I am disowning my ILs

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Seriously. I've had issues with my MIL (some of you might remember, she's the one who called me the N word), with DH's step-grandma (the one who was trying to feed DD whole turkey FROM A KNIFE on Turkey day), and other random spats with other family members; but I thought I could trust his aunt, because we've always gotten along- NOPE. The whole lot of them are bad, rotten eggs, just BAD people, and I'm finished.

Here's the recent drama: We were given great tickets to go see Wicked, and DH's aunt and her mother begged/offered to babysit. 4 hours we were gone, dinner, the show, and back. I left with them (and verbally reiterated) explicit, simple "rules" such as "ONLY feed her the pumped milk and the purees that we're leaving, she should drink at least most of the bottle and some food." "Please do not let her cry alone" and "if she falls asleep please lay her on her back." Really simple. They reassured me "Of course, absolutely, Everything will be fine, go have fun," blah blah. They were so excited to be watching her, and even I was convinced she'd be okay for a few hours. So we went, and we did have fun, a great time actually.

Then we picked her up. She was a MESS. Hot and sweaty and hoarse from screaming because she had been set down and left to "fuss." Hungry because she had only been given about an ounce of banana, the entire time, and no milk. They said they "stopped trying to feed her because she wanted to play." Right. Then apparently they gave her a bath, and put old-lady lavender lotion on her legs; seriously?! She already has sensitive skin, thats why they make baby shampoos, and who in the heck said you could bathe her?! She wasn't even dirty! It gets better: Aunt gave her Cocacola. WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND GIVES AN INFANT COKE?! I was so angry I couldn't even speak. She was so miserable I just cried with her. To top it off they were trying to tell me that I need to stop nursing her "because obviously her tummy hurts and she's stopped up."

I am finished with these people. DH keeps apologizing for convincing me DD would be fine with them, but I am DONE. DD and I will be doing every holiday for the rest of forever with my family ONLY, and I told him as soon as there is an opening for his job in another county, we're taking it. No more "politeness for the sake of civility." No more "give them another chance." No more nice girl. These people are the trash of the earth, and I'm thankful that DH was removed by CPS as a kid and raised by friends, becuase otherwise he could have turned out like these people. Good riddance. Thanks for letting me vent; it's a little bit too late to call my mom, my regular go-to listener, and I had to let this out.

JenniCollins

And I thought my in-laws were bad.  I would be so pissed if somebody gave my DD coke! 

Nicki Boston

Holy cow.. 

I think I'd feel the same if that happened to me. Obviously not baby people.  

Hope2Have

Oh. My. Goodness. A bath? I am VERY relaxed with Hadley and letting people keep her, but would be livid if someone up and gave her a bath without my asking them to do so... just one of those things that's not necessary and something I want to be in control over. And coke? Seriously? So sorry for you having to deal with them!

Just remember, she won't remember it...

IrishEyes0530

Wow. I'd be pissed too! I'm sorry you have to deal with such awful people, I don't blame you one bit for wanting to cut them out of your lives! And that's wonderful that your DH is on your side with it!!

Bexxy10

Oh my goodness, my heart rate is up just reading it, I can't imagine being in it.  I would have just cried too.  Frustration brings me to tears, and when it's your child and possibly your childs safety is worth your tears.  Not to mention she's old enough to wonder why she's being left to cry and be hungry.  I would have probably lost my cool.

JNBrickey

Um, you deserve a medal for making it out of there without going nuts on any of them.  I am livid for you, I can not imagine the rage that would have put me in if it were my child. 

I don't blame you one bit for crying with your baby.  Geez.  Really, I can't even come up with words to console you because that's just nuts.

mamabear0411

Wow just wow!! I consider myself to be an exceptionally laid back person, but I probably would have gone crazy had someone given my infant coke!! My DD2 is super sensitive to all lotions, certain diapers, EXTREMELY sensitive skin so I would have been pretty upset about the lotion thing as well.  

I remember when DD1 was 2 (maybe close to 3??) and she was drinking out of my MIL's diet coke like it was routine and I flipped and she wasn't 8 months old!! 

kari11w

Holy cow. Yep, I would be done too. My head would have exploded and I am sure I would have said a few choice words to them.

snowybride08

I can't blame you for feeling the way you do (and crying with LO).  That sounds horrifying.  I don't think I would be forgiving them either.  Good luck to you - I hope your DH supports you.

shaindelr

I'm so, so sorry. I'm glad your DH is on your side!

laurakaz13

I would have been gone the moment the "n" word was uttered out of their mouths.  So in my opinion you're a saint for even trying after that. 

amy21tom

That is a nightmare! You have every right to do what you need to. I wouldn't give them another chance either. No way!!

SLSeibert1

Are these people for real?! I am totally with you girl, my DD would NEVER see people like that again!!

BeetleLinz1125

laurakaz13:

I would have been gone the moment the "n" word was uttered out of their mouths.  So in my opinion you're a saint for even trying after that. 

Dani0701

OMG! You poor mama!  I feel so bad for you and DD!  You do what needs to be done for you and your family.  That's a tough decision to make, but they definitley went over the line!  So sorry that happened to you guys!