Can't we all just get along????

scyriacks

I thought this website existed as a forum to provide/get support to/from other mothers who are in a the same boat. I can't even believe the things that I'm reading. I even posted something a few weeks ago venting and asking for suggestions and got such a snarky answer from someone completely unprovoked. WTF is wrong with people?!?!?!?!?!  I have been reading all of this stuff about the whole CIO issue, can't we just agree to disagree?  I have my own style of mothering and what works for me doesnt work for the next person but do we really need to force our ideas on someone and if they don't believe in it, call them a bad mother?????? I use to think this was fun and a way to connect with other people who are in the same situation, and now I just read it and it gets me stressed out and annoyed. I'm starting to think that people don't have anything better to do so they just attack each other for amusement, no wonder we have a bullying problem in this country.  I'm done, just had to get that out there, let snarky replys begin

Sharon21

LaurenL977

I absolutely agree with you.  No snarky reply here.  I wasn't going to get involved in any of the drama I have been reading because frankly, I don't have the time or the energy.  I come on here and post and reply to others posts to give and get support and encouragement.  Message boards like this one have really helped me at times when I need it most.  I am not as fortunate as some to have real, live support that I can just call, so this is very beneficial for me.  Not everyone has the same parenting styles just like we all like different foods.  If it works for you, that is awesome!  I know that my family is ALL about finding what works for us, whether others agree or not, but sometimes it is nice to discuss our strategies or lack thereof with others.

traci823

I agree.  I don't usually get involved, but I am also shocked at the snarky nasty attitude that has taken over around here.  I usually just hit the back button and move on to a different topic.  I think everyone needs a good nap!

Twoweekwait.com is very supportive and friendly and snarky people tend to get weeded out.

So there you go flame away.

snoopy5512

CTGirl30:

I get your intentions, I do, but honestly these types of posts will never change things here and they tend to trigger the eye rolls (see above). Nobody is going to "see the light" and decide to keep her opinions to herself  even if they trend toward the inflammatory / not to criticize others / get off the soapbox.

Public forum = a lot of free speech gets excercised here.

Back out of the posts that annoy you and ignore the drama. Don't get involved in the posts that are getting you stressed out and annoyed. If you do, you're only bringing it upon yourself. There's plenty of info & entertainment here if you slog through the other crap. Your choice what you want to get from this site.

 I disagree.  I don't mind posts like this.  I also don't think that Public Forum=a lot of free speech.... I find that a lot of people use this as a place to be mean and bishy and are probably really unhappy and harpy in real life.  I would probably put good money that the meanest here are the most pathetic in real life looking just to stir the pot.

People only try to make others feel bad about their choices when they are miserable with their own. 

FlashMeyer

these posts always make me giggle.

M&D06

I understand where you're coming from but, like pp said, it's not going to change.  And, actually, these boards are TONS nicer than they used to be.  The Bump cracked down on things over a year ago and lot of people left (snarky and non-snarky alike).  The boards are kind of boring now.  I don't get people who are rude just to be rude but I do like some drama every now and then.  Differing opinions are going to cause issues when some can't leave well enough alone..that's online and in real life. 

scyriacks

i get what you are saying ctgirl and i guess my intent wasnt to change the world or say there isnt free speech, just dont understand what people get out of being so bitter and nasty to each other.   i dont mind getting the eye rolls, it just goes to proove my point.  i love to be nice to people and help them anyway i can because i know this can be a scary journey, and if people want to be nasty to me because of the way i am, i just feel sorry for them ( haha and no i dont live in a podunk peace loving town this actually comes from a nyc girl   )

Manateearmz

Alert the cops! A "shift" key has gone missing!

*grabs popcorn*

vilaro

These "clutching her pearls" posts give me the giggles.

OP -  "attacking each other for amusement" is practically written into the bylaws of message boards.

 

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Maryland Baby

I don't get it either. I think I have just about had it wit the bump.. I've never said anything bad yet people are getting bitchy. This isn't what message boards are about unless you just have issues and are looking for trouble.

and I don't have time to deal with the crap, I only came on here to help others and see what worked for other people that maybe I could apply too. Also, its my small amount of 'alone' time during nap time. I now find it pointless.

 

Totally agree with your post.  

LynsiBHM

No, we can't all just get along. That's life.  Try a local bookclub or something if snarky strangers on a public message board stress you out. 

I am not one to be intentionally cruel or start drama for the sake of drama, but i'm not going to walk on eggshells either. If a post bothers me, I close it and move on. If it sparks a thought, question or other response, I respond. I think that's the point... It doesn't have to be all warm fuzzies.

 

PS)  M&D06... your boys are SOO adorable!!!

skio

Come on. No, people can't all get along, that's why there's war and jail and good ol' fisticuffs. And open forums where people can be betches to each other and not have to answer for it.

I think these boards are for the most part exactly what you want them to be - supportive groups of women answering others' questions and sharing in motherhood. But people will disagree, and people will say unnecessary things to other people. You're not going to change it by complaining about it. If you don't like it, you can always leave. And I don't mean that bitchily (lol)...it's just the plain truth.

Manateearmz

buffaluffagus:

YOU DON'T KNOW MY LYFE! My mommy made me CIO AND she took the boob away at 3 months! BACK OFF!!!

