ET on Saturday

lhcooper

Hi all -- so, I haven't been writing a lot of my own posts lately; not sure why that is, maybe it's because I save it for the DE check-in on Tuesdays.  But it's Thursday, and I have an update: as of today, day 3, we have 3 growing embryos (sorry, I hate the word "embies" for some reason): 13-cell, 10-cell, 9-cell.  The 13-cell may be abnormal because that's a little fast (the doctor commented on it when it was 6 cells yesterday and said he's not used to seeing that on day 2).  Or maybe it's just ready to go to college already?

Anyway: I leave early tomorrow for the out of town clinic; transfer is at 11 am on Saturday, east coast time (with acupuncture scheduled for right before and right after).  Think good thoughts right around then! I am hoping there will be one perfect blast to transfer and I won't have to think about transferring two (even though it will be hard not to transfer two, emotionally speaking).  

 

 

brooklynesque

Good luck on Saturday!  That's great that you have three embryos growing. 

owlprof

Oh my goodness!!  How exciting!  I have been thinking about you a lot, and it sounds like things are going great!  Wishing you all the luck in the world!

BeckyP005

Yay...that's great! Good Luck on Saturday!!

Mrs.McIrish

Yay!! I praying this is the answer to your dreams and that one ( or 2) of those embryos is your destiny you've been searching for!! I will be thinking of you on Saturday. Much love to you Hon!!

happywifemomofone

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

BeckyP005

happywifemomofone:

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

I know...isn't that the truth.

arevere

Good luck! Good luck! Good luck!

annalisel

Good luck Saturday. I'll be thinking of you. May all your dreams come true.

winidpu

Wish you much luck this Saturday.

lhcooper

BeckyP005:

happywifemomofone:

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

I know...isn't that the truth.

I really appreciate the good wishes, but I'm not quite sure how to take these two comments.  DH and I are both academics at state universities; we are doing ok, but we have virtually no savings, and we had to think long and hard before taking out a $35K loan for DE since we are totally OOP.  (In fact, we could only do our one-time IVF because my generous mother, desperate for a grandchild, helped us out).  Paying this loan off over the next 5 years means going without a lot of other things.  It will also probably mean that our hoped-for child needs to get a scholarship to college, because we will certainly not have those savings.  This is also the reason that we are doing a shared-risk, 100% money-back guarantee program that is out of state, which is why we only have 3 embryos to work with right now rather than the usual 8 or more that one gets normally with DE.  We need to get the money back if it doesn't work.  This is not a "let's spend over $15K and if it doesn't work, too bad," kind of endeavor we're engaged in.

Sorry if I'm misunderstanding the nature of your comments; I may be oversensitive at the moment from too many hormones.  Because again, I do really appreciate the support.

MelleTX

Coop - I am so excited for you. I can't wait to hear how it goes. Best of luck to you on Saturday. I will be sending you many thoughts and prayers.

I understand your sensitivity to comments about money. but please don't let it make you feel bad or wrong. I think it's on all of our minds - how much we have already spent, how much more we will have to spend, and then what happens if that doesn't work? But we each do what we feel we are capable of. The last thing we should ever feel is that our hopes of having a child depends on how much money we can beg, borrow or steal - unfortunately it's also a sad reality for most of us.

(Unless you are Alexis Stewart who spent something like 40k per month - yikes!)

But it sounds like you and your DH made smart decisions about what you could and couldn't handle financially and then pursued options from there. Although you don't owe anyone any explanations on your choices!

owlprof

lhcooper:

BeckyP005:

happywifemomofone:

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

I know...isn't that the truth.

I really appreciate the good wishes, but I'm not quite sure how to take these two comments.  DH and I are both academics at state universities; we are doing ok, but we have virtually no savings, and we had to think long and hard before taking out a $35K loan for DE since we are totally OOP.  (In fact, we could only do our one-time IVF because my generous mother, desperate for a grandchild, helped us out).  Paying this loan off over the next 5 years means going without a lot of other things.  It will also probably mean that our hoped-for child needs to get a scholarship to college, because we will certainly not have those savings.  This is also the reason that we are doing a shared-risk, 100% money-back guarantee program that is out of state, which is why we only have 3 embryos to work with right now rather than the usual 8 or more that one gets normally with DE.  We need to get the money back if it doesn't work.  This is not a "let's spend over $15K and if it doesn't work, too bad," kind of endeavor we're engaged in.

Sorry if I'm misunderstanding the nature of your comments; I may be oversensitive at the moment from too many hormones.  Because again, I do really appreciate the support.

Or your little one can always play a niche sport and get a scholarship. My husband and I joke about raising a little fencer or equestrian. Bonus if we have a little girl (see Title IX) who can overcome her parents' lack of athletic ability and coordination!  

 

shyntrue

Good Luck!  I will be thinking good thoughts!! 

mtlaurel

Great news! I'll be thinking sticky thoughts for you tomorrow. Good luck! Oh, and,  that 13-cell on day3 is pretty interesting - I've never heard of more than 10 cells by then.

MelleTX

owlprof:

lhcooper:

Or your little one can always play a niche sport and get a scholarship. My husband and I joke about raising a little fencer or equestrian. Bonus if we have a little girl (see Title IX) who can overcome her parents' lack of athletic ability and coordination!  

