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Sad.. :(

Chapter79Chapter79 member
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I know you guys don't know me all that well, so I hope you don't mind a little sad "vent" (not so much a vent, but something I need to get out..).

My very best friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer. She found a lump a bit ago- after various testings and things done on her, she was diagnosed with cancer. She's my age, just 32 years old.  Her mother has also had breast cancer (and is in remission now).

I'm just so sad for her, and so scared right now. I've had a cousin go through breast cancer, but we're not extremely close.. my best friend is like my sister. And, she lives 4 hours away right now (she moved last year for her job) and I just want to go give her a hug, hold her and tell her to be strong.. and I can't do anything more than call her, and keep texting her to try and make her smile.

It was caught very early (although it's likely she will still need radiation and possibly chemo, I'm not actually sure of her treatment plan right now) so I know she'll get through.. but no one likes anyone so close to them to have cancer, and to have to suffer through this.  She's also very educated about it all (because of her mom) and sometimes that's even scarier.. because she remembers clearly the struggles her mom had and how she reacted to treatments.

I'm just bummed right now. It's not about ME, it's about her- I know this.  The selfish part of me, though, is having a hard time coping with the diagnoses. I feel incredibly awful for her, and wish I could take it away...

If you all don't mind.. keep my friend Jill in your thoughts as she goes through the battle. I would appreciate it more than you know :)

E+C
(+ hers and his, ages 13 & 8)
TTC
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  • femmegemfemmegem member

    I'll definitely keep her, and you, in my thoughts. (((hugs)))

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  • tammy79tammy79 member
    So scary, sending lots of prayers her way ;(.
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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    It is always very hard to watch a close friend go through this.  I have had to be the one watching someone twice in the last few years - one of my DH's very close friends and a co-worker, both in their 30's and both with young kids.  It is heartbreaking.  Both of those women had cases that were very agressive but caught early and both are doing great today.  Hang in there and keep her in your thoughts - send her text messages often and call her but also send her real cards and flowers and anything else she would like and would help lift her spirits.  4 hours is really not that far away - see what arrangements you can make to go spend an evening with her as it will help both of you I am guessing.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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  • penguingrrlpenguingrrl member
    Tons of healthy (((vibes))) for Jill!
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  • ilovemygirlsilovemygirls member
    I'm sorry- that would be really scary.  My bff just had a scare of that nature recently & it ran through my mind how horrible it would be to have to have her go through that.  Luckily hers was nothing, but it's still even just a scary thought.  Sending good thoughts/prayers.
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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member
    Thank you all so very much, I really appreciate it.
    Her spirits are high today and she's strong, so I need to be too :)
    E+C
    (+ hers and his, ages 13 & 8)
    TTC
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  • Mrs.TonyMrs.Tony
    I'm very sorry about your friend. Hugs!
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  • mgfit1mgfit1

    I am so sorry about your friend.  I just went through breast cancer myself - in fact it was 1 year since my diagnosis this past week.  I did all ths surgeries and had chemo.  I just had my last surgery this past Friday.  It is a long, scary, lonely road.  My BFF lives 5 hours from me.  I am so blessed as she came for my big surgery and took care of me to help my DH.  She came for my last chemo and she came again for my last surgery.   She has been so supportive and it has meant the world to me.  I have been blogging my experience here: (in case it helps)

    https://breastcancerwontdefineme.blogspot.com/

     Also pass along to her that I was able to keep my hair through chemo with cold caps.  Many people don't know about them.  My DS doesn't even know about my cancer...he never saw me looking different or sick.  Another thing I will tell you is chemo is not as bad as it was years ago.  I felt pretty OK for most of chemo.  I exercised every day and never took one pill for nausea.

    My heart goes out to your friend...I understand what she is dealing with.  I will pray for her.

    Hugs!

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