Second pregnancy seem much harder than first?

Jessimurph

I have been having a rough pregnancy.  I did sit behind a desk 8 hours a day during my first pregnancy and was able to rest and nap.  This time I am a full time mom to an almost three year old, so this may be the big difference.  This time I just haven't felt well the entire time.  I am constantly out of breathe, dizzy, uncomfortable....more aches and pains than the first time.  The morning sickness was MUCH worse this pregnancy.  The majority of women that I vent to say their second pregnancies were harder than the first.  

Does this seem to be true for everyone else?  I really want three children, but this pregnancy is making me second guess if I'm able to be pregnant while caring for two children.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

Mrs.Wifey318

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

This is exactly how I feel.

Ruby_Soho

Mrs.Wifey318:

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

This is exactly how I feel.

Me three! I have a 17 month old so thank god he still has at least a 2 hour nap daily. I only got to 35 weeks with him so being at 38 weeks pregnant is something new and alien to me. I'm not enjoying it much at all. I was awake for about an hour last night with contractions that led to nothing. I'm SO looking forward to having an outside baby but also a little worried if it's going to be even harder to cope.

hulaqt

ABSOLUTELY! Not sure if it's just the second pregnancy, caring for a toddler, no sleep, etc....but definitely not as easy as the first!

Imagine what a third would be like?? No thank you!

klynch_us

Mrs.Wifey318:

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

This is exactly how I feel.

 

DItto! 

Galway2003

Yes, it is much harder.  I am more sore.  My pelvis kills and I have no time to relax being a stay at home mom to a 2 year old.  I couldn't imagine a 3rd time but maybe if my 1st is like a 5 year old it might be better!

LDQAM516

My second pregnancy was a lot harder than my first...and I thought this one would be even harder than that.  Granted the first trimester was the hardest this time around...once we got past that...it has really been a breeze and I still feel great.

Cinco

My second pregnancy was much harder than my first, but my third has been the easiest thus far! You just never know

janbrady

I've gained a lot less weight this time around ("only" 40 versus 60) so in general I feel better. Also, by being so active all the time I think I have more energy. I was a lump last time.

I will say that I'm a mega b!tch by the time DH gets home!

cabee310

I agree! This pregnancy has been horrible. I am sore and tired and can't do 1/4 of the things that I could with DS1 at 40 weeks. I can't believe how much different this is. I know 3rd could be great, and I did want 3 until this one, now I am sure 2 is enough. I cannot do this to myself again!

LuckyBride06

Yes this one is way harder! I got to rest more with #1, but now I'm constantly entertaining a 2 yr old! I do nap during his naptime, but I just notice that I have less energy, more aches and pains, I'm more uncomfortable... My midwife said that it's extremely common for your body to not take the 2nd pregnancy as well.

diana.filipi

I told my OB how much more pregnant I feel this time around and he assured me he hears that often from 2nd timers ;-)

Currently my back is out and it hurts SO bad.  Baby had a growth spurt and I guess I overcompensated and threw my back.

aglenn

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

This is me as well.  The physical stuff I can deal with OK (although it is not fun), but I feel like I have no coping skills left at all.  The mood swings and irritability and feeling just DONE with the world...all of that is really hard on me this time around.  I feel like I am not being as patient with DD as I should and it makes me sad.

ryry1977

This one is actually easier than the 1st.  While I am  chasing after a 2 year old...he does still nap once a day for at least an hour (so I nap too usually).  The acid reflux is still happening, but not nearly as bad this time around.  I would say that I am more sore...but that might be the same actually.  Morning sickness was about the same, didn't have it bad either times.  So overall I would say this 2nd pregnancy is the easier of the 2.

l_elizabeth

I agree with every single post here, pregnancy the second time is a zillion times harder. The first time I didn't show until I was 6+ months pregnant, I felt better, wasn't as tired/emotional/stressed. This time-- between the emotional meltdowns, chasing my 20 month old, trying to keep the house clean, it's SO hard. I've never been at such a breaking point as I am right now. Thank god my c-section is on Thursday!!

And we contemplated three kids-- not after this pregnancy!

NiniJ55

Absolutely true for me also.  Hang in there!

treble_clef

It's been easier for me in some aspects.  My son is already 4 1/2+, so he can do a lot by himself, and he's been a HUGE support for me.  It's like having 2 supportive husbands:)  The morning sickness sucked big time, and I didn't have it at all with my first, but when I was pregnant with my first, I was living in a fear of another miscarriage, and I went through preterm labor, bedrest, etc...  This time also I was misdiagnosed with a blighted ovum, and it was terrible, but my son was so sweet to me, and I feel that we bonded more, if that's even possible:)  

goldenleaves

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks 2 kids sounds like the perfect number after this is all said and done. I feel now like I did 35+ weeks last time.

ckemble88

I now have no desire to have a second!! Lol. FTM, and this pregnancy has been really hard! I'm counting down the days to EDD! 

roxyu

During the first trimester it was much harder, but now I'm doing great.  I feel bad that I can't toss her around in the air and run around with her as much, but I feel like this one is going by so much faster, (knock on wood).  It also helps that I haven't gained near the weight I did the first time around so I'm moving well.

Lilena

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

 

This.. 1000 times this. Sept' I have a 10 month old whom is now cutting his 9th tooth. I'm glad they are coming in so fast so I can get it over with but ugh... It just seems to never end!

QCinOct

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

exactly. I feel like a terrible mother for relying on TV to babysit DS occassionally, but sometimes, I just need to put my feet up. I have no idea how people have more than 2 kids. If we weren't set on stopping at 2, this pg would be the deciding factor

ghdst1

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

I took for granted all the time I could go lay down and relax when I was pregnant with #1.  I have a 2 year old now that keeps me on my feet.  I'm a lot more tired this time around, I just don't have the energy emotionally and physically anymore.

I have been experiencing this exactly as well....I also have noticed body aches and pains happening sooner with #2 than #1 and that has made it more difficult.