today will be better and he makes up for it!

jenimitch

oh dear, you poor thing. I'd have kicked him out to his Mom's, I hate when men don't think past their own twenty minutes and consider how will this effect the next few hours.

Especially with pregnancy brain, I don't know if i'm more upset about not getting the help i need, or simply not being able to help myself.

 

Twinkle5086

I then preceded to bring the boxes to the basement myself because I had been asking for over a week for him to do it and bring up the Christmas stuff. I tried to bring up the tree but it weighs like 70 or something like that and while normally I wouldn't have any trouble lugging it up the stairs my big pregger belly was in the way so I had to leave it. An now I'm grumpy again today because I didn't get any sleep and now my back hurts. Men!

acheever14

I'm sorry! ((HUGGS))!!! I think hubby needs a swift kick in the a$$!

elizxu

Men can be such idiots! Sorry you had a rough night.

JWSchwarz

I would be furious!!! Mostly about him just leaving and acting cold.

footnotegirl

Wow.

I would totally consider that behavior unacceptable, even cruel. 

You have my utmost sympathies. 

tiffapotomus

EEEWWW [ angry face ] I would have lost it. Although I have been told once or twice I have some anger issues but that sort of neglectful careless behavior is unnacceptable no matter what! I would have saran wrapped the bottom half of the front doorway so that when he strolled his happy a** in from the bar he would have the same experience as you (minus the bladder unless your lucky). You should leave the boxes on his side of the bed w/ a pic of you pregnant just to make a point to say F U.

violeteli

Wow, I dont want to upset you more because it sounds like you are having a rough time. . .but this guy sounds like a jerk, especially with you being so far along. I really hope that you can work things out

ckemble88

I'm very quiet for the most part, but I had a flip out on my hubby just bc everything kept being brushed off. He's behaved after that. I'm sorry you had such a bad night!! Try to take time to rest this weekend and catch up on your sleep!! And don't be lifting that tree girly!! 

Sascha3

No way.  I could have looked past the shoe thing and tripping, because he was just being careless.  But there is no way I would go do dishes or cook dinner while he laid in bed.  I would have made him get up, do the dishes and bring up the boxes.  If he didn't, there may not be any dinner all week.

anhg80

That is completely unacceptable.  I agree with PP - I could forgive the shoes and taking a nap when chores needed to be done, but only if he immediately jumped up to do those chores and clean up after you.

I've wet myself twice this pregnancy, and it's awful.  Yes, we laughed about it, but my husband laughed with me, not at me (and then cleaned up the mess as I showered off).  I can't imagine how it would feel to be laughed at as you try to regain your composure.  

I'd seriously be sitting down with my husband to discuss my needs for a smooth pregnancy at this point.  Pregnancy hormones or not, his behavior is just wrong. 

Shawnee11507

Robinsegg23:

EEEWWW [ angry face ] I would have lost it. Although I have been told once or twice I have some anger issues but that sort of neglectful careless behavior is unnacceptable no matter what! I would have saran wrapped the bottom half of the front doorway so that when he strolled his happy a** in from the bar he would have the same experience as you (minus the bladder unless your lucky). You should leave the boxes on his side of the bed w/ a pic of you pregnant just to make a point to say F U.

Love these suggestions. But yeah, sounds like DH was being a real a$$. I wouldn't have done any cleaning, would have taken his debit card and ordered take-out/delivery for dinner for myself and if he still wanted to go out that night, he would be cleaning up after himself and taking the boxes down before he left. Are you ok from the fall? He wasn't even concerned that you fell down?