Affirmations???

TLM08

As a short introduction: I have had emotional issues dealing with having to have c sections with my first two children. I had planned on being done having children and tying my tubes when we found out we were expecting again. Since our youngest two will be 14 months apart a vbac is not even an option. I have been trying to find affirmations to help prepare for the birth, but when I google c section affirmations (or the like) I just get affirmations to avoid a c section not to accept one. Which is frustratingbecause seeing c section avoiding affirmations just further validates my belief that I missed out on an important birth experience by never getting a vaginal birth.  Does anyone know of a site that would have what I'm looking for?

CaniacMom

I don't know of a web site that would have this but as a mother who has had 2 C-Sections I will try to reach out and affirm you.

My oldest is almost 15 years old and was born via emergency c-section after 22 hours of labor which included over 2 hours of pushing with no success.  My youngest was born via a planned C-section (I may could have gone for a VBAC but after the experience with the older one I couldn't bring myself to repeat that process).  I absoultely do not feel like I have missed out on anything by not having had a vaginal birth.  Your children will always be your children no matter how you deliver them.  The day you give birth is just one of many days in their lives.  I have never heard of a kid growing up thinking that their mother 'cheated' them because she had them via C-Section vs. vaginal birth.    Thoughts & prayers to you for a healthy delivery.

sytom

I don't know any website that could help you...  But like PP, I don't feel like I missed out on anything.  Sure there are days I feel like having given births like in the movies would have been perfect, but who am I kidding, that's not real life!  I just try and focus on the important thing, having a healthy baby in my arms.  It may be a tad dramatic, but having c-sections saved my life and my babies'.  How could I ask for more?

I wish you the best.  : )

MyBeehive

I have one for you, it's kind of a reality check:

I feel vindicated and blessed when I take a moment and look at my daughter; she was delivered with minimal stress to her. Without a c/s, there's no knowing how our difficult labor would have ended.

pepomntpat

Holy cow! You are right it is hard to find affirmations. I did find this: BirthSense? Complete Caesarean Section Preparation Set. Just Google it. I can't do a link in this stupid Google Chrome. It seems to be available only in the UK, but maybe they can help you. They are a small group on FB. HTH!

ILoveRunning

I don't have knowledge of any webpages, but you might start by looking over on ICAN's website to see if they might have anything. I'm sorry that you feel stuck and are having to face the reality of never giving birth vaginally. I think what you are feeling is completely normal. I did want to give you one thought to mull over, which has worked well for me in processing my son's birth. Everyone has a set of life experiences that make their life unique. These experiences are both good and bad. And as hard as we try, we will be unable to have every experience out there. At the end of the day, your experience with birth will only be by c-section, but the births are all an experience that is uniquely yours. As far as the c-section experince goes, try talking to your OB about making the surgery as baby and mom-centric as possible. There are ways of encorportating many aspects of vaginal birth into a c/s, if your OB is willing.

TLM08

Thanks everyone. I'm really trying to prepare myself emotionally for this birth so it can be joyous and in attempts to avoid PPD. I'm working on visualizing the c section instead of romanticizing a vaginal birth. It's just frustrating not to find support for this birth plan to be more common place when 1 in 3 babies are born via c section (or in my case 3 of 3).