GRRR....

Mrs.McIrish

Sometimes I really shouldn't lurk on PG>35.  I'm sure you ladies can figure out what I am referring to..

 Thanks for the side eye ELF!! I so want to comment but know I can't as I don't belong there.

happywifemomofone

Saw that too.....why is it so easy for some, and such a rough journey for most of us who have been around here a while?

Mrs.McIrish

happywifemomofone:

Saw that too.....why is it so easy for some, and such a rough journey for most of us who have been around here a while?

Don't know, sigh.. (slamming head on my desk...)

SaintCity

Mrs.McIrish:

I so want to comment but know I can't as I don't belong there.

 ...butting in...

Ummm...I implore you to comment!  Please.  People like that need to be slapped.  What's the point of the post anyway?  Please comment.  You are always welcome over there. 

(hope you are well and the consults are going good!)

ELF4321

Mrs.McIrish:

Sometimes I really shouldn't lurk on PG>35.  I'm sure you ladies can figure out what I am referring to..

 Thanks for the side eye ELF!! I so want to comment but know I can't as I don't belong there.

When I was on this board and 3T, I used to tell those people to go post on PAIF or PG>35.  Now I realize, I hate them over there too.  I totally wanted to snark, but the board hasn't historically been all that snarky, so I try to contain myself.   But it's really hard sometimes! 

Mrs.McIrish

I really enjoyed Saint and Hijoi's response!! You ladies rock:-)

lhcooper

I went to look and couldn't keep myself from commenting.

ETA: changed my comment upon reflection.  But see my other post in this thread.

Amyaggie97

Wow. Some people really have no clue. Your posts made me go look and I am glad she didn't post over here. If she doesn't heed the warning not to post here at least I'll have some entertainment reading the responses to her.

CousinVicki

so, she is happy?  let her be happy.  You will want people to be excited for you when you get your BFP.  For some people it happens that easily (and she said this because she wasn't expecting it to).  And the PP that said "dont be happy until you are out of your 1st tri"  , way to be supportive!

Try to keep the bitterness at bay, geesh

 ETA: and she posted on the pregnancy board, NOT here.  so why march over there and burn her at the stake??

 

lhcooper

CousinVicki:

so, she is happy?  let her be happy.  You will want people to be excited for you when you get your BFP.  For some people it happens that easily (and she said this because she wasn't expecting it to).  And the PP that said "dont be happy until you are out of your 1st tri"  , way to be supportive!

Try to keep the bitterness at bay, geesh

 ETA: and she posted on the pregnancy board, NOT here.  so why march over there and burn her at the stake??

 

 

Dear CousinVicki,

On the one hand, you are right, and perhaps I over-reacted; for what it is worth, I have deleted/changed what I posted to something much more neutral, given that I take your point--it's not (yet) my board to post on.  On the other hand: I posted what I first did in part because the OP has posted all of 2 times on thebump, period.  She is not an established member of the community in which she chose to post (or any other), and she was posting a message that will be read by many women who have only graduated to that board after many years and a lot of heartbreak -- as several of them who posted before me effectively pointed out.  It may have been unintentional, but despite what she said about not posting to try to make anyone feel bad, it was indeed being insensitive to many of them who have gone to a lot of trouble and expense to achieve what she was crowing about in the very title of her post (and clearly, she knew that she could well be making someone feel bad, or she would not have mentioned the possibility in the post itself).  Again, had she been a member of ANY bump board before coming on to write her post, or had she introduced herself in any other way than, effectively, "I was told it would be hard, but look at me!" I would have refrained.  But she was perpetrating what is often colloquially known as a "drive by" -- the very tone of her post title amounted to as much.  You will, I hope, have noticed that I congratulated her, and for what it is worth I meant it sincerely, even if you didn't choose to read my words that way.  I also did NOT tell her not to be happy about her pregnancy; that is very much a misinterpretation of what I wrote.  Rather, I offered her a word of caution (which is exactly what I called it) that I very much wish someone had offered me when I was trumpeting my first pregnancy to the skies.  Yes, I do want people to be happy for me when I finally get a BFP.  But I also want to be sensitive to the struggles that others around me may have gone through.  That does not appear to truly have been the case with the OP we are referring to (and why was she offering "hope" to women who are in fact already pregnant over 35? something strikes me as a little fishy there, I'm afraid).

