Remembering a Friend's Loss (SIGGY WARNING - DCs PIP)!

JenCW

First, let me say thank you to you ladies for the opportunity to ask a question.  I respect the safe place that this board is for all of you, so I hope it is OK that I am here briefly.

I am getting ready to send a gift to my friend whose daughter was born still two years ago.  They are collecting books to donate in her name.  I'm going to include a card with mine.  I bought a pretty, blank card, and I was going to write my own message to them because I couldn't find anything that seemed appropriate.  Should I make it a 2nd Birthday message to the little girl, or is it better to make it a note to the parents?  What type of card would you prefer to receive - birthday or thinking of you?  I really want to honor that it's her birthday, but I don't know what's best as the years pass.  (If it matters, I have sent cards, emails, gifts in the past, so this won't be the first time they are receiving something from us).

I am so sorry for each of your losses.  I wish with all my heart that no mother (or father) would ever have to experience the loss of their precious child. 

Petunia844

Your friend is lucky to have you.  Personally, I would be happy with either as long as if you write it as a note to the parents you make note of the birthday.  It would mean so much to me to know that Peyton's birthday is still remembered by my friends two years from now, having people forget him is one of my greatest fears.

Auki13

addegeorge:

Your friend is lucky to have you.  Personally, I would be happy with either as long as if you write it as a note to the parents you make note of the birthday.  It would mean so much to me to know that Peyton's birthday is still remembered by my friends two years from now, having people forget him is one of my greatest fears.

My thoughts exactly! 

hewinked

Agreed with the other ladies.  When my son's 1st birthday passed, I received both sympathy cards and cards rememebering that it was his birthday.  I appreciated both, but knowing that his birthday was remembered meant a lot to me.  Kudos to you for being a good friend!

weddedwife

That's really nice of you. I can only hope that I have a friend who remembers Nathaniel's bday. I'm with the other ladies; I fear that my son will be forgotten.

And thank you for treating us so respectfully 

BeccaMarie

I agree with the other ladies. I will say though, that my brother wrote a letter to Carter in a card. It was addressed to him and everything. It is by far one of my favorite things we received.

mrsnapaluch

addegeorge:

Your friend is lucky to have you.  Personally, I would be happy with either as long as if you write it as a note to the parents you make note of the birthday.  It would mean so much to me to know that Peyton's birthday is still remembered by my friends two years from now, having people forget him is one of my greatest fears.

 

THIS 

JenCW

Thanks so much for your responses.  I ended up writing a birthday letter to her - that was such a beautiful idea from BeccaMarie.