 

This cracks me up. I always thought if I REALLY wanted to be an Olympic star, I would have to pick up one of those niche sports like Curling.

I would never push my child to do something he wasn't interested in, but they do need direction when they are young and I have no idea what direction I should steer my future super-stars. Well-grounded, smart, mature, child actors? 

mtlaurel

lhcooper:

BeckyP005:

happywifemomofone:

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

I know...isn't that the truth.

I really appreciate the good wishes, but I'm not quite sure how to take these two comments.  DH and I are both academics at state universities; we are doing ok, but we have virtually no savings, and we had to think long and hard before taking out a $35K loan for DE since we are totally OOP.  (In fact, we could only do our one-time IVF because my generous mother, desperate for a grandchild, helped us out).  Paying this loan off over the next 5 years means going without a lot of other things.  It will also probably mean that our hoped-for child needs to get a scholarship to college, because we will certainly not have those savings.  This is also the reason that we are doing a shared-risk, 100% money-back guarantee program that is out of state, which is why we only have 3 embryos to work with right now rather than the usual 8 or more that one gets normally with DE.  We need to get the money back if it doesn't work.  This is not a "let's spend over $15K and if it doesn't work, too bad," kind of endeavor we're engaged in.

Sorry if I'm misunderstanding the nature of your comments; I may be oversensitive at the moment from too many hormones.  Because again, I do really appreciate the support.

I've been thinking about this this afternoon. I don't think the original comments were meant negatively. But, I understand your sensitivity, lhcooper.You are clearly making great financial sacrifices to do this, and these sacrifices will impact your ability to raise the child(ren) we're all anxious for you to have.

We're actually afraid to do shared-risk multi-cycle DE because of the extra expense that presents. And, we are looking at applying for credit cards with no-interest introductory periods for emergencies since we will basically wipe out our savings to do one shared DE cycle, and should we be lucky enough to have it work, we're going to have to scrimp and save like crazy in order to cover maternity leave... That money was meant to help us buy a house in a town with a better school system. We are already living without many things in order to make this happen, and we will continue to have live that way for quite some time. But, we'd rather spend that money on the option that offers us the best chance at success.

I don't believe that DE is only for those with a lot of $$.

irishgirl0525

Best of luck tomorrow morning, I will definitely be thinking of you! 

Edited to add I don't like the word "embies" either

lhcooper

mtlaurel:

lhcooper:

BeckyP005:

happywifemomofone:

So exciting!  Listening to all the ladies moving on to DE is making me wish I could afford to consider that as an option.  Thoughts and prayers are with you on Saturday.  Will be looking for you update after work.  Good luck!!!

I know...isn't that the truth.

I really appreciate the good wishes, but I'm not quite sure how to take these two comments.  DH and I are both academics at state universities; we are doing ok, but we have virtually no savings, and we had to think long and hard before taking out a $35K loan for DE since we are totally OOP.  (In fact, we could only do our one-time IVF because my generous mother, desperate for a grandchild, helped us out).  Paying this loan off over the next 5 years means going without a lot of other things.  It will also probably mean that our hoped-for child needs to get a scholarship to college, because we will certainly not have those savings.  This is also the reason that we are doing a shared-risk, 100% money-back guarantee program that is out of state, which is why we only have 3 embryos to work with right now rather than the usual 8 or more that one gets normally with DE.  We need to get the money back if it doesn't work.  This is not a "let's spend over $15K and if it doesn't work, too bad," kind of endeavor we're engaged in.

Sorry if I'm misunderstanding the nature of your comments; I may be oversensitive at the moment from too many hormones.  Because again, I do really appreciate the support.

I've been thinking about this this afternoon. I don't think the original comments were meant negatively. But, I understand your sensitivity, lhcooper.You are clearly making great financial sacrifices to do this, and these sacrifices will impact your ability to raise the child(ren) we're all anxious for you to have.

We're actually afraid to do shared-risk multi-cycle DE because of the extra expense that presents. And, we are looking at applying for credit cards with no-interest introductory periods for emergencies since we will basically wipe out our savings to do one shared DE cycle, and should we be lucky enough to have it work, we're going to have to scrimp and save like crazy in order to cover maternity leave... That money was meant to help us buy a house in a town with a better school system. We are already living without many things in order to make this happen, and we will continue to have live that way for quite some time. But, we'd rather spend that money on the option that offers us the best chance at success.

I don't believe that DE is only for those with a lot of $$.

I've been thinking about why I reacted as I did.  It was probably an over-reaction, but basically I think I felt like my happy post about getting to go to ET got a little hijacked into some running commentary about money--and with assumptions about my financial status behind those comments.  It may not have been intended, but it hurt my feelings nonetheless--less even the remarks about money, I think, than my feeling that that conversation the two posters above were kind of having with each other, and to which I'm normally happy to contribute my thoughts, belonged in another thread, not in the one where someone's made a happy announcement (for a change) about getting to move forward.  I recognize how fortunate DH and I are to even *qualify* for this tremendous loan; we've worked hard, but we've also been lucky, and I at least have had quite a bit of parental help along the way in my severely underpaid career.  All that said, I just wanted to announce my news.  Hope that makes some sense.