 

irishgirl0525

Between that post and the drive by BFP earlier today I want to slap someone.

BeckyP005

irishgirl0525:

Between that post and the drive by BFP earlier today I want to slap someone.

annalisel

I had to go over an see. Very amusing. I'm glad she's excited, but really.

Mrs.McIrish

CousinVicki:

so, she is happy?  let her be happy.  You will want people to be excited for you when you get your BFP.  For some people it happens that easily (and she said this because she wasn't expecting it to).  And the PP that said "dont be happy until you are out of your 1st tri"  , way to be supportive!

Try to keep the bitterness at bay, geesh

 ETA: and she posted on the pregnancy board, NOT here.  so why march over there and burn her at the stake??

 

 I did not post anything to the poster. I commented over here to my FRIENDS that I have been commisserating with for a very long time.  I did not identify anythign specific, knowing that my friends would "get" it.  As for the bitterness,  walk in my shoes for a few days..

owlprof

If I were to respond to the PG35+ post, I don't know that I could do a better job than some of our graduates, but this is what it would look like:

propaganda:  the systematic dissemination of information in a biased or misleading way to promote a political cause or view

Surprise!  I was just kidding this whole time -- it's totally easy for someone 35+ to get pregnant!  Okay, got to go...all these naturally conceived kiddos of mine want my attention, so I guess I'll get off the bump now that the jig is up.  I can finally end my propaganda campaign!

PS:  I want you to know that I will be overjoyed when you ladies get your BFPs and your take-home babies!!!  Good luck and hugs to us all!

 

 

fullfhope

Had to go see for myself.  Naive.

Amyaggie97

Frankly, I am not so sure how not to be bitter somedays. You keep trucking down the TTC road to find out that your body and age are all working against you. And then you have people that show up pregnant after only a couple of months (I am referring to a person IRL). So yeah, I get where the bitterness comes from and I would be suprised that anyone who goes through IF doesn't feel it at one time or another and feel the need to commiserate with understanding friends.

irishgirl0525

One other pet peeve of mine and I'm glad I didn't see this today... What we did different this month:  Insert how many times they BD'd, stood on their head after sex, ate pineapple core, drank pomegranate juice, etc, etc. 

Like, here is the key to solving your infertility. It's all right here, between my thighs and in my womb. Learn from me.

Ok, rant over and yes, I know I sound bitter, but I think FP is about to walk through the door, my beta is early in the morning, I'm prepared for a BFN and I'm over all of this right now.

lhcooper

Mrs.McIrish:

CousinVicki:

so, she is happy?  let her be happy.  You will want people to be excited for you when you get your BFP.  For some people it happens that easily (and she said this because she wasn't expecting it to).  And the PP that said "dont be happy until you are out of your 1st tri"  , way to be supportive!

Try to keep the bitterness at bay, geesh

 ETA: and she posted on the pregnancy board, NOT here.  so why march over there and burn her at the stake??

 

 I did not post anything to the poster. I commented over here to my FRIENDS that I have been commisserating with for a very long time.  I did not identify anythign specific, knowing that my friends would "get" it.  As for the bitterness,  walk in my shoes for a few days..

Hey McIrish, no worries, I believe she was talking to me about the posting.  I did do that -- guilty as charged.  And then I altered my post, but not my feelings about what the poster herself did.

benoitfan

Well, I stuck my foot in it and added my 0.02. 

MelleTX

Sounds like she just needed someone to point out to her just how special she is for getting PG on the first try. Yay her!

Naive! 

amandaleigh1

I would not even look at that post till now. I knew it would have pissed me off. I am not sure if I should say anything since others have already made appropriate comments. 

Are we supposed to give her a gold star or something. I hate gloating. 

lhcooper

benoitfan:

Well, I stuck my foot in it and added my 0.02. 

