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MIL Vent too, or no vent, just not sure what to think
So DH and I are in talks to start trying for baby #2 and I told my mom who was super excited, she has wanted me to have another since hunter was born. I have told a few close friends who have been nothing but supportive as well. I tell my MIL that we are talking about it and she did not say oh that is great, she instead starts telling me how hard it is with two, that they will argue when they get older, the school work will be a nightmare and many other things as if she is trying to dissuade me from having another baby. I find it odd and I told DH what she said and he told me that she was maybe just trying to tell me how two children is more difficult than one, but he was not there and I swear, the tone and everything she said seemed to be intended to talk me out of it. No clue why, but very odd as she never said one positive thing about it.
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Re: MIL Vent too, or no vent, just not sure what to think
If only MILs did not have to exist in order to Have DHs....
She is projecting on you. Yes, having 2 is hard. Like double how hard you think its going to be and then triple that and maybe you will have a foggy notion. Yes, they will start fighting at an astoundingly young age. But they will also be best friends and love each other. I love my two and no matter what I am so happy I have them and would not know what to do if I didn't have them both and they didn't have each other.
My own mom is the MIL from hell. I think that as some women get older the joys of parenting start to fade and the bitterness sets in. Is having 2 children hard? Of course it is. But is it also wonderful? Absolutely.
not sure what to say about your MIL's comments, but I'm sorry she wasn't awesome and excited like she should be!
that being said, you know what was the hardest? going fom 0 to 1 kid. at least for me. so you've already cleared that hurdle, you're good to go sister! good luck TTC!