16 mo old having trouble with new babies

Vraechel

I gave birth to twins about 3 weeks ago. It was a tough pregnancy involving several hospital stays totaling around 6 weeks. My daughter had a bit of trouble with this, but grandma and grandpa visits really helped distract her. Now the babies are home from the hospital and she LOVED the babies at first. The past two nights she's woken up hysterical in the middle of the night, When pick her up she clings to me and has a HUGE fit if I try to put her down. Of course after about an hour of this my newborns need fed and changed, This makes her crazy. She screams and tries to crawl over them to get to me. I tried letting her cry it out for a few mins, after 2 mins she was so worked up she threw up. Suggestions? 

MammaBear81

Can you tend to her while your DH deals with the twins for a few nights?  She probably just needs to be reassured that you are there for her when she needs you.  Hopefully this will pass soon!  GL!

Vraechel

Thats a great idea, except that my husband is in the navy. When he's home he can help but he is currently standing watch on the mid-shift so he's not home when all this fun is going on He has a few days off coming up...Hope this middle of the night thing ends then.

 

MammaBear81

Vraechel:

Thats a great idea, except that my husband is in the navy. When he's home he can help but he is currently standing watch on the mid-shift so he's not home when all this fun is going on He has a few days off coming up...Hope this middle of the night thing ends then.

 

GL, do you have any friends/family members around that can volunteer for a night or two?  Maybe they can take over when your DH's few days off are up if your older one needs a few more "reassuring nights".  My DH isn't in the Navy, but he has worked night shifts before and doing it alone is never fun!  I'm sure it's super hard with twins but spend as much one on one time with the oldest when possible, even 5 minutes goes a long way at that age.

Ruby_Soho

I agree with PP. Get as much one on one time as you can with her during the day. Get her to help with the twins, bringing nappies, clothes, toys etc. Lots and lots of praise for all positive interactions. Even get her helping with chores (if you're doing any yet!!!) like tidying, dusting etc. If you go for a walk with the twins in the stroller, wear her in a front pack so you get some cuddle time in and can chat to her. All those little interactions will help her get her fill of you. Good luck.