She must've done something right, because you were able to find the shift/caps lock.   A real success story as far as I'm concerned.

sl_gordon

You haven't been around here very long have you? The stuff that's gon on here the last couple of days is pretty tame compared to some of the stuff that's gone down here. If only we could do a Bump year in review...

MsAng02

Looks like everyone gets along as long as CIO, Vacc, and Feety Grippers on Sleepers aren't mentioned.  LOL  

M&D06

LynsiBHM:

No, we can't all just get along. That's life.  Try a local bookclub or something if snarky strangers on a public message board stress you out. 

I am not one to be intentionally cruel or start drama for the sake of drama, but i'm not going to walk on eggshells either. If a post bothers me, I close it and move on. If it sparks a thought, question or other response, I respond. I think that's the point... It doesn't have to be all warm fuzzies.

 

PS)  M&D06... your boys are SOO adorable!!!

Thanks!   I've always thought your little guy is adorable too!

violaplayer

MsAng02:

Looks like everyone gets along as long as CIO, Vacc, and Feety Grippers on Sleepers aren't mentioned.  LOL  

 

Or circumcision. *ducks* 

LynsiBHM

M&D06:

LynsiBHM:

No, we can't all just get along. That's life.  Try a local bookclub or something if snarky strangers on a public message board stress you out. 

I am not one to be intentionally cruel or start drama for the sake of drama, but i'm not going to walk on eggshells either. If a post bothers me, I close it and move on. If it sparks a thought, question or other response, I respond. I think that's the point... It doesn't have to be all warm fuzzies.

 

PS)  M&D06... your boys are SOO adorable!!!

Thanks!   I've always thought your little guy is adorable too!

awww (love fest!) Thank you! My hubby claims he's incapable of having daughters so we always talk about our next son. I picture him and P being cute brothers like in your sig pic   I hope to someday have a girl too, though! Then they can beat up her boyfriends!

TobleroneBar

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

MamaViking

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

 

 

Ugly whiner FTW! Bahahahahahaha!  I fecking love you betch.

princess101

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

Is a "whinner" like a "whiner" or different. LOL. Sorry..had to.

M&D06

LynsiBHM:

M&D06:

LynsiBHM:

No, we can't all just get along. That's life.  Try a local bookclub or something if snarky strangers on a public message board stress you out. 

I am not one to be intentionally cruel or start drama for the sake of drama, but i'm not going to walk on eggshells either. If a post bothers me, I close it and move on. If it sparks a thought, question or other response, I respond. I think that's the point... It doesn't have to be all warm fuzzies.

 

PS)  M&D06... your boys are SOO adorable!!!

Thanks!   I've always thought your little guy is adorable too!

awww (love fest!) Thank you! My hubby claims he's incapable of having daughters so we always talk about our next son. I picture him and P being cute brothers like in your sig pic   I hope to someday have a girl too, though! Then they can beat up her boyfriends!

I think dh is incapable of making girls too and I think he agrees even though I know he would love a daughter (and I wouldn't mind..I'm just used to boys at this point).  I've always said we would only have boys though, haha!  I not-so-secretly love being a boy mom.  

Adam&Eve07

Hahaha...your post is totes going to change the personality of this board. 

Oh and...

 

TobleroneBar

princess101:

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

Is a "whinner" like a "whiner" or different. LOL. Sorry..had to.

Dear Resident A$shat,

whinner is what you get when you're laughing at your own gif.  Yes, I laugh at my own jokes...betch 

princess101

TobleroneBar:

princess101:

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

Is a "whinner" like a "whiner" or different. LOL. Sorry..had to.

Dear Resident A$shat,

whinner is what you get when you're laughing at your own gif.  Yes, I laugh at my own jokes...betch 

Weird, I must have a gift to be able to spell properly and laugh at the same time. I didn't know people still used as$hat and betch...that's a blast from 2007. Ahh memories. 

kate220627

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

You are freaking disgusting. Can't wait for the day your LO tells you to go fist yourself.

thatgirl84

At the risk of sounding like a therapist:

No one can make you feel any certain way. This phrase may not have been used, but it is implied. A snarky post only annoys you, if you let it. I'm not going to let someone that I don't even know effect the way I feel, the way I parent, or my well-being.

It is an open message board. You will get horrible comments, someone trying to twist your words. and lovely little comments like "go fist yourself" (seriously?). It may be a fat, angry bald guy posting that. We need to learn to let it go, and not get worked up. But don't give up on TB. We have lots of supportive, informative moms here. 

TobleroneBar

kate220627:

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

You are freaking disgusting. Can't wait for the day your LO tells you to go fist yourself.

LOL, why wait for LO? I just hope that DD can utilize such a classy phrases when dealing with cvmdumpsters. While I work on making sure she can properly spell, you can chow on my ass.

TobleroneBar

princess101:

TobleroneBar:

princess101:

TobleroneBar:

OP...go fist yourself.  Cause you're an ugly whinner

Is a "whinner" like a "whiner" or different. LOL. Sorry..had to.

Dear Resident A$shat,

whinner is what you get when you're laughing at your own gif.  Yes, I laugh at my own jokes...betch 

Weird, I must have a gift to be able to spell properly and laugh at the same time. I didn't know people still used as$hat and betch...that's a blast from 2007. Ahh memories. 

I'm bringing it back...