Help!! (induction)

ckemble88

So my dr gave me the option of inducing on the 22nd, which means I would more than likely get to go home on Christmas Eve. BUT, I don't think I will feel up to visiting or spending time with my family that day or on Christmas. I hate this fact bc, of course I don't want to set at home alone with a newborn. I also don't feel it will be good for her to be around so many people, so soon. My other option is the 27th, but my grandpa is having surgery that day so him and my grandma won't be present. What would you guys do? My mother is making the decision impossible. Hubby of course supporting "whatever I want" which helps me in no way.  

Mike&Care

Well, it's up to you, but I'd probably go with the 27th. You'll be done with Christmas and home for new years. I'm hoping my baby will come on her due date or a couple days late for this very reason.

Why do your grandma and grandpa need to be there the day you give birth? Can grandma come meet baby a few days later?

ETA: When is your due date?

ckemble88

That was my logic, but my mother is upset that I'm even considering doing it without them being there. I've lived beside them my whole life, up until marriage so I have a very close relationship with them. I'm to the point that I can't please everyone so I just need to do what's best for me. My family is extremely close. I'm talking, Sunday dinners with the WHOLE family every weekend. I'm due Jan 5th, so on the 22nd I will be 38 wks exactly. 

Mike&Care

Can you do it later? Why are you getting induced? If you could wait a couple days after the 27th, then you'd be39 weeks and maybe Grandma/Grandpa could be there too?

(Sorry it's hard for me to relate, I see my one living grandparent once every couple years or less and my family lives in Egypt, so I won't be notifying anyone when I have the baby except via my status on Facebook )

karleegirl

Is there a medical reason for induction? If not why don't you let nature choose? If there is 27th would be my choice. Close or not you don't need the while family there when giving birth and it's your child.

ckemble88

My blood pressure is getting a little out of hand, it's been text book perfect this whole time, but the dr doesn't want to let it get too bad and risk pre-e since, bc I have a strong family history with it. And also he's concerned about LO being too big for vaginal delivery, the longer we wait, the bigger she gets. She measured 6lb 14oz at 34 weeks. However, I do know they aren't that accurate. But he says no later than the 27th. I've thought it over, and feel that the 27th is whats best for her, everyone else aside, so that's what I have to do! I have to call and schedule today! Which of course makes me a nervous wreck! thank you for the advice girls!

ryry1977

I would go with the 27th personally.  Much better to keep the baby inside while around all those people.  Grandparents can always see the baby later.

k3montel

I would pick the 27th too, and my family is just as close as yours sounds.  We do Sunday Dinner every week too with the entire family.  And we usually see eachother at least one more day out of the week.  It'll be okay, and they can see the baby later.

mamaofmoose

Our doctor scheduled an induction for us on the 22nd as well.  I'm having second thoughts, wanting to put it off a little longer too.  DH wants her out as soon as possible.  The difference is that my due date is the 18th.  I'd like to give her every chance to come naturally.  I'd go with the 27th and I'm glad that's what it sounds like you chose.  You can't make everyone happy-even with the day you happen to have your baby!  They might as well get a taste of it now!  )  Best of luck to you and your family!

cecilyandgautam

Does your family do a huge extended relatives celebration? If so, I wouldn't want my LO there either - with a room full of 20ish people, some one will likely have a cold or the flu and after just given birth, you shouldn't have to play hand washing police.

Anyway, if baby is healthy & happy in the womb, why not let them stay in there a little longer? I'd go for the later induction date, if an induction really is necessary at all. 

ckemble88

Yes, we do a big extended family get together. With my immediate family alone, there is 20 people easy, and with the extended family we will have even more, which doesn't include the trip to visit with in-laws. My husband and I have talked it over, and are going with the 27th. It's just too much for me, and the baby to donthe 22nd. I can't please everyone, and they knew this was a possible outcome.. It's not I suddenly woke up 8 months pregnant. Haha! I just wish my mom wasn't so upset!! Like you said, I don't want to look rude by playing hand washing police. Unfortunately the induction is necessary. Even tho, I wanted to try and go naturally. My health isn't holding up like the doctor wants. very complicated pregnancy!! 

DBride2006

Not sure if you factored this in... but having a birthday a couple days after Christmas is better (IMO) than right before. If I had a choice, I would pick the 27th over the 22nd for that reason alone.

jgal84

I think you've already decided, but I just wanted to throw it out there that I would pick the 27th as well.

ckemble88

Thank you all so much for the help!! I had to call this morning to set it up so I was wanting input to see what everyone thought. Just bc the holidays are pretty much here. I'm set to come in at 5:30 am on the 27th!! So this is it!! How nerve wracking! But at the same time it's nice to know there is an end in sight!  

IamAmom2B

I would go with the 22nd considering your medical history.  Stay home and Skype the family this year.  Also get someone send you a plate for lunch, dinner AND leftovers for the next day.  

NicPuckett

I think you'd be fine with the 22nd. When I had my little boy, i was so happy he was finally here, the discomfort, excessive visitors, and all that jazz really didn't matter to me. I was in my own little world. 

lissag24

I would do the 22nd only because I think it would be nice to have your little one for Christmas.  I'm sure the little one is going to be around a lot of people when their born anyway and I don't think they really mind.  But you have to do whats comfortable for you. And that way if something god fobid happened while your grandfather had surger at least he would have met the little one.  Just my thoughts : )

AlabamaMamma224

With my DS, I was induced on the 22nd, and we came home on Christmas Eve, but we're in a bit of a different situation, we live far from our family and my mom was the only one in town.  I have to say, bringing my son home on Christmas Eve was the best Christmas present ever... though, I wasn't really in any shape to enjoy watching DD open her gifts...It is tough having a baby so close to Christmas.  We're celebrating DS's 3rd birthday tomorrow for that reason.