And quite eloquently, I'd say.

Llamamama

I had to go over there and see it for myself.  All I can say is WOW. 

lsgabriel

lhcooper:

benoitfan:

Well, I stuck my foot in it and added my 0.02. 

And quite eloquently, I'd say.

Agreed.

I don't lurk, but I had to after this thread. You have to admit, "I slipped on a sperm and got pregnant" is worthy of some eye-rolling.

owlprof

lsgabriel:

lhcooper:

benoitfan:

Well, I stuck my foot in it and added my 0.02. 

And quite eloquently, I'd say.

Agreed.

I don't lurk, but I had to after this thread. You have to admit, "I slipped on a sperm and got pregnant" is worthy of some eye-rolling.

hahahahaha!  This made my day!

lsgabriel

owlprof:

hahahahaha!  This made my day!

Thanks, I try 

lsgabriel

hijoi:

SIGGY WARNING

I just want to let you all know that I (very immaturely) wanted to e-claw her eyes out.  I refrained. But I would have ripped a hole in time and space had it been posted here. 

Still praying for you all, as always.

(And can I add the "let's be nice" BS always seems to come from the newbs.  Ever notice that?)

i will say this as a newb: I saw someone get attacked on a board before my first post. Took me another couple of weeks before I decided to join in the conversation.

While I don't think we will all be the best of friends, joining hands to sing We Are the World, it never ceases to amaze me how nasty people can get online when they would never be that way in person.  So maybe it's not, "be nice," but "be consistent."

lsgabriel

hijoi:

SIGGY WARNING

I just want to let you all know that I (very immaturely) wanted to e-claw her eyes out.  I refrained. But I would have ripped a hole in time and space had it been posted here. 

Still praying for you all, as always.

(And can I add the "let's be nice" BS always seems to come from the newbs.  Ever notice that?)

i will say this as a newb: I saw someone get attacked on a board before my first post. Took me another couple of weeks before I decided to join in the conversation.

While I don't think we will all be the best of friends, joining hands to sing We Are the World, it never ceases to amaze me how nasty people can get online when they would never be that way in person.  So maybe it's not, "be nice," but "be consistent."

mtlaurel

Yes, I had to sign off of TB all together yesterday when I saw that...

Country Girl in the City

irishgirl0525:

Between that post and the drive by BFP earlier today I want to slap someone.

I am glad that it bothered someone else too.  I thought that I was just being overly sensitive.

Mrs.McIrish

Country Girl in the City:

irishgirl0525:

Between that post and the drive by BFP earlier today I want to slap someone.

I am glad that it bothered someone else too.  I thought that I was just being overly sensitive.

It annoyed me too but I just ignored it...

ELF4321

And now she DD'd.  I think that's like the second one ever in the history of the PG>35 board. 

MrsJordanalmond

ELF ... you beat me too it!  i came running over here to report the DD!

 

pillowass

ELF4321:

And now she DD'd.  I think that's like the second one ever in the history of the PG>35 board. 

LOL!

I was up to my ears at work yesterday so I missed most of the fun. I did, however read the post in question and it made my stomach turn. I'm glad someone called her out over here, and it felt good to know that others had the same reaction.

Long before I entered the world of fertility treatments, I got pregnant and had a baby without any "help." Even back then, I had enough friends who struggled with infertility, miscarriage and other fertility-related heartbreak that I would NEVER shout from the rooftops about my success. I have to wonder how someone has lived 35 years and not acquired some sensitivity around these issues.

 

lsgabriel

MrsJordanalmond:

ELF ... you beat me too it!  i came running over here to report the DD!

 

What does DD mean? 

Country Girl in the City

lsgabriel:

MrsJordanalmond:

ELF ... you beat me too it!  i came running over here to report the DD!

 

What does DD mean? 

DD = dirty delete.  When someone says something stupid and then deletes it when they get called out.

Mrs.McIrish

ELF4321:

And now she DD'd.  I think that's like the second one ever in the history of the PG>35 board. 

LOL!!!