Proof betas mean squat when it comes to multiples

oct11bride03

Wow. I know it's early and anything can happen but I don't blame you for not knowing what to think. ((HUGS))

MontyMrs

First off ((HUGS)) - I've been in your shoes - without the big sister. When I found out I was terrified even though I transferred 4 embies.  It was my 6th IVF and I was 40 so I thought there was no way more than one or two would stick but they did.  I also thought well, they probably won't all make it....and they did.  I cried, I was scared, I thought I did this to myself so I can't complain and I missed a few weeks of the joy that my pregnancy and children ended up being.  

But I  got lucky, my pregnancy was tough but my boys were amazingly healthy. Almost no NICU time and everyone came right home with me.  The early days were a difficult blur but now I am so unbelievably overjoyed with these little lights of my life, I couldn't imagine my life any other way.  I struggle still for sure, just to get out of the house, to have a second to myself, to deal with the financial stress- but it's working and I've never been happier. 

Sorry for the book but I just wanted to share a bit of my story and  wish you the very best outcome for you and your family, whatever that may be.  Please, contact me if you need to talk.  The triplet moms that came before me helped me through my darkest days and I'd be more than happy to carry that on. 

EverAfterinMi

Yup.. my beta's were uber low. To the point I thought for sure I was going to miscarry again. My first one was 239 at 16dpo and it barely doubled at the next one. It was a straight double +12. Certainly not high for the days I was at. I would have NEVER believed there were 3 in there.

 It is a hard thing to process. I didn't sleep for a week after I found out. All the $$ and crap was swimming through our heads. But of course, it's all worth it!

wvagirl

First off, congratulations!  Second, one foot in front of the other for now mama.  I realize this is shocking and terrifying, do just do the best you can to hang in there. It will work out.

EmilyAnne

Wow! Like everyone said, take it one day at a time.  You'll be OK.  Just like with going through IF, you'll be OK...you just might have some hard days ahead.  But you'll be OK.

JenCW

I know how overwhelming this is - I've been there!!!  Once you know more we'll all be here to help with dealing, planning, and figuring it out.

Four is hard, but doable.  My life is busy and my house is crazy, but we love it!  It you want to talk or need advice, just PM me. 

nikinikinine

Wowza, that's a lot to process. Take time to go through all of the emotions because all of them are valid. Do you want healthy babies? Yes. Did you want another baby? Yes. Is this what you had hoped for? No. All of these things are okay to feel.

Take a few deep breaths and wait till next week when you have a clearer picture of what's going on (literally). And just wait. From here on out, it's out of your hands.

And your daughter will be fine. She has two parents that love her. That's all she needs. And siblings? What more could a girl ask for?  

KiKiGee

CONGRATS!!

and... Don't beat yourself up for working through the "process."  That's a lot to take in!

 

GuitaristsGirl

Oh Holy Wow!!  There's not a thing I can possibly add that hasn't already been said, but I had to let you know that I'm thinking about you.  You will get through this beautifully!!!

GypsyEsq

You ladies rock so much.  Your words of encouragement are just so welcome.  All of you MoMs thank you.  I really can't tell you how much is soothes my fears to read your stories.  All of you moms who are so awesomely telling me it's ok to be freaking out, thank you.  And all of you who are reminding me what a gift siblings will be for DD, thank you.

Y'all are absolutely right, it's out of my hands right now and I just need to wait until Tuesday.  Which I will do now so as to stop posting my inane babble...thank you. 

dundasgirl

Congratulations!  I know you must be super freaked out still today...I hope everything works out for you guys!

You made an educated decision and this is the result. Don't beat yourself up! 

My thoughts are with you...

PS I thought I responded earlier but I don't see it?

 

preheatedoven

I just want to add that I know what kind of shock you are in (I started out with trips), and it is A LOT to take in. Hang in there, breathe, and take that zofran, it helps:)